Ladies those posts regarding carelessness have sparked dsome curiousity.
What is the best way to tell your SO, that you want to part ways.
I usually just stop calling and become so distant that they kick ME to the curb, all the while telling me how small my dick is, how bad I was in bed and how selfish I was.
I can deal with this but if there is an easier way..somebody please enlighten me.

Well, there is always the very sincere approach of telling the truth! This of course will probably not be as exciting as having her call you names and hate you( soemtimes it is easier to hate someone ....so you can get over them faster).
I do think however that it is usually the least dramatic way to end a relationship. Here are some examples


classic..............
* "I love you , however I am no longer "in love with you".


* "I do not think I am capable of loving you the way you deserve to be loved"

* "I will always love you as a friend"

compromise............
* I am sleeping with your best friend.......we can stay together if your into the 3some thing?"


Kisses & licks.............
Mara  

They'll suffer any indignity and inflict untold harm just to avoid that.  Not an excuse, just a partial explanation.

so endearing at times.

You are warriors and soldiers sometimes, and yet cry like a baby when you're sick. Get in barroom brawls and play certain sports that forever damage your bodies..
but can't take confrontation.

It starts like this. "I've been thinking about some things; and I'm not really happy with how this is working and rather than prolong the inevitable and cause more pain or hurt feelings, I think it's time to go our own way..." or yada yada..

And the sooner the better! Hey, I've been single a long time, but I DO remember that the breakups or fights were always around the Holidays it seemed!

They may hate for all eternity and wish you would burn in hell. But if you are honest, then they cannot argue with it. It is quick but never painless for either side. Good luck.

when i get dumped -i hate it when they are laughing when they do it. and if you do it by phone-dont do it with a bunch of party music in the background. i always liked when they brought me food wheni got dumped.

don't blame or put your SO down.  Use "I" statements like, I am not comfortable with the path our relationship is taking...".  Try to part friends and on good terms if at all possible.

I've been divorced for 13 years and my ex and I are still friends even though she is remarried.  We even go to the kids school functions together.  Even if you don't hace kids, it's still better to be on goo terms.  It makes for a lot less stress and bitterness for everyone involved.

IMHO

"I've been single a long time, but I DO remember that the breakups or fights were always around the Holidays it seemed!"

  With all the pressure economic and emotional we have to endure this time of the year it's no wonder. At very least it's one less present or card to buy.

 & Yes; We do hate confrontation my friend. For some reason there is nothing more painfull to our ears or debilitating to our spine than the voice of a woman we have been intimate with now totally pissed off at us. There is a reason for the saying
       "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"

  Cm.

ability to keep your personal feeling separated from the kids. I have always felt that just becuase you were not good together as a couple does not mean you can not parent a child with love and security setting the children as a priority.

I commend you for your actions and I am sure you will see the results in many ways to come.

Kisses & licks.........
mara

We already have seen the results.  My oldest son, who is now 18 and has lived with me for the last 10 years, is now in college in Washington and doing very well on his own.  We can also see it in my other two boys, who live with my ex.

Sedona, honesty, when breaking up with someone, could deeply hurt her feelings, and create massive emotional imbalances, particularly if she is not strong.  At the begining of a relationship, it is not always possible to gauge someone's emotional strenght and health.

There are things in life that need to be buried deep inside and be kept private.  Straightforward honesty, in this case, can lead to suicide or other dangerous responses.  I am sure there are people on this baord who will testify to this.