I've been around this arena for almost 10 years and met some wonderful people, many of whom I still keep in contact with and continue to see.  I have written reviews truthfully and objectively.  I am never mean.  

Its happened twice where I write a review and I get a nasty email from the provider telling me something along the lines that I am an a-hole, completely wrong, need to get facts straight, need glasses blah blah blah...  But what is one to say when writing a review if not what actually happened?  If everyone is honest then nothing is a surprise.  Otherwise what's the point of these boards.  

If one posts unrepresentative photos, bad fakes or photos so old that its misleading as to what you are going to see when you arrive, what does one say?  If one posts that they are in their 30's and is clearly appears to be in their 50's (or any iteration of that) what does one say?

I have had the pleasure of being in the company of women of all ages, all races and so on and the only times I was disappointed was when what was used to lure me in was not what greeted me at the door...  The session may have been great but not what I was looking for.  Don't advertize that you're a BBW and turn out to be a waif etc...

In both cases I've replied to the hate mail but I am curious what the opinion of the board may be.

Looking thru your reviews u seem to have problems with the physical appearance as when u met a lady in person they don't look like their picture...Why don't u do a research very well or ask some gents that they had been with so as to save u time and $$$...

Good Luck on your search and Have an Awesome Holiday...

Indeed...

He is the one who wants & purchasing the Merchandise right???...
So i think he has to do his research if he wants to find what he was looking for in a Merchandise and not just rely on the picture......my .03...

don't take it personally, and don't let them know where you live

I agree with you, 100%. If you (as a provider) tell me you're 28 when you're clearly 45, I have the right to mention this. Just remember, some providers will get be really offended by you mentioning the obvious truth. If all they can do is send you an email, so what? If they know who you are, where you work, where you live...well, be prepared for the small chance of repercussions.

When "top" ladies get honest reviews pulled because they didn't like the 8 or 7.



Or, worse, all 8/9/10 reviews and a guy wants to be real saying "damn, that chick airbrushed the sh*t outta herself in every pic knocking off 10 years in the process... but i'm scared to leave an honest review with all the other high numbers. i don't want to be the one negative guy."


to which i reply
"there is one provider here and on other boards. a former client and friend told me he liked her but hadn't seen her in a while so went back. he did and it was AWFUL. total rob. well. he hemmed and hawed about putting up the review but finally did it. he got a lot of mail about it. some claiming similar experiences but were fearful reviewing with all the higher numbers prior. they said his review emboldened them for their submission of a review and BOOM after my friends review went up several more came up culminating with a 1 in performance for the most recent. no reviews since then (here)."



so the point of the story is BE HONEST and others will have the confidence and sense to do so as well. by rounding numbers UP or being too scared to put a lower number or even submit a review at all does a disservice to fellow hobbyists and the other ladies who have been reviewed by you or others.


don't let providers bully you into higher scores.
don't let providers offer specials for higher scores.
if a provider asked for a review, but that it must be 10/10: DON'T. how do you think those other 10/10's got there? leave a REAL review or NONE at all (but if there is misleading info like airbrushed photos, old or fake photos, poor service or straight up rob leave a review PLEASE).




you can review under an alias as well: say your experience wasn't ideal. log into your alias and leave the review under that. she will likely know it's still you but it can protect you from other backlash spreading to boards like with white knights and such.



anyway. sorry. long reply.

i agree: ladies need to not create a blog every time they get a sub par review. contact the reviewer and see if something can be done to improve his experience or to make up for it (most businesses are happy to try again if the customer is dissatisfied so i think in this biz it can be similar). ladies: a bad review is just that. a bad review. you can always try to re-meet the gent and make up for it or something so that at least you have tried to preform to the standard you hold yourself.


hugs, happy holidays
G

granted it doesn't have the same impact as when you use your "real" ter handle and no don't the provider will probably protest the review to TER.

...sometimes what folks will see are different.... from the same set of pics I've had one person say I looked smaller than my pics and one think i'm bigger and BOTH (imo) were wrong lol.  IJS.  I'm without a doubt a bbw ("smaller" or avg. bbw depending on perception) in my mind and accurately advertise as such but i've met a handful who might describe me only as "thick" *shrugs*.... and my weight never changes significantly nor the size 16 jean I wear lol. And I have brand new pics now and i'm still the same size in i've always been go figure (pun intended).

I did do research.  Looked at reviews and any and all photos available.  I maintain I did not have a bad session, it was just that the packaging was not as advertized.  Thank you for all the comments and input.

Diwata,  you come from a different place as your photos are representative of what you look like as is the age you post.  And I know this from many an enjoyable encounters with you..  ; )

This is about a review leucadiaGuy wrote about me CandyO very recently.  LeucadiaGuy.....My email to you wasn't a backlash....it was an email (be a man take responsibility for your actions you will get repercussions when you lie) from a very baffled woman who was stunned by a very deluded presentation made to a global community about her looks etc.  

Where do I advertise that I am in my 30's so sorry if you saw something somewhere that is incorrect....If I look in my 50's truly (everyone chime in please who agrees) I will gladly take my old ass somewhere else.  I've been around for 6 years it took you all of those youthful years of mine that slipped by to finally come see me WOW you shouldn't have done me any favors.  I wish your session would have sucked as you so sweetly make a point in the reply to my backlash that it DID NOT THAT IT WAS GOO and this GROSSLY misrepresentation of her age and appearance verbiage be null & void.  

10 years into this you know that the most damaging thing is that of a provider who isn't who she advertises to be.   That is more harming than saying I suck at sucking or whatever.....you are defaming my character here tampering with a reputation that has been stellar & if it were a possibility to seek action as in the real world one would do just as damaging on this side of life I would be all over it.  That's all I'm blown away & am dismayed as to why hobbiests are showing there true colors is money affecting you that bad that bashing us is how you get back.  I have to come up with something to rationalize such harmful nonsense.  

Oh yeah.....did you expect LOVE mail......my backlash hate mail was much softer than this post I have nothing to hide nor am I appearing as someone I would like to be or am an imposter.

I dread opening my mouth here as I have had great attacks from many anon on this board, but although I have not read the reviews, I think the profile is pretty clear, the lady whho I do not know at all is pretty clear as to her age and I am sure the other reviews are consistant. Where us ladies do take offense is when you delcare plain untruths , yes we are not all compatable but you have to understand that if you say things that are clearly NOT subjective, but false then its a little unfair.
Ok you dont click, but theres no need to embelesh things, thats all we say. I have my share of persons who I feel I have gone more than the ex evern I wouldeview,r what the rtetra mile, worked for an hour or more on a few guys who were not up to the task, BUT no mattter what the review would I never say things about them . You guys have a pretty one way street, we cant respond to reviews, (theres an idea to give prospective to reviews) I mean they have that on tripadvisor.

But anyway try to be honest and not just say things in order to make a point,

Happy holidays to you all,

lets have fun out there

Tara
xxxx

Your site says you are 37 my dear. That's where you advertise you are in your 30's.

I feel like I should let this go but I do not like the inference that I made this whole thing up.  I encourage you to read the reviews and even my reviews to see for yourself the manner in which I write.  I am not even posting anonymously.  She posts that she's 37 and her photos might very well be of a woman of 37 and maybe even of her from that time.  But no longer.  In person she is clearly not.   And I don't care that she is and or looked much older than her posted age.  What I do not appreciate is being mislead.  We did click, we did have a good time, BUT SHE'S NOT NOR DOES SHE LOOK 37!!!  I wasn't searching to see what I saw that day.  I have seen many mature women and enjoyed my time as I was looking for an older provider and got what was advertized.  

I did not embellish, fabricate or declare plain untruths in my write-up.  My review was accurate and my intent was to share my experience.  My impression of the review boards is that as a reviewer we are providing information for readers to make safe and somewhat educated decisions about who we are going to see.

I think its interesting that had I written a review that further propagated the ruse that no one would have said anything.

I feel for you man. I have had this same thing happen on another site and it sucked. I posted a less than stellar review and soon after got a horrible PM from the provider that was filled with hate, venom and only God knows what else. I fully explained every negative aspect of the date in the review and even pointed out that she was attractive, performed somewhat well, but had me waiting for 20 minutes in front of her place. She really went ballistic on me. If a particular provider and I don't click, I don't blame her. I simply state that we didn't hit it off and accept part of the blame if I believe I had my expectations too high for whatever reason. From what I have read, you did the right thing. It does not appear as though you were taking a jab, but simply being honest. kudos!!