Whas is the general opinion out there regarding getting seriously involved with your provider? How would you know for sure that she is really serious about you? Would you marry her?

Ummmmm.....no.

If you see enough in her to ask this question. Then hopefully you can trust her. We're all flesh and blood. Just sit her down and ask her how she feels. No games on your end. If you get games back, that should tell you something.

sorry to rain on any potential parade, but women that do this kind of work, even dancers, have a persona they have built up that helps them cater to to what men want, so frankily even if you have known them for years dont be to surprised if you dont really know anything about them, i really thing the odds of getting seriously involved with a provider would never happen unless she was gonna take you to the cleaners, i do realize that they are not bad people and all of this is just business, but they have to maintain a professional disstance, so why would they all of a sudden do a 180 degree turn and decide to get emotionaly envolved. if you were them would you.....not a chance

My experience was with the caveat that she'd start down a different path. Its easy to say that you want to proceed down a different path than what you're on. But they'll never make such an easy living by the $/hrs ratio. She got off that path but didn't get on a different one.
Take it slow if her actions don't back her words you must end it. Start cautiously, don't put more into it than what you're prepared to lose. As she gains your trust by simply backing her words with actions, put more into it. Learn to become a good listener rather than a fixer. Take it slow, no proposals.
I have no regrets and it lasted about a year (after seeing her for 4 years).
If you're loaded with dough none of this applies cause you're just/and always will be the sugar daddy.

O.K., here is another side of this story, I've been a 'provider' now for approx. 2 1/2 yrs., for the most part, I love what I do, I have really nice clients and have a lot of fun with them, it's not just a 'job' to me, I do have a good time with them and a lot of them have become just friends, believe it or not.  I am now very happily living with someone who started out as a 'client', I was with him a yr. before we moved in together and I quit charging him after about 2 months.  He is so much more than just a boyfriend to me, even if he never asks me to marry him, he is my family, my parents deserted my sister and I pretty much because of what we do, not that we mind, they weren't ever the best of parents, but this man has always been there for me, I don't mean financially either. I have only asked him for help in dire situations, I try to always make sure I have my own money and not to ask for it, although I must admit, lately I haven't been working wo much and have needed to ask for some, but believe me, I would support him if need be.  I love what I do, but I also know it is something because of LE, etc., he would prefer for me to go back to cutting hair, which I am doing at the present.  Yes, it's hard to quit making fast cash, and I for one really like doing this, but I hope he doesn't think of me how you guys seem to think of us.  We are all people, some good, some bad, like in all walks of life.

ya having read my previous post i did make a sweaping generalization, didn't meen to sound that way, so i applogize for that, if i sounded like i was knocking providers in general or lumping them all into one group, that was not my intention. on a personal note going through a very tough time right now and frankily i am not myself sorry to anyone if i offended them

I sincerely hope things work out for you...ti sounds like he sincerely loves you.  I always love a happy ending.

Mr. Self Destruct, thank you for your response to what I said, that made me cry,(I am getting that way a lot these days?) It was a nice thing for you to say, and mmmo, I hope things are going better for you today, you sound like you may need someone to really give a darn about you?  I think you sound nice and hope things get better, sincerly, also, I need to tell ISCOTT, Mike W., Adam, well there are a few to many to list, but thanks for being so good to me, if it weren't for men with hearts like yours, I never could have loved this business, I'll be leaving it in Sept. for a hair job here in O.C., but I hope to get to always stay in touch and see you. Love Kristi

but let us know if you decide to return. He's a lucky guy!

just wanted to wish you and yours the best kristi, and yes you hit the nail on the head, so i want to wish you and everyone else on this board the best, and to treasure the loved ones we have in this life

You are not the only one in a relationship with a former client.....be good to each other, you are lucky.