I've been stood up twice by the same provider. The second time was today. I scheduled a session a week in advance, and confirmed the session with the provider by email this morning. I don't know what I've done to cause this to happen. Does anyone have any thoughts?

Then we might be able to answer your question!

post her name. if she is a flake , get out and in the open.

You better get use to it as it happens much more often than we all care to admit. Take some solice in the fact there are many more ladies out there who do keep thier appointments than those who flake on you. But it is the law of averages, ...if you have been doing this long enough, you are going to get a few who do stand you up.  Unfortunately, it is the nature of the business.

However, I agree with the others that you should point out who this lady was so the rest of us know about her. That is the only way this forum will work for us.

-- Modified on 4/22/2006 9:40:09 AM

She's one of highly rated providers. So, that's why I'm confused about the situation. Her name is Amber of North County.

I almost did not bother responding to this thread  but decided to for one reason only.  This person fails to mention I call him the next morning, got no return call and explained to him that the day I was supposed to drive to see him, I had a client previous to him  who decided it would be more fun to DRUG me and ROB  me and my home while I was knocked out. So, I got ripped off, drugged, and this individual here that started this thread is then kind enough to send me my own personal hate mail delivered to my home address,and then since that apparently wasen't enough, decides to try and discredit me on the board. He fails also to mention that the previous time I saw him, I was extremely ill, called well in advance to tell him so but he pretended as if he never recieved my message, although I must have called him 6/7 times after I left my message as well.  So since he drove all that way, I felt obligated to see him anyway, even though I felt like shit. He stayed for well over 2 hrs, and even complained when I finally ended the evening but he was kind enough to leave me a 1 hr donation for at least 2 1/2 hours of my time.   No tip, not even my normal rate.    I apologize  for not making it to you for your 3pm blowjob, but obviously, was alittle PREOCCUPIED. I,  then spent the  better half of the  following day with some lame cops that so far have done pretty much nothing.   What else is there to say?    Can I be flaky?  Yes, and I apologize.   Believe it or not, providers ALSO have a life outside this hobby, alot of us are single with children, dealing with broken families and all the complications that go along with those types of scenerios.   I believe I do the best I can keeping in mind I'm not perfect and I do make mistakes.  Its never my intent to purposely stand anyone up, ever.
 One would think though that if he was someone that genuinely CARED about me as a person, he would have called to make sure I was OK, that I wasen't in a car accident, or something.  No.   Not a word but a nasty hate note in my mailbox and now this on the TER.    If I have ever flaked on anyone I can promise it was because of a situation out of my control, never done on purpose. This thread however, based on all the circumstances surrounding it, was malicious and with the intent of causing me harm in my business .  To everyone else, do what you will with this.  I have plenty of wonderful clients in my life that know me for the warm , loving kind individual that I am and men like this individual, are ones that I am far better off without.  Clue:  The men that get the BEST from me are the ones that treat me with respect, dignity, and genunine concern for who I am as a human being.  Men that treat you with no respect and act as if providers, like myself are here  to serve no more a purpose than a hole to fuck  are just the kind of men that I am not looking to "serve" If thats the case, look somewhere else. Thats not what I offer, and never will.  You can always try  crusing Coast Hwy for those types of women. The woman I am and the women I know on this site and many others, are FAR better that.  In fact , I believe all women no matter where they are in their life deserve to be treated at the very least human, with respect.   I offer a service, and a damn good one at that, but I also cater to a certain respectable group of individuals that actually care about women like  "us" and show us respect and genuine concern about our well being(s).  Men like you....   No thanks.   So, sorry our last time together didn't pan out, if it makes you feel better, it won't pan out tomorrow or the day after, either.  Your an ass.   Happy Hunting.    Amber      

-- Modified on 5/2/2006 2:26:52 PM

I have been a client of Amber's for over a year and have never had any issues with her "flaking" on me!!!  She is a warm, wonderful woman and provides a first rate service second to none.  While I have experienced "flaking" in the past by other providers, I completely agree with Amber that many of the women have lives outside the hobby that sometimes affect their ability to keep appointments.

I won't make excuses, but it seems to me that if an apology was given and advance calls were made to alert the gentleman in question of her health situation and he ignored the advance notice, he should take responsibility for his part in the debacle.

Don't throw Amber under the bus without having had the benefit of meeting her!!!  She is well worth the effort and has done nothing to me to change my feelings about her.

Just my $.02 on the matter!!!