In the last two weeks I've seen two providers, both new to me. The first puts me through her screening process, we meet and everything goes well, as reviewed. Afterwards while basking in the afterglow she say "hey I know you, I should have put it together sooner" Turns out she was the secretary of a once close business associate. I had talked to her many times in the past I simply didn't recognize her without cloths. Weird?
The second, just this week again after the session says "You play tennis don't you?" I say well yes, how did you know? She says "I've seen you at the club playing, are you a member?" I say yeah, are you? She says "yes I am" Then she proceeds to name about a dozen people that I know quite well that she also plays with. Wow, twice in two weeks!
How do I handle this now? Better yet do I go back and see them again?

Small World isnt it?
As for how to handle it, that really depends on the kind of person you are. In my shoes, I would proceed as I would with any other provider. Most providers that I have encountered have thr professionalism to maintain ones Hobbying activities in confidence, and not discuss such things when in the company of others.(I.E I can not see her walk by you at the tennis club and say "How about a nice long BJ ofter the game?")  Go back and see them again? Unless their are other concerns that I have missed, I would. It would seem the ice has allredy been broken: Run with it, and have fun.

                        Happy Feelings,
                                       -Das Cook

Yea Better milage

The answer depends on a few things....are you married or involed with an S.O. where you have something to lose? Among those dozen people she plays with, are you talking tennis or something else? This might reveal her ability to be discreet.

If you are a married guy and want to stay that way, I would steer away from both providers. Anonymity, discretion, and probabilities for being caught all seem better with a differnet set of providers. You have been reveled to these two as being a hobbysits, they have been revealed as providers. Those are good motivations for mutual discretion, but hey, why take the chance?

If you are'nt married, I say go back and enjoy them both.

and I feel these were (are) two very close calls for you. I'd be ever so thankful for the 'heads up' while you have it.

Hugs.

the hobbyist is at an extreme disadvantage since he will use his real name and the woman, rightfully so, hids behind an alias and a blurred photo of her face. Regardless once you knock on the door the gig is up, whether you stay or if you leave.

Great, another reason to not go into politics.

Reear one: it is sometimes difficult to play in your own back yard

I rarely play in my backyard and never in public, with one exception. There was this lady that set the ground rules without ever having to talk about them. If we were out having lunch, dinner or just a few drinks it was strictly business. No hand holding, no kissy face, nothing going on under the table, as a matter of fact we always sat opposite each other and didn't even play footsie. Always dressed conservatively, a real class act. Very, very discreet. Nothing that would give away what a wild and crazy time we had just had or what was still to come.

Once while having a few drinks on a patio at a golf course a few friends of mine unexpectedly happened by, one stopped to talk briefly and then went on his way. She was nervous that I had been caught. To this day I've never heard a word about it from any of them, and I see them quite often.

Thank you Sedona, it was quite a ride.

I have seen a few gents that I know from the other areas of my life.

One was an old teacher from H.S......I knew he was a naughty boy, even back then. The other two times I have recognized guys, I haven't said a word. Part of being discreet, in my opinion, is to not mention something unless it's brought to me first. My job is to make you feel comfortable with our time. If I brought up commonalities such as health club memberships or someone coming into my office, which happened today, it would make things uncomfortable in my opinion.

Depending on how you feel about her ability to be discreet, I'd pass.

xoxo
B

Another reason for us ladies to do thorough screenings... I have turned down more than one date because of already knowing the Gent from one place or another.  Without the demand of name and employment, a couple of those guys would have ended up with me on a date, and it could have been very embarassing for him.. or even me.

xoxo
Elise