I, in an utterly desperate and stupid move, agreed to a reduced rate appt.with someone I had had some contact with before. He seemed normal enough. He ripped me off. That isn't the problem. Thou it sucked to be ripped off when it was a low budget date already, it was when I IM'ed him and he responded with laughing in my face and that he wished he had seen me at the fair so he could knock my teeth in, and he usually beats the girls he sees--I freaked out. That I could be such a bad judge of character. I thought I had seen his handle on TER. If he is out there and this isnt him(the guy says he was on his roommates computer)please let me know and I will post another message. I just wanted warn anyone out there that may see him--he is nuts. I have the IM's copied if anyone would like to see that he actually wrote what he did. I didn't deserve this and nobody else does either. Someone, restore my faith in mankind.  Yours, Sexystephie

The important thing is that you are safe and sound, as it sounds as though it could have been a lot worse. It really stinks that you lost that income, but having you safe is most important, I know you know.
I'm so sorry this happened, and maybe the guys here can help you sort through it.

Don't despair Steph.  

That is one sick SOB.  Sadly, sickos are one of the many risks you face in this business.  I would be surprised if it is Slambig because he has a number of reviews and postings on this board, but some of the ladies he has seen are a better judge of that than I.  Perhaps you can PM them with a physical description and compare notes.  Whoever it is, he probably has sexual identity issues or other deep-seated psychological problems, and taking it out on others makes him feel like a real man.  

Frankly, I have been quite impressed with the overall quality of people who post on TER, and with the quality of the few ladies I have had the pleasure of meeting in this endeavor (save one).    

I'd give you a hug if I could.  I hope knowing you have the support of the many terrific people who are part of this community is of some comfort.  As Sedona said, the important thing is that you are safe.  My heart goes out to you.

Stephie, I'm glad you are safe and truly sorry to hear of your adventure.  Unfortunatly, both providers and hobbyists face risks in this sport.  Many hobbyists have been ripped off by providers who fail to deliver and other hobbyists while on a date have encounter a few of the provider's friends who wanted his watch, wallet, etc.  There are also hobbyists who have received phone calls asking for money in exchange for the provider not telling his wife or boss about his secret life.  Again, glad you're safe--there's a lesson in here somewhere for all about the dangers of our sport.

Stephie,

A money ripoff is one thing, a threat is intolerable. Slambig should be repudiated for his behavior. This conduct is wrong and harmful. You did nothing to deserve it.

I am happy you are safe. I agree that you "PM" other providers that may have seen Slam. When you have compared notes, you should post a description to this board to warn other.

Karma will eventually fall upon this thug.

best,
--bosco

Along with everyone else, I am happy to hear that you are okay, Steph. The rest of it is a bummer to say the least, but at least you are well and able to reflect on what happened. I've been on this board for a while and have seen slambig's handle attached to reviews and (I believe) posts on this board. It would seem odd, to me, if this were the same guy and this kind of behavior is just now surfacing. Unfortunately, there is no getting around this from happening on occasion, especially since the hobby must remain underground. It would be much easier to weed these people out and report them to authorities if we weren't still, with respect to the hobby, living in the dark ages.

I am curious if this slambig has a accent and is an engineer? did he insist for a long time to see you?
Please let me know I think I may have encountered him........only I errased all the messages and do not have a file to look up.
I am glad you are safe.........
mara

Thank you for the responses. You guys are great. And you have restored my faith.  But I got more bad news. It is the same Slambig. Or at least it is looking likely. And he is one sick mofo. I don't know how far I can go on here but I have a very young son and he threatened to do something noone should ever say. I do think it was to get to me otherwise I would have immediately called the police. He even went so far as to mention the school my son attends. But I think I am the idiot for that. I was talking about a carnival at my sons school, and it doesnt take much to figure it out from there. I am still uncertain of what to do. I don't care if my "occupation" gets me in trouble if I do follow thru with the authorities, I am just not certain that that will fulfill me.  I need help. And that guy he really needs professional help, I mean really. If there are any psychologists or psychiatrists on this board message me and I will send you copies because in all my studies with psychology(minor was in psychology)I never had the displeasure of meeting a sociopath. Anyways, any advice professional, friendly, legal? Here or my own  email whichever.  I would appreciate the input. And thanks a lot for the support.  And to anyone I have seen before I will make a special deal for you because for now I am afraid to see anyone new(without a personal introduction from someone I trust). As if business hadn't been bad enough. But if anyone can help it would be great.

I'm sorry this happened to you. All it takes is one bad apple. Hugs and kisses.

Steph was dealing with supposedly a TER regular. I don't think any of the providers who have multiple reviews posted on them have done any of the things you mentioned above to a client, and, if they did, they should be called out just like Steph is doing with Slambig. I have had contact with Slambig myself through PM, and I question whether it was actually him or not, but I sent my personal suggestions to Steph for her to pursue.

Also, even if some guys have been ripped off before, it doesn't make this guy any less of a prick, just like those providers were bad as well.

A year ago October, he was complaining about how an employee at "The Tubs" almost outed him to his *new* girlfriend, and he advised others not to take their S.O.s there.

In March, he was complaining about a provider calling his number even though he requested that she not (at least on her answering service), and said that he was married.

That's awfully damned quick to get married.  I think that somebody lies (I'm a liar, so I know one when I see one).  I also wouldn't be surprised if we never hear from "slambig" again.

Sexystephie, you must have some more contact information for "slambig" than his handle.  Perhaps you should post it for the world to see...nothing that cockroaches hate worse than having the light turned on.

Yes, something does smell rotten in the state of Denmark, and, between Steph's second post and what you said, it is looking increasingly like "Slambig, we never knew ye".  Sorry to hear that, because it makes us all looks bad.

I don't think the moderator could let Steph post much more info on Mr. Big without having to edit it, due to TER rules.  However, I bet Steph would be happy to share if you PM her.  

If Slambig is innocent, it will be interesting to see what he eventually posts.  All I can say right now, though, is "Mean people suck".

I have NO TOLERANCE for adults who make threats toward little ones.  There are ways to ensure you son remains safe at school.  Let the school admin know you are having trouble with an "ex" and want them to be aware of him if he was to visit the school.  Give a description of the "ex" to them and update your current contact info where the school can reach you at any time.  If he ever showed up, the school would then call the police to respond.  The school should then call you and well... you could report to authorities what your problems are from there.  Schools are good about working with parents and keeping the schools safe from psychopaths.   Best wishes.