Well I know this subject has been beat to death on these boards but I had to throw my experience out there, if for no other reason then to get it off my chest.  I have an ATF that is absolutely spectacular - to the point where she is almost too good.  She and I have great chemistry (by her admission) and she has done things with me that she doesn't offer other clients (overnight stays and traveling).  This leads me to my conundrum - I am starting to fall for this woman.  In the beginning I was able to seperate the physical and the emotional aspects of this relationship.  However, that line has become increasingly blurred to the point where it really no longer exists.  I have analyzed this and have reduced my options to three; 1.) Tell her about this and see if the feelings are reciprocated (at the risk of rejection and probably never seeing her again); 2.) Ending this myself because of the little voice in my head that says that it would never work anyway; 3.) Deal with my feelings privately and keep seeing her when I can.  I know this thread is redundant but any advice would help.

ok, so the risk/benefit for each of your options would be? -

1) wow - you two fall in love! do you think it will last?  do you care?  true love is blind.

2) what self-censorship!  you must be sane!  How could you ever love an escort?!  Will she still see other clients?  Will you?  You're going to have these feelings again about someone else (I hope), so be prepared for that.

3) What, keep secrets from the love of your life?  Denial just leads to resentment which leads to hate and yeck more yecky stuff.  Again, if not with this lady, I'd guess these feelings and this situation will arise again.

My solution to your question, as I understand it, was to not see a lady more than once, or so infrequently I had to reminder her and myself who I was.  This is another form of denial, and hasn't solve my relationship/personal issues, but hey, that's always option 3b.  But I'm satisfied, life is good, and wish I had your option 1, escort or civie or otherwise.

Have I told you to go for it yet?!  Take a stand!  Have some dignity!  hmm hmm hmmm good luv!  and Good Luck!  fahrkle

it does happen and could work out. One of my close friends in the biz is now married to one of her clients and as happy as can be, this business far behind her. It was not all wine and roses though, lots of tough decisions had to be made, and feelings have to be kept in check, but, they are now very happy. Are any of us so jaded to think an escort is going to remain an escort forever? The question is, do you have the balls to go for it knowing you could lose it all. Only you can answer that question. Good Luck...

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I do know of a couple of providers who are happily married and their husbands are fine with their chosen profession.  How would that square with you?

P.S. As an incurable romantic, I would emphatically choose #1.  Honesty is not always the best policy but as least you don't have to remember what you have or have not said in the past.

I am assuming that you have already tried to see different ladies periodically to keep your perspective on the hobby as opposed to only seeing your ATF.  

I don’t think you really have 3 viable choices because #3 is really not going to work very well.  Even if you succeed in dealing with your feelings privately, every time you see the lady it will be a combination of fun and pain because it will be like tearing the scab off a wound that never quite heals.

If you can deal with the possible rejection it seems like #1 is the probably the best way to go.  If she does not reciprocate your feeling then you end up in the same position as if you terminate the relationship as proposed in #2.  I think that the ladies in this business are pretty good about letting you know when they want to change the relationship so be prepared for the rejection.  But hey who knows she may reciprocate your feelings.  

The only exception to the above is if you truly believe that there is absolutely no way for this to work out in which case 2 would be the way to go.

Good luck whatever path you choose.

... their chosen profession.  Many whom I've befriended tell me that they lose respect for a man who supports their escorting, and would prefer that their man wants them to stop.  

Kind of a double-standard:  if we're gentle and acception of their chosen profession, then we are weak and allow ourselves to be walked on.  If we're against their profession and advise that they stop, then we're the mean and possessive boyfriend.

That's been my experience anyway, quite sadly.

Oh, and good luck to the man out there who can provide the "blank check" income to his provider GF that she's used to making in the business.  Remember, she's used to several thousand dollars per month for her and her only ....  are you in a position to offer this?