I was reading the question on the home page that asked if anyone has ever fallen in love with a provider and it seems that about 30% have. I was wondering if any of the providers have ever fallen for a hobbiest? I know its a lot dif for a woman than a man and this may be a stupid question but I have been with a couple of providers who really seemed to like me, even offering for me to come play when they didnt have customers.

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Doesn't seem to me that a provider would let themselves get in that situation. It would be like one of us having a relationship with a co-worker.  Things could get messy.  I never forget the beauty of this hobby is that's it's just that....a hobby.

I am one of those 30% +/- that have.  Yes it does happen both ways but be very careful. There is friendship and there is love. This is a profession which is hard to tell too many people what you are doing and is not well accepted by significant others. As it is secretive and hours unpredictable, friends are hard to keep and share details with. We all need companionship in one from or another.

Guys are pretty easy to satisfy and sex with us goes a real long way to holding a relationship together. Women need the sex as well, but for a provider that is really not a big problem.  Do they fake the big O, sometimes and sometimes it is for real.  What providers sometimes do not have is that person that they can talk to about things that happened that day, both the good and the bad and want a friend.

The problem I have run into is that you work yourself into that grey area where she likes you to much to charge you for it but does not love you enough to give it to you.  This has cost me some of my ATFs. As with any relationship, figure out the goals and desires of each side and see if the situation works for both of you.

It also takes a very understanding and confident man to know your friend or lover is standing you up to go have sex with another man. Some of us are kinkier than others, but be prepared it can be difficult.  This profession is a good income stream and most guys are not making the amount of money to make a provider walk away.  However, love is a strong emotion when it does happen and money is not the only issue at that point.

I did it once. Would I do it twice, not sure.  As always life is unpredictable and you never know what is going to be around the next corner. I am still friends with some and have absolutely no contact with others, even though I was willng to pay.

I too fell in love once and for the very same reasons.

But I have an ex-client, meaning I no longer charge him, and I just love to spend time with. He is some of the best sex and conversation I have had in my entire life...

I have many... does it counts?

I try not to, but I get these fantasies....

There is one that I see for my personal life I met recently met thanks to your nice reviews.  Not a love thing, but very very nice and also understands when I cant see him.  That is a plus. A sexy man with liberal mind.

so, little plumb fairie, you do know how to torture us, after all, don't you?  

That fine line between work and a personal life.  Am finding in my own BFE experience and PS corporate america service that some relationships come naturally.  Others you have to fight tooth and nail for.  Any one who has read your reviews knows you have a great capacity for compassion.  Hearing that your favorite provider is involved with someone in their personal life, it's kinda like when your favorite coworker leaves for another job, maybe.  You congratulate them on their new found success and let it be what it will be.

Is that the liberal mindset?  There's that story about the bird in the golden cage.  And yet another about a lady and a tiger, and a choice having to be made.

--point being, have I told you recently how much I appreciate you?  You GO GIRL!  You ROCK!

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Care to share a little more Ginger? What about this man separates him from the rest? There may a lesson here for us on just how to treat a provider in such a way that keeps the customer-provider relationship strong as well as develop a relationship of trust and respect? I'm looking for a regular, not a lover, but someone who will treat me with respect and maintain a responsive relationship(someone that enjoys my company).

However, I think the answer to this will vary by each lady.  If they were all the same, I'd probably give up the hobby by now.  Enjoy the unique aspects of each lady and just go with the flow without expectations!  

I can't speak for the ladies but I know I have fun if I look at it this way!

I would expect that most bad experience other than hygiene issues, stem from not meeting one's sense of expectations. The web sites, most times are inexplicit as they should be. The faces are obscured for protection. So how does one build that sense of expectation.  TER reviews is one answer but is the relative truth shown? Sometimes there are omissions. For example, if a provider shares (in dialog) that she cannot meet because of a STD problem, should that knowledge be shared on TER?  It may or may not be the truth, but may be important. Should that knowledge be shared?

Beside, I always wondered..Often a provider cautiously provides Only covered BJ while, she allows DATY. Should it be a two street on risks?