To all you experienced gentleman and very cool ladies:

Any tips for a new gentleman starting out? (I get asked this occasionally by some of the Newbies I meet and it seems that there are probably some very general bits of advice that could be passed on!)

Ideas....

1. Read just about every single section on this site. Take your time, don't rush into anything, and then read some more. (If you need a break look at some of the hot photos on the ladies' web sites!!!)

2. If you feel you need it, schedule enough time for the meeting so you can loosen up, chat, relax, release some anxiety, and answer questions...and THEN have some really hot fun! It is hard if it is a rushed experience for you the first time around.

3. Here is a sample of how to request an appointment (keep it simple!)....

"Hello, my name is *****.
I saw your web site.
My user name on TER is hotstuff696969.
I would like to know if you are available on (day) at (time) in (Outcall or Incall) for (length)?"

Any other ideas?

My suggestions...

Check reviews, do a TER search, google, and go with your gut!

If you can't find enough information on the girl and you're not comfortable, go with your gut. I am always surprised to hear how many gentlemen have had bad first experiences from rip off's or just not getting what they expected. This seems to set up a hesitation and nerves for any future encounters.
If it seems to good to be true. PLEASE do your home work. Google the name AND phone number at the very least. If it comes up with other girls names or cites. That could be a red flag.
There are also plug-in's available via this website that help filter ad's and give you info on bad numbers, rip off's etc.
Try and go with someone more obviously reputable if you can.

All in all, I think it is often a learn as you go process to find the right fit for you. But it should always be fun along the way.

OX,
Jai

I think both Layla and Jai have given some good, solid advice (I really gotta see them for a double the next time I'm in San Diego LOL!). For me, I think doing the most research as you possibly can, and listening to your gut instincts, are the way to go. I use a few ideas that have worked for me very well:
1) I don't care how good her pictures are on Eros, Cityvibe, or any other site, if she doesn't have reviews here on TER or one of the other good review sites, I pass.
2) If there are reviews, I read every one that I can. Also, the amount of reviews are important. If she has a few pages of reviews over a good period of time (say, several months to a year), I feel safer and more comfortable.
3) If she doesn't have her own web site, I also pass. Just having a phone number or email address makes me nervous.
4) I read every word on her web site, and not just the rates and stare at the pictures. I try to get a feel for their personality from their sites.
5) While all this research is great, I can't stress how important listening to your instincts are. As Jai has said, if something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
I'm glad you posted this, Layla. If this post, and the advice in it, helps someone have a great experience, then it was well worth it. I also have to say, even though we've never met, that you and Jai (whom I met a few times) are real credits to this community. You both look out for everyone's interests, providers and clients alike, and I, for one, want to thank you both for that. The "hobby" needs more people like you.

The basic reason that Newbies make the wrong choice is that the heart directs all of the blood to the wrong part of the body, the dick, and they loose all perspective as to making good choices via reivews on TER because they are inexperienced.  However, if all of you Newbies do your research properly then choosing Jai or Liala, or ladies with their qualities you will not be making a mistake.

Yes & I also thank you all because I respect your candor.  Reading, research & always going with your instinct is BEST. Thanks, again 4 sharing & everyone who is honest always provides excellent information!

I love TER because now I can relate to both providers & hobbiest! XoXo