OK I paid to join this site so I would not learn things the hard way. I have read discussions on the do’s and don’ts and have tried to follow the advice. The information I have gathered has seemed to be helpful. I picked a highly reviewed provider. I gave them all of my personal data to get checked out. I met with the provider in public for almost an hour getting to know one another. During this meeting I followed the providers lead talked about life in general told her a little more about myself and asked respectful questions to get to know her. I had hoped during this meeting I would encounter a little sexy banter perhaps some flirting a little preview of things to come. None was forthcoming. Well, maybe the girl needs to be careful. I understand this. Twice, I woke up anticipating a coming date. I even caught myself looking through my under ware drawer making sure I wore my “Sunday Best.”  Twice I was disappointed. I don’t blame the provider for all of this. I do ask for a little respect of my time. A call to say that the time does not work for me I have scheduled someone in your place, but look forward to another time. Something other than no response would indicate interest on the provider’s part.

Is expecting some flirty banter, perhaps a light touch of the arm, something which says thanks for contacting me asking too much during a public meeting? Does there have to be a strong personal connection similar to the real world in order for serious date consideration? Should I be able to expect communication confirming or canceling a tentative meeting?  Can I expect more than just releasing a load or two with no personal connection?

I am clean, I am tall, a little over weight but not much, I am respectful, and average looks. Maybe I am a border line guy, who, if nothing else is happening, would be the way the provider can pay for those new shoes she really wants.

If I wanted what I have received so far I would ask my significant other for a date, but since I am here I am looking for something I am not getting at home. Am I expecting too much?

some of the things you are looking for are out there, but you are gonna have to work a bit to find them. As far as pre-appt meeting, your probably better off going to a meet and greet. Most if not all of these girls are very busy, they really can't justify spending time on meeting before a Appt, i have been friends with a few providers, many of them have their phones ringing off the hook and pm box and or email stuffed with guys trying to make appt's. Throw in personal life and however many appt.'s they make a week, there simply isn't time

I don't know really where to start, so I'll just dive in. 1)I have NEVER had a pre date, and honestly never will. 2) Did you compensate her for the pre meeting? You should have if you didn't 3) This site is for fucking not dating if you want dating try match.com or sugurdaddy.com 4) Your "highly reviewed provider" probably did what  providers do when they decide they don't want to see you. They stop all communication with you. Just the way it is, I'm guessing she thought you might be a little to clingy 5) I do not click with all providers I see, but I still have a great time,remember this site is about having fun and fucking. 6) Join a dating ref service instead of giving out personal info (P411, RSK2000 or Date Check). 7.Doesn't matter what you look like, but being respectful is very important. Also being on time, being fresh ( recently showered) and leaving on time. 8)For the ladies, this is there business, it's about $$$, not making friends or having a connection with a client. 9) You seem to be describing an ATF situation. But, that's why it's called an "all time favorite", they don't happen much and when you experience an atf. you'll recognize the situation and just enjoy it for what it is. 10) Read the NEWBIE manual if you haven't already. It's at the top of the FAQ Newbie board, if you haven't already done so. 11) Now go try and see another lady, and remember this site is fucking not dating.
Good luck!

It sounds like she probably expected to be compensated for this meeting and then realized she wasn't and didn't want anything to do with you. This sounds very strange.

Thanks for the input.

I would like to clarify that the pre date was not my idea. Like the previous post stated I would like to get laid and the less complicated the better. I would think that a provider's business would be like any other and customer service would be a high priority. More returning clients equals less advertising and more enjoyment for the provider.

Like the subject says it is a rant. I wanted to get laid before easter and now it it strecthing into 2 weeks later. I get the same treatment at home. I thought this route would be a good alternetive.
The jury is still out.

From my standpoint, the reality of it, it is a business and although I feel that I have a great relationship with some of the girls I met through this site, each time I have invited them to dinner ( and dinner only , no hidden agenda or expectation other than dinner on my part, for say their birthday), it never happened. Was I disapointed at the time? Maybe a little but I respect their boundaries and while they are great are making me feel special when I am with them, I clearly understand that they have a private life, other things going on and that's just how it is..So now I never offer them to get dinner or have drinks... I just expect to have a great time during our scheduled time, and we always do and I appreciate the time spent together within the boundaries that they are comfortable with.

Dear Dr. Philly,

For the experience you seem to be looking for (initially), I suggest you contact a well reviewed provider and choose a package she offers allowing you to spend more time with her, such as a 2 hour rendezvous or a 3 hour dinner date.  There are plenty of options out there.

On another note...If you are just ready to get down and dirty, DO just that!  That's the name of the game and we ALL like to get naughty.  Well I should hope most of us anyway.  No pre-date should be necessary.  Just spend your time and $ wisely and get busy!

In your case it appears the pre-date worked as a disadvantage to both of you all around, as understandably could be the case.  I, myself, have never been on a pre-date.  As far as I am concerned, if you check out during my screening process, you are the 'King of My Castle' for the duration of our time spent.

I hope this helps.  Until we meet...

Ciao,
Belle