My situation is unique.  I look for posts within my limited budget.  I'm not a cheap skate, just very
small income.  So I have to pass on the 300 roses and above.  If within my budget, I look to the reviews to see if she performs well (7 and up), and of course I look at her pics to see if she is hot.
I also have minimum requirements, i.e., BBBJ, FIV, DFK, and if possible, rimming.
  I treat all providers well and look for those who seem to enjoy their work and are not indifferent
to the guys.

Whenever I read posts by a provider and I sense she is hostile toward other hobbyists or providers she is put on my radar of do not see - does this ring a bell MilanTequila?

You know we're visual creatures. If you don't want to show your face, that's fine (we can PM reviewers for that info). But if all you're going to do is rotate between a couple of photos everytime you post. Then you're not inspiring a response.

Review #s mean very little, if your photo makes us click on your site or reviews. We'll look at the history of the reviewers and ask some questions.

Lastly, how you interact on the board does have an effect for people that do more than look at ads. If you're a total bitch on the board. Why would we waste our time to figure out if you're that way in person?

Spelling, grammer, etc... Might matter if we were on the fence about you being a "crack ho" or setting up an extended appointment to study for LCAT or MCAT. Other than that, if you can roll a condom on and know there's only 50 states and a little about current events, that's all the education we need. The rest is chemistry.

Thanks for asking the question.

1.  Negative vibes on the discussion boards.
2.  Outcall only
3. The feeling that someone just is not into a sensual experience.
Take care Goldie.

From a guy old enough to have had sex in the second of the two decades of the
Golden Age of Sex:

I will NOT see a lady if:

1) She does not provide at least BBBJ (and also usually not if she does not provide CIM):

2) She has implants;

3) She has more than one small tattoo; and

4) She has body hardware other than on her ears.

My slogan:

"Nothing man-made on a woman."

(For you youngsters who cannot figure out when that was:
after the Pill was introduced and before herpes & aids arrived.)

Things that make me NOT want to see a provider:

1.  Doesn't look Hot
2.  Doesn't provide DFK and BBBJ
3.  I read EVERY review of a girl I might see to see if she is inconsisent - I don't hobby often, and
    can't affrod a bad experience if I can help it
4.  Don't care about spelling, I'm not the best either - but I do want to find someone who is clever and
    fun since I prefer longer visits with time for dinner and/or other outside activites

OH YEAH  -  These days I prefer not to see someone NOT named Goldie

1. Poor reviews and/or photos
2. If she does not provide BBBJ, CIM, DFK, GFE
3. Not replying to my PMs or emails
4. Backchannel info of a negative nature from other hobbyists
5. Only does outcalls or nights

but here are deal breakers

1. any mention of smokers odor
2. outcall only
3. finding out she is packing an extra 20+ pounds
4. bad attitude. provider either acts like she is doing you a favor just her seeing you or you get the feeling she really doesn't enjoy providing.
5. too young/inexperienced
6. too experienced lol
7. outside my budget

Here's my list of Don'ts:
1. Provider is a time traveler or caught in a time warp: i.e. her pics haven't changed for a looong time.
2. Provider is very shy about some parts of her anatomy in pics: i.e. hot body without face shot = doable; tell-tale parts covered up, e.g. stomach, which might indicate lack of fitness or excessive stretch marks = not doable
3. Provider types first and thinks later: bitchy comments on line about other providers; excessive self promotion at every available opportunity regardless of the topic under discussion
4. Careful reading of reviews indicates the presence of deal breakers (at least for me): "she's not really into dfk"; "she was having a bad day"; "she had lots of rules"; "we didn't really click" despite the fact that the provider markets herself as a "true GFE".  When such statements crop up regularly I stay away.
5. Too-good-to-be-true string of reviews: no one can be a 10 consistently.  There's been some censorship going on.  I prefer a real person, not a programmed sex cyborg
6. Ambiguous rates: "call me for rates"; rates vary wildly from site to site: and we're not supposed to ask "how much"  This is a catch 22 situation for the unsuspecting or gullible hobbyist.
7. Back channel deal breakers: PMs from other respected hobbyists suggesting I should stay away.
8. Consistently bad reviews.
9. Only one or two reviews, but she's been around for a while.
10. False reviews: I always check who else the hobbyist has seen.  If their list of reviews is longish and consistent, then I tend to think the review is genuine.  If the hobbyist has spent $800 on this one provider, raves about her as "once in a lifetime" but this is the only review the hobbyist has ever written, then I have my suspicions.
All this takes time, and requires thinking with the big head, not the little one, but in the end it can help to avoid costly mistakes.
Just my two cents.

Umm... There have been  few lately. The number one thing is attitude! as well as personality. of course everyone is looking for some common ground to get a little connection. It can be as simple as one thing said in an email or post on the board.  And for sure a no see is a prepay! for every no show they claim I have a no show as well. Kind of gets back to the attitude thing. The answer here is know your customer!

i rank my decisions into 2 categories. First never met never seen. Like all of us we are searching for some connection.  Often a single thing she said in a ad or email can make the difference. On the positive side often it is a key word like something you are interested in, like a kink thing that is not usually discussed. And as always the P in P4P will also have an impact. And on the negative her attitude. Lack of reviews could clip off a few yea's as well.

second is those I have seen! There are 3 reason i would not see a past acquaintance.
1. Chemistry... sometimes sparks just do not happen
2. Attitude. She says something that just really turns you off. She can be the most beautiful and highly rated lady but sometimes whats inside can be ugly
3. And perhaps the most difficult one for both to accept. is the donation. I have met some truly wonderful ladies that i really enjoyed time with but over the years as they became more successful and their donations went up they became out of reach. I always feel strange leaving something less than posted even if she said you are "grandfathered". because usually I will pay the higher (current) rate until it goes out of reach.

meaning rather than ratings, pictures, and donation, the sense I get from reading her ad, webpage, and other writings...

Does she advertise everday on multiple sites=high volume, take a number.
Alot of chatter on the boards=opinionated and ego entric.
Trying to be sophisticated, world traveler, and high end=bores me, next.

I can and have been totally wrong in my assumptions regarding the above.  I guess it is my loss but not a big deal to me, I'm satisfied...

Negative, contentious exchanges on the boards or negative opinions of other providers thru email or pm or on the board shut me down instantly. Anything that points to a provider having a rage issue or is someone that is into confliction says “next” to me.

Passive/aggressive behavior. Berate me in a thread and end it with “you are a kind, caring and gentle person” (paraphrasing here) or with the trite XOXOX’s. Fuck me, does that work for any guy?

In general, I think you post to expose your personality.  In your case, Goldie, your personality is this huge “perma” smile so run with that.

Poor spelling does not bother me. Effective communication is a must.  As long as you get the message across, I am okay with spelling miscues.

Just be positive because providers and hobbyists alike know that some of these associations can really be healthy.  As much as it is about fucking, it is about something else, IMO.

I think photos of body shots help and are important. My advice is not to have face shots shown. You never know where life is going to take you; no one is in control. What Goldie has shown me is that it can be a very pleasant surprise to not see someone’s face in advance.

Consistent poor reviews will drive me away. One or a few bad reviews out of dozens does not deter me from seeing someone. I have some great respect for the hobbyists that I personally know or seem intelligent on the boards, but most not so much for.

BC is huge on both sides I think. If a hobbyist that I know or respect highly says it’s probably better to look elsewhere, I’ll do it.

I hope this helps. I have crossed off a few because of what they have said on the boards. It doesn’t mean they are not great, just not for me.

Good question, as usual, Goldie!

I'm interpreting the question as why would I not want to see someone a first time, as opposed to a return visit.

For me, it is complicated, involving a number of tradeoffs and evaluating imperfect information.  Some very positive traits can offset some minor negative ones.   Here's part of my thought process:

Price is always relevant.  Too low might scare me away.  Too high can be financially prohibitive or make me wonder if there are equally good (or nearly so) options for less.  However, I have stretched a few times when I was fairly certain that it was worth double my norm.

Facial features, if discernible, matter a lot to me.  I'm a relative newbie, but just like a normal date, I like a pretty face.  There are lots of providers that most guys find attractive but don't appeal to me.  It's in the eye of the beholder and consistent with my tastes, as narrow or quirky as they may be.

Physical build must be less than 20 pounds above the ideal weight.  I don't require a hardbody, but trim is sexy to me.  A gut is not.  I prefer medium breast size--B to DD.  There is such a thing as too large, in my view.

I prefer no/few tattoos or tasteful ones.

I prefer nonsmoking or no smell/taste of cigarettes.

Attire matters.  I'm old school.  Platform shoes are a negative for me.  Standard pumps, sandals, or bare feet are great.  Classy lingerie, bikinis, or dresses are turnons.

Reviews are key, which is why I because a VIP.  It's all about making good, informed decisions.  Generally, close to 8/8 is my floor.  But the details matter.  I try to read lots of reviews and read them carefully.  Recommendations and repeat clients are good things.

Any signs of going through the motions, being too interested in money, rushing clients, are probably going to weigh heavily in the negative.  On the other hand, someone who is a sweetheart, goes the extra mile, maybe runs over time-wise will get bonus points and strong consideration.

Some providers' websites seem a little heavy-handed and rules oriented.  I understand the need to make thing clear and screen out the jerks, but a welcoming site beats a litany of rules.

Services matter, but again there is flexibility.  I prefer BBBJ and CIM, but great looks or a sweet personality will cause me to consider CBJ, for example.  If anal is available for a reasonable price (either base or charge), that can be a plus.  

I notice almost all cases of typos and poor grammar, but I don't weigh those heavily, and often not at all.  I'm looking fort other types of skills.   On the other hand, a provider with ratings well above 9 and rates above $500 should have an impeccable website.  Proofreading and editing can be useful.

Goldie, feel free to follow up via PM.  I hope this helps.  I admit that my tastes may be a little quirky.

Multiple bad reviews would do it. Also if there is a problem with getting the connection. For example- she insists on setting the appointment and when you arrive at the destination for a room number/apt#/condo #, it takes another 30 or 40 minutes to get the meeting place........

There are different factors...
I personally do not have unlimited funds and have to save to play so I am very cautious as to who I see...
Unfortunately if I cannot see the face of the lady on her website, I will probably pass.
The reviews. Anything below 8 and I will pass. I usually see ladies that get 9 and 10's.
Attitude. If the communication is too short and somehow rude, I will pass.
I treat the ladies I see very well and I expect the same in return.
If the session is not great, I will never repeat. That includes when the lady leaves after 40 mn. If I pay for an hour, I expect a full hour.

Typos bother me when I see them on a provider's website.
That just shows she's rushed and not diligent with her work.
Errors are not limited to spelling or grammar mistakes.
It includes the unnecessary capitalization of the first letter of certain words.
Revision is absolutely imperative if a provider wants to leave a good impression.

I'm okay with the provider not having face pictures.
All providers I've seen who don't show their face turned out gorgeous.
Recently had a date with a provider with a video ad and it instantly sealed the deal.
You can't really photoshop a video (unless you edit each individually frame), so that was a nice touch.

Seasoned hobbyists have great influence on my decision.
There are several seasoned hobbyists I respect (some already posted in this thread) and I always PM them for guidance.
If one of them tells me to be careful, I'll reconsider seeing the provider (has happened twice).

i don't want to see a girl if she isn't as much fun as goldie knox!

It would make seeing them a whole lot easier