I read a review today by a guy who in several places stated that he really enjoyed things the woman did for him, some of which seemed to be pretty generous (such as rimming him before BBBJ).  At the end, he said the woman had a great attitude and effort, but then he said some unkind things regarding his impression of her appearance, which he had alluded to earlier in his review.  While some providers may be more "photogenic" than others, this woman you are with is taking you on regardless of your looks and doing her best to please you.  The least you can do is be gentle with your review if she isn't attractive TO YOU.  None of us can change our appearance, and if a provider doesn't do it for you, you can say this in a gentle enough way as to not be callous. Say "The chemistry wasn't there", or "She wasn't my type physically", or something which the guy said as well, "I expercted something different"...hobbyists will know what to make of that, and it will leave it in the realm of "to each their own", while treating the woman who just waxed your jimmy (whether for money or not) with dignity.  If we men were all so fine, we wouldn't be paying for it, right?  What goes around comes around.

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I agree with everything u said except for the end.  Now I don't wan't to say that I'm the most handsome man on earth I have no problem "getting women".  Although I'm sure it applies to some of the gentlemen, it doesn't apply to me.  I have my reasons for seeing provider , one of them is that I'm married and don't want to deal with the hassle of having an affair.  With provider it's a simple business transaction that takes no more than a couple of hours to get what I need and for her to get what she need.  In any case, forgive my rantings...

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Which review and who by whom. PM me if you like.

On May 22, at 7:08 PM, I-Am-The-Arm writes, "...while treating the woman who just waxed your jimmy (whether for money or not) with dignity."

Now, I must ask, why must one treat this woman with dignity? Becuase she "waxed his jimmy"? Yes, waxing jimmies for a living is considered by most to be a highly dignified profession, so the next time a professional waxer "waxes your jimmy," be sure to let her know how much you admire and respect her - before she goes on to wax the next guy's jimmy.

I wasn't implying that single hobbyists use providers because they can't "get women" other ways. I can, and I am sure plenty of guys on here can.  It is just that this allows us to get with them as effortlessly as Brad Pitt or Eminem walking into a club and getting it for free in about 10 minutes.  As for married hobbyists, it is an additional convenience, and you obviously are appreciative of that, so there you go.

After finding the review, I understand better, your feelings. If I am correct you were using Dahuevon's review of Terra as an example of not being a gentleman. I did not get the impression that he was being ungentlemanly at all by expressing his disappointment. He certainly did'nt over do it, go extreme or bash her. Great job on Terra's part and I'd still love to meet up with her (the review did'nt scare me away) but, I felt (after reading) that he was simply expressing all his feelings for review purposes. Possibly others might want to know about how others feel about the provider's looks when reading a review. I just don't agree that his opinion concerning her looks were that weighty an item to be considered ungentlemanly (for review purposes). Who knows, Maybe in his mind he chose his wording in order to be a gentleman.

to express your contempt for our providers. By this logic, the providers should treat us without dignity as well.

I agree, he wasn't "bashing".  I just felt that it would be more courteous to our providers to not say specifically "I won't be going back beause of her looks and body", and that there are gentler ways of talking about what some people are using to make a living.  Obviously, reading some of the other responses to this issue, there are some that don't agree that this is necessary in our transacitons with providers.  Just what this world needs...less sensitivity.

That's exactly what they are doing when they charge money for their services. Think about how dignified it really is to pay for such companionship! Make sense?

It isn't the oldest profession without reason, and in many societies that weren't founded by Puritans, courtesans have been respected and renowned for their services.  I read that there are several streets in San Francisco that are named after some of their more well-known working girls, but SF has always been more open-minded than SD...and your views, on this site of all places, are proof of that.