Let's face it. I don't think you got up one morning and said, "Yes , that's it I'll hobby". (Or maybe you did) Have you ever thought about where it all began?
A number of girls may have started off as dancers before companions. Where did the "hobby" start for you? This should be good....
Kisses and Slurps,
Jai Loren

I am a single father who did not want my sons to have to share my attention.Consequently I decided not to get involved in a relationship so hobbying was a way of fulfilling my needs without entanglements.It probably has something to do with staying safe emotionally.

I know it sounds trite, but I think it's true.  Sometime after my 50th birthday (about 5 years ago), I came to the realisation that sex within my 30 year marriage had really never been great, and was certainly not as frequent as I would like (mostly about once a month, whether we needed it or not).  When I realised that this was lifelong problem, and not a temporary thing, I decided to take action to have some fun that went beyond what was usually on offer: missionary, under the blankets, after 11:00 pm.

I have now had three liasons.  One great, two mediocre.  I have not written reviews because I don't think I have enough perspective to be accurate in my assesments.  I am conflicted about my behavior and have not yet decided whether or not to pursue any further contacts.  I probably will, because I get really frustrated, but it is not a decision I take lightly.  Ideally, I'd like to find an ATF and just vist her occasionally.

from having twins---but I think it was only practice for a visit with you!

I was fresh out of college in a city I had never been to with a slight buzz and a hard-on.  I guess I started young at 21.

However, in the time since then, I go through periods where I see providers and other periods when I don't.  This does have a pattern with "non-professionals" that I hang out with but not always.  

If a lady that I am dating is "fun", I probably won't see providers.  If she is a bit uptight in bed but otherwise nice, I will probably still hobby.  I also spend a lot of time away from home and like variety.  I guess that is a perfect secnario to hobby?

what exactly do you mean by your statement?

As a divorced, ex-cancer graduate, I said it's time to Party with the Best, Most Sexualy Hot Women(Who Enjoy Been Themselves) and Learn to Ask
What can I do to Please You. I've yet to be disappointed. I've been with women who take a passive role, others who like to tackle you on a even playing field. Then there's those that will
attack you as you walk through the door. Bless them All. Respect them . For without them there would be NO Hobby.

I found out that my SO had been cheating on me for a second time.  Figured what's good for the gander is good for the goose.
Will make a change after our last one gets thru college.

First time poster, long time lurker. This is the first time I have told anyone about how I got started as a hobbyist.  Started in senior year of high school... still a virgin... decided one friday night to take my dad's car and find me a pro to take care of business... drove down the local strip/track... found someone to my liking... did the deed and was hooked from then on.  dont get me wrong... I was scared as hell... am still scared now... everything I did then and now is protected sex.  graduted college... earn a good living... only see ladies from the net... and only ladies that have been reviewed with high marks...Been in the hobby for the last 18 years.  Pre internet there was only streetwalkers... only in the last 10 years, has the internet exploded to where girls can advertise from their living rooms... love this tech.  hope to be still hobbying when I hit 80... lol.

I saw your picture!

I'll be honest enough to admit that it wasn't an easy decision to enter the hobby. I thought about it for about a year before I actually saw someone. I've had really bad luck with relationships with women in the past. They all ended badly, for whatever reason (I certainly take my share of the blame). My last relationship was when I was in my late twenty's. She was smart, funny, and attractive, but had no interest in sex whatsoever. In a 18 month period, we maybe had sex 5 times, all missonary, in the dark, with her letting me know in no uncertain terms that she'd rather be doing anything else. After that relationship ended (and badly), I basically gave up. I got very down on myself in regards to women. After about 5 years, and feeling very lonely, I got an opportunity to go to Las Vegas, and I made the decison (not an easy one) to see someone. I thought it would be a one time thing. I got lucky in that I met a legend in Vegas, and my one time thing has turned into a three year friendship. I've had the opportunity to meet some incredible women, and the experiences in the hobby far exceed anything I'd had before.

Stayed in a bad, sexless marriage for the kids.  Went to TJ occasionally, sometimes the Blvd.  Found it to be an honest transaction.  Much more so than my friends that were lying to women in bars with no intention of wanting relationships.  Everything is out on the table.

And I'll agree with the previous post about not wanting to share precious kid time with a new girlfriend.  Plus just a bit battle scarred from the divorce, and not real anxious to try that again.

Later, found it better than trying to hit on my female friends and co-workers.  Let friends be friends and don't be humping everyone's leg  Again, I've met some really lovely women, had some weird or scary experiences.  Makes for an interesting life

Thanks for asking, Jai.  This is a great topic.

I always had a very hard time initiating a conversation or interactions with women.  This shyness, timidness, fear or whatever you want to call it made it nearly impossible to meet women.  If a woman would start a conversation I was never able to direct it to a direction that could turn to a relationship or interaction into the area of sex.  For this reason I had numerous female friends but no lovers.  School, sports, building businesses and a house seemed to be enough of a distraction to let me go too many years without a sex.

One time I was attending a convention in Canada and decided to see what a strip club up there was like.  It was alot more interesting as there were numerous providers in the audience.  One sat next to me and ask if I want to have some fun.  I guess a shy, inexperienced guy can mustard up enough courage to say yes to a beautiful provider after watching nude dancers for an hour or so.  

After that I found this business arrangement to fit my personality and continued seeing providers on an off till now, approaching the 20th anniversary.

I occassionally stay away from the hobby. Sometimes to see if I can, sometimes becuase I question shouldn't there be more and sometimes becasue I am attempting to have a "normal" relationship with a woman.

that if he dates someone or has a traditional relationship with someone, he will have less time to spend with his kids. He does not want to compromise the time he spends with his children. Thus, he chooses to satisfy his needs by hobbying.

just trying to relive,and bring to life, fantasies from my teen years -- especially with older providers.

It certainly wasn't planned...it was just a huge lack of sex in my life and no real time or desire to start a real relationship.

Easy....I like to have sex with beautiful women.  After all, variety is the spice of life.

It started for me when I was back in college in the 80s and would make many runs to the Swedish Touch out in Pomona on Geary off the 10 freeway.  In those days you could walk in off the street and get full service for just $ from sexy Caucasian ladies.You could even get your choice as they would line up in the window of the waiting room....Miss those days... Then it progressed to agencies from the yellow pages in the early 90s (pre internet)..  Now obviously I exclusively use TER....The reason for all of the above was simply to have a great experience with a beautiful woman who did whatever you asked without any of the head games that come with a relationship....I have been pretty shy my whole life and have cherished to ease of the "hook up" of spending time with women I could not ever "pick up" in a bar....It is just as simple as that....

Frustrated in a marriage lacking in intimacy and a man with a very high sex drive. I had previous relationships (girlfriend) with amazing hot sex in every possible way imaginable. After about 7 years of a frustrating marriage I sought professional help. Continued to hobby on and off through the marriage, separating  a year and a half ago, marriage lasting for 16 years. The experience was emotionally taxing. A mix of guilt and neediness. Now separated and much happier about my life, still lobbying and will do so until divorce is final, then look forward to a more compatible relationship.  Met some terrific ladies. Fantasize about dating a provider as to establish a more honest relationship from the start.

For me I hit 33 and realized that I wasn't going to fulfill that aspect of my life in regular relationships.  I never wanted or could afford to have kids yet all the women I dated were starting to have that hunger.  So in order to have relationships I had to present myself falsely and then just wait until the relationship went sour.  I felt this was dishonest and I wasn't about to get married just to have sex.  The first time I just went for the happy ending massage (thanks Kate) but after that I was hooked.  Lost my cherry on Easter Sunday ( HE Has Risen)  two years ago (thanks Yuna) and never went back.  I can tell you I have never been happier or more content in my life. It makes sex what it is supposed to be:a fun positive life affirmation. The ladies in this business may never know how important they are to men's lives.   There are downsides of course, but it so nice to not walk around hungry all the time and not knowing when the next meal is.  I think that power is what I like most of all.
By the way I love your new pictures Jai,  Your ass is now my screen saver.  Would like to meet up with you and read you some bad poetry.

Technology!..

...Moaning about interest rates rising and how I didn't like my job in the mortgage industry and I didn't have enough time for my family and I wanted to finish school...So I asked a group of about 20 single people listening to me that day, "What do you guys think I should do?", when Steve said, "Well, what do you do best?" and I said, "Make-out!" and he said, "What about massage?"   There you have it....My E story

dabbling in it for almost 7 years, it has brought out a Bi side in me I never knew I had. Now I want to do it not only for him, but also for me. It took many years and the befriending of a past SD provider to help me try to understand, but probably more importantly to learn to accept the huge differences between men and women sexually--mentally and physically. I understand this is no guarantee that he will not stray anyway, but I can honestly say that I have done my best to provide for his wants and needs. And,it would "kill me" to find he had strayed despite my best efforts to prevent it. I would rather he experience another woman with me than without me.