...shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
It happened to me once. I tried to reach out to figure out what happened and she never got back - validating my views. I ended up not writing a review though, because I was inexperienced and wasn't sure if it was me somehow and did not want to be the person to write the torpedo review.
Knowing what I know now, I should have written a review that knocked a point or two off her averages, with word choice that while being respectful, would acknowledge what I thought were the short-comings. In addition, I have also learned to be much better at reading reviews, understanding the meaning behind word choice, and back-channeling with additional questions.
If a woman requests not be reviewed prior to a meeting, I will always respect that. During or after we meet is a tougher call. It is unfortunate that more providers do not realize that talking about reviews during the session is just poor form and leaves a bad taste in the mouth. Instead the goal should always be focusing on a great experience... and the reviews will follow.
This is what I think you do:
You get a bad experience, you need to reach out, figure out what happened, and learn from it. The provider won't always respond, but if you can get information from her directly it will help. It sounds like you let the same thing happen 3 times in a row (to varying degrees)... And I still don't think you have any idea why.
I do think YMMV is one of the biggest truisms in the hobby, but my impression is something else is going on here. My guess is either:
1. You didn't do the research. I believe there are girls that are divas and this tends to come across with huge dispersion or the torpedo review - ex: 10/10, 9/10, 7/3, 10/10. The 7/3 caught her on her diva day.
2. You actually aren't portraying yourself accurately. Guys blame girls for this all the time, but you may be just as much at fault. This is where talking to the girls afterwards might help. You may be downplaying the reality of your age, weight, personality, or hygiene. Again, so much of life is about managing expectations and the more you can manage theirs, the better off you will be in finding something that works