Do some providers "retire" but maybe see regulars or guys that they have seen multiple times? Maybe there is a different name for it other than retirement?

Seems like Dec 31 is a common date for retirement. None in this area, but I know of 1 that has advertised retirement and 3 others that are contemplating or secretly fading away on Dec 31.

I wonder if they will see regulars or guys that they like for a donation after retirement?

This hobby really redefined the term UTR. Some guys are lucky enough to stay connected or re-connect whenever a woman decides she is ready. Always be kind and respectful and maybe you will become one of the lucky ones.

i have found in my short hobbying time that girls who retire usually come back to the scene after a year or so.

not always.  but everybody i hear about retiring has come back.

anyway, there are plenty of fish in the sea, so when fish retires, just bait your hook with some fresh chum and...

well that metaphor broke down pretty quickly.

Yes, a fishing metaphor works but evokes bad smells so it's not the best

I knid of figured as much and tying into Ms Patricia's point, there is an excitement in this for some, if not most, providers and all hobbyists. I have heard the boring life rationale at least a dozen times. For providers, there is an adventure and surprise element that I think some like. And although it is a lot of work to get ready for appointments, it's "good work" from what one provider told me. Manicures, pedicures, hair cuts and coloring, shopping for nice clothes and getting themselves as beautiful as they can are all things that nearly all women want to do.

I do think some go into semi retirement and play with known friends and when those friends go away, they might come out of retirement.

I can completely understand how going from this life back to the civvie world could be real boring, but I know 4 that have retired and are still retired. They are friends to me now and I don't want anything more from them...the passions are used up and gone. And all but one has a SO, so that is easy for all of us.

Just wondering if the ones I know are exceptions and it seems like they are based on what glixner has said.

"Retirement Special, Hurry don't miss your chance"

"Moving onto bigger and better things, last chance to meet"

"Retiring next month: Retirement specials all month"




LOL

quite of bit of hobbyists (and hi volume) saying they are done or cutting back a lot. I don't know if it's financially driven, guilt, new years resolutions, boredom or just a light bulb going off that this is all one big illusion and maybe $$$ in the bank and rosy palm might be a better option. Of course 2 months later that may all change. Or not?

Interesting. A flip on who is retiring. Thru BC and email I am hearing of big slow downs on the Hobbydude side as well. Everyone is rightly worried about tax hikes, spending cuts and I know 5 friends that work for smaller companies where their medical insurance is going to expire at the end of the year and now they have to come up with $6K that they didn't have to budget before.

I would guess that the main driver here is the looming fiscal cliff. It will be brutal if the two wings of the same evil bird can't start to compromise and figure this out in the next 3 weeks.

If I had a wife or kids I would be petrified. But I don't and I can get through anything on my own so I am not so worried. But yes, I am even thinking about cutting back. It sucks!

I did a really dumb thing about 20 years ago...I hired an escort I was frequently seeing as a part-time assistant. OK, it wasn't 'really dumb', but it wasn't in my top 5 great business decisions either. I knew her, I knew we got along well, I knew she was cute enough and smart enough to represent my company (me) in a good way on a superficial level. But I didn't know what a bad employee she'd be. Why should she get excited about earning $9/hour (decent starting wages in 1993) when she'd been earning $300/hour (fairly high-end escorting charge in 1993) doing something she generally (but not always) enjoyed? Every time her beeper went off (remember, 1993) she wanted to take the afternoon off, or at least disappear for a whispered phone conversation.

The good news is, 18 years later we're still friends. It was REALLY tough for her to quit escorting because of the $$$. But she got a psych degree and is counselling at-risk teens (mostly girls). Guess what she tells them to never do?

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I say if you are serious about "retirement" you just walk away. No goodbye blogs or specials. Just take down your site, email etc and move on. Then if you come back it's just like a vacation. Or you stay gone. Whichever.

I agree in part. I think some do use it as a marketing ploy. I also think some get out into the civvie world and for some, it's harder work, boring and doesn't pay as well..so they come back.

But I also know that some ladies very much enjoy what they do and have some solid friendships with clients and they want to relive some of those with their old friends and maybe some new ones with new friends before they leave.

I worked for my last company for 17 years and a whole bunch of gnarly, harrowing events and screaming and yelling happened when I was there. But four years removed, All I mostly remember is the friendships and the hard work that was completed. Maybe it is not so different for the provider when she retires. Gets out and forgets the bad parts and comes back.

But what you say seems to indicate that the ones that are rumored to be going away but not advertising are probably more serious about retirement.