for all newbies, do not make the same mistake which i made recently.  i am not exactly a newby to the hobby but i had a terrible experience with my last PSE (big name UTR).  i spent an hour and we start to talk and got into some very engaging discussions about life, economy, housing market, etc.  we spoke and she was very engaging and suddenly i noticed the time and almost an hour had passed.  i tried to advance further, but the PSE said that time was up and she had another appointment so we could not run over.  i knew we had been talking for a long time, but i assumed that there would be play time after the talking.  therefore, i spent large sum of money for 1 hour just for a good conversation and that's it.  i was so disappointed in myself and still have not gotten over this!

After you walk in the door or once she comes to your location only engage in small talk for about 5 minutes! After that make the first move like grabbing her ass, go for the Deep french kiss and head over to the bedroom..As long as the lady sees your donation in plain sight there is nothing wrong for going for kill..These ladies know their purpose..Just like on a porn set these ladies know why they are there!

After you are satisfied (whether it is one or two rounds) and there is some time left THAN YOU ENGAGE IN CONVERSATION!!

Sometimes if they talk too much in the beginning you may have to interrupt them and gently remind them why you are both there..

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Don't be too hard on yourself...its at least as much (but probably more) her fault as it is yours...she knows why she's there and what she's being paid a significant sum for...its not as if she could go to a video shoot, talk with the director at length, refuse to do the shoot and expect to get paid.  Most likely, she didn't really want to do the session, got you talking and let the time "slip" away.

Without revealing her name, did you book her directly or through an agency?

i book directly, i never go through an agency.  i will not reveal the name (although it was not your typical 300 club PSE, this is a well known ), but i don't think it was a case that she didn't want to do the session, becuase she said she wanted to see me again and that she enjoyed the time.

It happens, you learn from this mistake. If you had a good time with her i would give another chance but after 10 minutes joke that you don't want the same thing to happen.

Dude, you got screwed and not in the way you intended.  Yes you goofed but honestly, you paid this lady for sex and she damn well knows it.  She took advantage of the situation by not moving things along.  

Guys bitch all the time about "clock-watchers" but the reality is a good provider, PSE or otherwise, is there to make you you get what you came for.  Time management is part of that. I'm not saying you should let yourself totally off the hook her but come on, what was she thinking??

Actually, I know exactly what she was thinking!

Maybe I'm just too cynical...I didn't mean that she didn't want to do the session because she necessarily had some problem with you personally, I meant she didn't want to do the session regardless of who it was...and, of course, she would like to see you again, she got paid her full fee and only had to chit chat...I'm guessing almost every PSE would take that deal...at worst if she sees you again, she will essentially been paid twice her normal fee for 1 session.

Dude what did you expect, that you would pay for an hour of her time and spend and hour talking and then an hour playing? You are paying for an hour of her time, period. Start the play within 5-10 mins of arrival and if you finish early, start the chit chat. If she tries to go after the pop just remind her you paid for an hour of her time, not for 1 pop, and then chat.

That's the other thing you have to watch for, some ladies will think that if you pop in 30 mins she's free to bail. Remind them you paid for 1 hour. Many guys will let a lady leave after they pop weather it's 30, 40, 45 mins, so if the lady can get paid for an hour and go after 30 she will.

Yes the provider should be comfy with you, but unless you're a bastard or smell of sludge on a wet morning she screwed you.

I'm not saying she did it on purpose consciously or with that intent going in.. but paying for a service and not getting it is wrong. For all we know she's doing this to alot of people.

I would at least mention it to her so that next time it won't happen again, should you venture for another go around.

(I might say something like "I was wondering.. I couldn't tell if you were comfortable or not since we never progressed beyond conversation.")

Just a thought.

Not taking any sides at all but if you talk to enough ladies, there are a good number of guys who book time and then spend it talking about their troubles, wives, families, etc.  I actually could see how she might have just let him go on, after all I bet it not the first time.

Shame on us guys for not making the first move if we indeed WANT things to move along.  

Also, escorts DO charge fees for time & companionship, anything else that happens (or not) if a matter between consenting adults  Good lessoned learned in this situation it appears and a good story to share to help others out.

After 30 mins, she should have made a move.  Totally messed up, she might of lost track of time a bit, but knew that she did have another appt.

Hopefully she will make it up to you next time if there is one.

Dude this girl is for one of he worse kind of provider. A stripper gone Porn Talent now washed up Provider.

Times are a changing for them. OOh hell yes she wants to see you again. She knows Lighting will strike twice in the same spot.

Remember you go screwed. She knew exactly what she was doing. she had you summed up correctly from the first 3 minutes.

You need to say who he hell it is with a Alias. No doubt she knows she intimidates you.

I had a similar experience. I was with a well known provider. We got comfortable and started talking. We are from the same part of the country and had a great conversation. I really had to take charge and make a move for some rather rushed action before the time expired. I think she was knew what she was doing by asking for drinks (this was outcall at my hotel) and bringing up new subjects. In my experience the provider takes the initiative, especially incall. I think in your case that she should at least give you a substantial discount or some extra time if you meet again, especially because there is no agency involved.

I agree I know exactly what she was thinking it was easy money

...from the U.S. taxpayers with the proviso of lending to the public to get the economy 'stimulated', and then refusing to lend said money.

And that would never happen.

Oh wait...nevermind!

It's your dime and money... you need to set the agenda.  Don't take this the wrong way; I  empathize with you, but I don't sympathize... You can't blame the girl if you don't make the move.

If you play in this hobby, you have to understand the MUMBER ONE THING: for US, it's a fantasy - but for the PSEs, it's a business.  I know none of us want to hear that, but that's the down and dirty truth..

So chalk it off to a lesson learned and don't make the same mistake again.

I think there's a very easy way to get past the "fantasy / business" aspect of the relationship we have with our lovely porn idols.

The relationship gives us license to objectify. And isn't that pretty much what we do in all sexual relationships other than the ones where our happiness mirrors that of our partner?

But when we objectify in the real world, too often guilt spoils the whole thing.

With PSEs, we get the cold objectification we seek, they get the cold cash they seek. But somehow it's hot. Hmmm ... maybe cold fusion does exist after all.

I bet she did. Easiest grand or two she's made in a long time. Yes, you should have made a move, but I think you got screwed over.

A high quality provider will engage in stimulating conversation, but doesn't get caught up in it to the extent that she ignores why she's there -- she'll begin moving the session in a physical direction after 10-15 minutes. And if the guy doesn't want that, only then will she let a conversation run the length of a session.

Guys get nervous, specially with porn stars.  They know this.  They can either help the guy out by moving things along, or take advantage of it by running out the clock.

I've been with providers who would have talked the whole session had I let them (I'm not there for a stimulating conversation so they were basically just talking to themselves). Sometimes, they don't even pause, so it's hard to cut in and move things along. When this happens, I just move closer and start feeling her body.  They get the hint.

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Hehe...cheer up JT Money...I hope my little piece up there at least made you smile (ala your screen id).

I think you should try to see her again at a discounted rate, and get to business a.s.a.p next time.

Cheers!

The PSE knows he didn't book her to be an overpaid undereducated therapist.  It is her "PRO-fessional" responsibility to remind him that his time to do what they had agreed in advance to do is waning.  If they had agreed in advance that intercourse was going to be part of the session, then he got the wrong kind of screwed.

More fucky-fucky....

Been there, done that, reviewed it.  I, too, learned my lesson.  When I do see a provider, I do let her initiate.  But if she's slow or seems to drag on, I'll push the agenda to the next stage quickly, now that I've learned.

Damn dude! How long have you been hobbying? This has got to be the most pathetic thing i have ever heard. These women aren't in this business to be your fuckin friend. I'm sorry, but you have GOT to know better than this. At this point all you can do is chalk it up as a VERY expensive mistake.

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