1.  for outcalls, is it ok to wear simply gym shorts and sleeveless shirt/wife beater shirts

2.  for bbbj, is it ok to go ahead and bbbjtcim or does this need to be discussed ahead of time

3.  does everything happen spontaneously , or is everything discussed beforehand how things will happen.

i have seen PSE before, and wanted to see how everyone else's experience went

I will answer this one part, if you showed up to see me dressed in gym shorts and a whife beater shirt, I would tell you to go back home and come back addressed appropriatley.

We are not machines, we need to find you attractive, in other words put your best foot foward...

1. I would put some effort into what I am wearing. Shorts are okay in my opinion, no gym shorts though, but you should at least wear some sleeves. U want her to be dressed nice so you should offer her the same level of respect.

2. Always warn her and if she continues the bbbj then its find. never assume anything and you don't want to piss her off.

3. I normally ask beforehand if she has any limits I should know about and then we have fun. Once again its all about respecting her and knowing boundaries that way its an enjoyable time for everyone.

What you wear whether it is a sleevless shirt or a wife beater shirt..Or not even wearing a shirt while you answer the door when they come in..These ladies are being paid to fulfull your fantasy so they need to be good actresses..Besides they are not expecting a Brad Pitt look-a-like in nice clothes.

Just like the guys you see on these porn movies..It's hilarious what they wear and sometimes you will see them wearing sneakers during a scene or even a baseball hat..

As the old saying goes "it's amazing what people will put up with when money is involved".

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IMHO any woman worth seeing deserves the respect of you showing up in at least nice casual clothing but then again I don't go to see low class providers.

 It's amazing how much further you'll get showing respect and class in a business situation.

 Guys that just want to pay just to have a hole to stick it in should just buy a plastic vagina and save a couple hundred or more. Me, I want an experience that is based on mutual respect.

First, realize that just cause she's a PS doesn't mean she's not a normal girl. They're still women, and should be treated accordingly. Therefore, IMHO:

1) If it's an outcall sure you can dress relaxed and comfortable..  just not THAT relaxed. At the minimum I would wear a tshirt and shorts. It may be true that your attire shouldn't matter much, but be courteous and respectfull and look like you put SOME effort into your looks. Just like you wouldn't want the lady dressed like she just woke up, don't look the same for her.

2) If it's not discussed prior to the appt then I would either ask her before you start or if you think you're getting close tell her and see if it's ok. If you CIM unexpectedly and it's not a service she provides you're gonna have a lousy time for whatever is left for your meeting (if she even allows you to stay at all). You'd be surprised, I've actually had some girls ask me to tell them when I'm close to they CAN prepare for CIM. Hey, who am I to say no?  lol

3) In all my experience everything's been spontaneous, at least for the most part. I've seen a few woman who preferred pop 1 to be from BBBJ, some who preferred round 2 to be that way. But nothing is ever discussed such as "Ok, when I arrive we will do (blah blah), then we will move to (yada yada), etc etc.  That sounds too rehearsed and boring quite frankly.

You need to have some self respect now.  Personally,  if I'm dropping serious change on a provider, I prep for the session and treat it like a serious date.  I want to feel great about myself.  gym shorts and a wife beater would not make me feel great.  You can go low key, but you have to put in some effort to look safe and clean.

I find your statement that 99% of these ladies don't care what you wear, to be sad and incorrect.

How can you make such a bold statement, where are you getting your % ratio?

Certainly not from your reviews..

I'm sorry for you if your experiences with PSE's have left you with such an attitude.

To make a statement that the laides are being paid to fulfill your fantasies, to me is shallow.

I agree,,,,that not all providers enjoy their work, but to make a statement that 99% don't is simply WRONG.

That is what reviews are all about, so is backchanneling.

LONGEVITY in this business should go a long way, I have been seeing some of the same friends for well over 7  years, and that's not because I am a good actress.

I can name several ladies, Bridgette Monroe is one, Ashley, Mikeo Lee, Harley Davis....... all of these ladies have repeat customers and again they are not all academy award winning actresses.

A wife beater and gym shorts? I wouldn't leave my house in that get up. Wait...I don't even own a wife beater tee shirt. Have some respect for yourself first then show some to the ladies.

Especially out to dinner at Prime.  Was that just because we were role playing?  

Wow, I thought we had real chemistry.  Okay, maybe the flip flops were a little too much, but I was going for a look.

And you are a machine, in a totally good way.


Love ya.

personally, i've seen a PSE and it was an outcall, so therefore, it allowed me to wear a sleeveless shirt and gym pants.  to me, it seemed like it put her at ease (but then again it was our 2nd meeting).

also, the reason why i asked the second 2 questions, is because i was wondering if most of you all treat the experience as if it were a movie (everything is discussed and planned exactly) or do you just let it flow.  i've never planned everything out, but i feel if you just let it flow you may miss out on some things given the timeframe.  but at the same time, if everything is planned and discussed ahead, then to me it would seem robotic, and like a movie (not an experience)

I almost always wear a suit and tie to see a lady.  

With every lady, YMMV.

I like to play all my cards to make sure I get a high mileage experience.

When you show up in a suit and tie, it puts a lady at ease on a number of fronts.

So, is it okay to dress like a slob.  Sure.  They'll still take you money and do whatever with you.  But if you want to experience their BEST, try showing up in a nice pinstripe suit with flowers or chocolates or a small piece of jewelry.  You'll be amazed at how nice the visit goes.  AMAZED>>>>>>

I am always dressed as best as I can for the ladies I see. It is a show of mutual respect. They take the time to put on thier best and so should you. They see that you care about your personal appearence. This can sometimes lead to better experiences. I'll be seeing Kathy here in a few weeks and can hardly wait. And you can bet your sweet butt that i'll be waiting for her with bells on as the saying goes.

I can agree with that approach but I'm mostly a casual wear for now. The last time I wore a suit and tie to an appt it attracted too much attention in the hotel. Imagine trying to make a discreet 2 call system when the cleaning ladies and lady receptionists were checking you out if you're wearing a ring or not. LOL!

Geez, have some class about yourself. Why would you NOT want to give a good impression to a lady that you hope you will have a good time with? Put the effort forward and they will return the favor and the relationship will be a long one.

towards most of the porn ladies I have seen..I stand firm that 99% of the ladies do not care what you wear as long as you are clean, respectful, and have the money..When I saw Ginger Lynn I just wore shorts, tank top and sandals..When I saw Nicole Moore I wore blue jeans and sneakers..When I saw Janet Mason I wore button casual short, shorts, and flip flops..Nina Hartely I did not even wear a shirt when I opened the door because she was early..My sessions with these ladies exceeding my expectations..

Again I am not talking about dinner dates..I am simply talking about a one hour appointment..I am not going to wear what I wear to my job..I am going to be as casual as possible..

And if someone is charging $400+ an hour they better ACT like they enjoy their work! Just like professional athletes I do not care about their personal problems when they get on that field they BETTER perform or I am booing them..

You mentioned Bridgette Monroe I guarantee you if she felt that she did not perform up to the rate she was charging she would be the first one to give some of the money back.

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If you showed up to see "me" in flip flops, wife beater shirt, or anything close to that I guarantee you that I would either ask you to leave and come back dressed appropriately or if I was visiting you, I would suggest that you go back and put somthing else on!!!!!

I am strickly speaking about myself, I treat ALL of my appts as if it was a blind date.

From the responses so far on this thread most guys agree.

No one is looking for a Brad Pitt look alike, but I certainly expect you to treat me the same way you expect me to treat you...

If you think for one minute just because you are paying to see "me" and you don't have to try and impress "me", you are dead wrong and I would sendy you packing.

As for Bridgette's name being mentioned by me,,, what I was saying is that she has many, many repeat customers,,,, why because she does care, she put her best foot forward and she treats her customers like friends, and she also treats her appointments like dates.

YOU stated that the the ladies "need to be good actresses", some yes, some NO!

So you % rate is wrong,,,, maybe in your own personal experiences but you can't make blanket statements like you always seem to.

The ladies that I mentioned in my other post,,,, I mentioned them because in my opinion and the opinion of the guys who have reviewed them is,,,,
they love what they do, they care, and you are not just a number to them.

I'm not talking about dinner dates either, I am talking about a one hour appt also... it doesn't matter to me if we meet for five minutes or five hours, I want you to impress me, turn me on...

Try and read and understand my points, but to think that it's not important to try and present yourself in a good light is laughtable to me.

"Is that we do not want to work hard at it..We just want a sure thing of getting laid"..Let me get this straight 1)You want a guy to pay $800-1,000/hr and than try to impress you? Shoot in that case we might as well stay home and try to impress our wife or girlfriend! Or if the guy is not involved with anybody than just go to a nightclub or match.com..

And I know most guys feel like me in regards to not being too dressed up walking in a hotel to see a lady..We guys know the experience..You walk in the lobby and someone stops you "Sir may I help you"..you than call the lady for the room # and you look for the elevator and than someone else stops you "Excuse sir are you hear for the so and so conference?" and than once you get on the right floor and you are looking for the room a third person stops you "Sir what room are you looking for or better yet tell me the guest"?

Never again from now on I am being as casual as I can be because what I have learned is if I look like I have no money (even though I always smell good) people will not bother me..

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You just love speaking for everyone, aren't you reading the responses here.

You have a very strange way at looking at this hobby.  You can continue to dress like a young boy if you choose, flip flops and all.

In the hotels that I stay at, if you walked in dressed like a bum, shorts, flip flops, yes, you can bet your sweet rear end they would ask you where you are going, because you don't belong here...

My friends who visit me, ALWAYS dress appropriately and I am so thankful that I don't have to see guys who are in your league, and you seem to including every guy in your posts..."WE" don't want to work hard at  it.


Are you serious, it's work for you to put on a nice shirt, slacks and present yourself in a decent manner?

If I ever had to reduce my rates that low,,,, I would prefer to be a Wal Mart greeter!!



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If the goal is to take the cloths off, what difference does it make what the guy  wears.  Kathy, if someone is paying you x amount of dollars to do a job, unless the job is fashion critic, do the job.

Are you on the receiving end, or are you on the giving end.  Curious minds want to know.??

I think it's fair to say that any provider has the right to reject any offer for any reason, i.e. her safety or her need to feel comfortable with the situation.  Most of us respect this decision.  I appreciate all the providers I have seen and that I would be lucky enough to spend time with them.  If I didn't like the price or couldn't take her wishes into account,  I wouldn't be seeing her; end of story.

I don't get why you're so upset by KW's posts here, as from the providers you've reviewed it isn't very likely you'd ever want to see someone like her. You are obviously looking for a very different experience from what was being talked about here.

That you are only lady who has posted a dress code?

As I have said 99% of the ladies do not care what you wear as long as you smell good and have the money!

Also you mentioned "These friends who visit me"..You need to correct that and say "My clients"..I have never heard of a lady charging her 'friend' $800 to have sex with her! Am just keeping it real.

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People that I spend time with and 99% of my friends to see me over, and over again.  I am lucky enough to say that we do become friends.

You and I look at this hobby completely different and I'm very comfortable in being able to call these people who come into my life, friends.

I know the reality of this hobby..Let's see the next time you get into some trouble how many of your so-called friends will bail you out..Or vice versa..

And if your friends(in reality clients) are seeing you over and over again than why did you lower your rate?

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But if i am DRESSED appropriately, I guess I won't wear gym shorts and a wife-beater.....