Ok, here's a question that would apply to either pornstars or even just independent non PSE providers.  You make an appointment with a provider, perhaps for mid evening or so.  She shows up, you've maybe booked an hour.  You have a great time, and really connect.  So besides having great sex maybe you have a little conversation and find it really good, some common interests etc.  You finish your hour and indicate you had a great time and would love to connect again when she is in town (or you are).  So youre both getting dressed and just chit chatting...she says the appointments have been a bit slow but she was glad you called her tonight because otherwise it would have been boring.  She says she needs to go get something to eat because all this great sex with you has made her famished.  To me, it sounds like she might be open to go out to dinner.  So here's the question.  No doubt in my mind that I would pay for the dinner..but do I need to pay for her time as well?  I know I could ask her the question...."hey wanna go out for dinner....happy to pay for the meal but I assume the time is not be charged"...the problem is that it might sound insulting to the provider...and I am always careful how I treat a lady.  On the other hand, I kind of feel that if she likes my company and I offer to take her out to dinner and she isnt busy, then why pay for her hourly rate on top of that?  Providers, please weigh in on this too..would love to hear from you.

Each escort is likely to have different limits and different rules for how to handle this kind of situation.  I've gone out to dinner/lunch with escorts and not paid them for their time, and I've had some charge me for the time but I've also had some that didn't charge me for the time and paid for my meal rather than the other way 'round.  On some escorting web pages an escort might have hourly rates and rates for "dinner&dessert".  It will also vary depending on how much she enjoys your company and how comfortable she feels and how much she needs money, and a lot of other factors that are difficult to predict or generalize.

My suggestion: when an escort comments about wanting to go out to eat, just offer to take her out to dinner/lunch.  You don't need to mention or ask about paying for her time.  Let her decide how to handle it and what the ground rules are - let her tell you if she expects to be paid or not.  You don't even have to say that you'll pay in advance - just wait until the check comes and reach for it first and see what she says or if she offers to pay her half.  You can deal with it the same you would any date.  

The golden rule, in my view, is to treat the escort with consideration and respect the way you would any woman you were on a date with.  The results might surprise you.

Prudent advice from Mr. French unless you're like me, in which case no surprises. Women tend to reason that guys don't like to leave a bad impression with them, particularly if they have greater sex appeal than the male. This can lead to unfortunate situations where non-sexual time is discussed but becomes magically billable when it's time to go home. Sometimes I'm a pushover when this happens, other times I don't mind incurring a little wrath when I hold the line. Just remember, if you play hardball and she says to you, "You must have really been hurt by someone in your life," simply say, "Why do chicks always resort to this line when they want to escape responsibility for their actions?"

I won't say it "works" in any tangible way, but you'll sleep a little better after framing the situation in the proper context.

Posted By: mrfrench

Each escort is likely to have different limits and different rules for how to handle this kind of situation.  I've gone out to dinner/lunch with escorts and not paid them for their time, and I've had some charge me for the time but I've also had some that didn't charge me for the time and paid for my meal rather than the other way 'round.  On some escorting web pages an escort might have hourly rates and rates for "dinner&dessert".  It will also vary depending on how much she enjoys your company and how comfortable she feels and how much she needs money, and a lot of other factors that are difficult to predict or generalize.

My suggestion: when an escort comments about wanting to go out to eat, just offer to take her out to dinner/lunch.  You don't need to mention or ask about paying for her time.  Let her decide how to handle it and what the ground rules are - let her tell you if she expects to be paid or not.  You don't even have to say that you'll pay in advance - just wait until the check comes and reach for it first and see what she says or if she offers to pay her half.  You can deal with it the same you would any date.  

The golden rule, in my view, is to treat the escort with consideration and respect the way you would any woman you were on a date with.  The results might surprise you.

But she's a Top 100 gal and a High Roller.  She'd already let me know I was her last date of the day.  Then she said she was famished.  This was after a marathon sex-capade during which she'd squirted more times than I could count.  I just said, "I love to take you to dinner, just friends, you pick the place."  She took it from there.  She didn't even pick a fancy place.  Had a great time.  No confusion at all.

...to eat."  This is her NSA way of hinting that she wants you to take her out for a meal.  She wouldn't say: "I'd really like to go out to dinner with you now", because some guys would think she was falling in love with them because of the great sex they think they just had.

If she suggested it, I wouldn't offer to pay for her time.  I don't think she would be a schemer trying to sandbag you into paying $$$$$ just to escort her to dinner.  Of course, you should pay for the meal, even if she offers to pick up the check.

When she mentions dinner, just simply ask "If I treated you to dinner, what would be the rate for that?".  It doesn't assume anything and leaves it up to her to definitely say "none" or "$$$".  That way there is no room for error.

I had a regular lady who went out to dinner several times with me after sessions off the clock.  Then suddenly one day, she decided that I needed to pay her for the dinner time.  Things were never the same after that.  Best to establish a definitive answer right up front...

I've gone out to dinner a few times after a session with a couple of different porn stars and never even thought about paying for their "time." Of course I paid for their dinner, but one porn star that I had dinner with afterwards actually paid for MY dinner- twice!!

Something changed. If you had an agreement for a BCD date, and it becomes more than that at her instigation, and you don't agree to any financial exchange, and now she wants paid, either she's become greedy or she feels maybe you were taking advantage of her somehow. Could be other explanations.