Just read a review.  Guy shows up, sees it's not the girl in the pic, stays anyway, has a lousy session, is irked, writes a bad review on her.

Now if I show up to buy a Chevy and when I get there learn it's actually a Ford, a model I don't care for do I stay and buy the Ford?  Just because i made the trip and am in need of a vehicle?  I don't think so!  I politely say umm, that's really not what I had in mind, so you have a nice day, see ya.  

Which is why I just don't get these guys who stay and then almost always have a crappy session.  Yes, I know about sexual need but with all the great providers out there  it makes little sense to throw your money away on an obvious ripoff.  

I'm starting to think some of these guys deserve to be ripped off.  Harsh perhaps,  but after reading tons of these reviews the lack of common sense is irking me!

Generally , a well reviewed provider may cost you more $$. But it's worth it.

Just save your money and hobby less frequently and when you spend time with a well reviewed gal of your choice  it will be mind-blowing

Now if I show up to buy a Chevy and when I get there learn it's actually a Ford, a model I don't care for do I stay and buy the Ford?  Just because i made the trip and am in need of a vehicle?  I don't think so!

What if the Ford looks just as nice as the Chevy and he's tried calling all the Chevy dealers but they don't answer?  
What if he's driven two hours to trade his piece of shit in and won't be able to get to a dealer again for quite a while?
What if you've read consumer reports on the Chevy and they sound great but then you learn that the report was written because Chevy gave him a special deal?
What if no matter how great the Chevy sounds in the reports you simply don't think your driving experience is worth what this Chevy will cost?

Just asking!

I seem to be in the minority here, but I decided to throw my two cents in. It takes great discipline to walk away in that situation. I agree that is what needs to happen though. And I let them know why I am walking away. But to say that they deserve it is a little harsh. And in one of the responses the suggestion was made to party less often and go with the more expensive, but almost always nicer option. When I was hobbying heavily, I took the good with the bad. I am sure the more expensive options are very nice, but there are many options out there for less money. Not trying to be disrespectful, but I would rather go 4X150 than 2X300. And yes, I had bad times, but I also had many good times. Thanx.

If a girl posts a fake pic do you really think she'll look as good as the pic?  

Fake pics are dishonest and deceptive.  The person posting them just to get you to the door  (which is crucial one provider told me, just getting the client to her place)  will obviously not be a provider who will care about giving you an enjoyable session.   The choice is simple- leave or stay and have a crappy time on your hard earned money.

Agree with most of what you say.   But almost always, when they have a fake pic, the session sucks for the customer.   (pun not intended)   So I'm just saying- leave and find one of the many great providers  out there.

think with the big head NOT the little head.  This is exactly what the bait/switch advertiser is hoping for. Guys are so worked up and ready to pop, as they head over to the incall, they can't just say NO and turn away.  And as long as hobbyist fall for this trap, the advertisers will keep on doing it.

gentlemen are afraid to ask the ladies to leave.  I feel (and this is only MY thought on this topic) that if you offer a cancellation fee, at least $ 50 bucks, the ladies will go quietly and be on their merry way without you, the gentleman, feeling as though he was jacked over...

Sorry if you had a bad experience, it does happen; however, if you research the chances of your being disappointed decrease...

good luck luv,
xoox
Jazz

Oh I whole heartedly agree with you. If I show up and the pic was false I walk away. I let her know politely why, but even if she is gorgeous, I figure if she used a fake pic then the session is going to go badly. Hasn't been an issue for me though in several years, like you all have said, I do my research and only see woman who have been reviewed. Thanks for the feedback though.

with the occassion exception.


HH

Yes, a cancellation fee might keep a confrontation from happening, and the lady may go quietly, but it still is rewarding the advertiser for her FALSE ad.  I would recommend, if you're doing incall, to just leave.  Outcall is a little trickier, and that's why you should never do outcall to your private residence if you've never been with the provider before.

I agree with reviews... And I have some feedback on my site, have had much experience, AND most will not leave a review. Many are just dipping their toes in the water. They say our session was amazing and the "best ____" they have had, but when asked, no reviews. They "don't do that". These people are not hobbiest.

Am I too liberal? Maybe I don't ask enough...

Here's my other blockage, which I hope to have some clarity on by writing this, is those I have seen, even those I have seen many times (once a month for many months) don't know anything about TER or any other forums since they stumbled on me at a party or by reading my blog, and won't write a review.

The few reviews I do have state how grateful/satisfied/honored they were, however, they see me for however long and get what they needed and I'm review-less. I had tons of passionate insightful emails and much great correspondences, and... All of which I found perfectly fine since I have been rather underground for so long that it didn't matter. Now that I've poked my head up I can see how important they can be.

Any suggestions?

Bhakti

Haroldaz, I agree with you.

I think this (a session) is one of the most authentic encounters we can have with another person. How could we begin by deception? I am who I say I am. I have been told I am even better in person then my photos (and my photos are pretty good since I took them!) and I hold the space to be sincere. I don't want my clients to fake ANYTHING! If you cannot be honest with me, when there isn't a consequence or relationship issues, then who can you be honest with? The same goes for me.

I see this as an opportunity to speak your truth. So if I were to buy a car (extending the metaphor) and I showed up and it was a truck, I'd have to say so. I am not going to replace your reality for mine unless its superior! Expecting a Ferrari and getting a v-dub is deception. What else will you be deceived by?

Again, let's see, do I want McDonald's or Ocean Club? If you want the fast food, no problem, get that. But if you are expecting Ocean Club and end up with McD's its rather disappointing.
Just sayin'

I agree why pay them  for bad behavior? $50 bucks and your time invested already  I say just go  you do not need to explain yourself they know why

I'd ask  your regulars if they wouldn't mind doing you a favor and writing a review.   I'd stress to them that it is important to you and I'm sure they'd take the few minutes to write one.  Perhaps they just don't realize that it is important.   You seem like a wonderful provider and you should have tons of positive reviews!