In light of all the recent raids, arrests, and in general the attempts to deter members of this community from their freedoms I would like to discuss the age old issue of Phone Etiquette.
 I know this issue has been discussed relentlessly and yet I personally still seem to be running into several issues with etiquette. I would like to leave a gentle reminder to all those that frequent women in this profession. There are several points I would like to touch on and I encourage anyone and everyone to add their own message to this.

1) Please try not mention anything of any sexual nature on a phone call with me, or for that matter any of the providers.
If you are interested in a specific service please read the reviews or take a look at the provider's website. I am quite sure anything you need to know will be there if you take the time to look. If all else fails ask, but only after all else fails. DO NOT ask "do you take it in the ass" or "can I come on your face" for example. If you know the provider offers full service, which you would if you bothered to read the reviews,  that would be something that could wait untill you see each other in person.

2) Please try not to ask me to give a detailed physical description of myself. I feel that if you were serious about seeing me you would have taken a look at my website, where I might add are pictures of me. Not to mention that some parts of the physical description tend to lead towards conversation of a sexual nature. Example: when I get to the part about having 36DDs "Those are really big tits, huh? Do you like to have them sucked on?"

3)Please try not to discuss money over the phone. You should try to know the providers' donation requirements before you call. They are once again listed in the reviews and on the provider's website for more current info. Feel free to ask about specials, they are always changing. I am sick of being asked "How much will it cost for you to come over and #$@!" which is not only distasteful, but will cause you to promptly be hung up on.

4)If you are trying to use another provider as a reference make sure she is available to take a referal call. Providers are not always available for this and I hate trying to bother someone else in the middle of the night. If I cannot reach the provider and you are unwilling to give me all the information I require to make sure you are legitimate, do not fly off the handle at me because I will not come see you. It isn't like you really wanted to see me in the first place if you were unwilling to give me information I need for my safety. Also if you are scared about releasing information such as your last name or a home phone number you really only have three alternatives.

A) Call around untill you find someone else to see you or take a drive down Van Buren.

B) Quit the hobby and stay home by yourself with a good flick  and a bottle of lube

C) Join an organization such as Secret Keepers or Room Service 2000.

I must say all the slugs I run across do not keep me from loving what I do. I adore the good old boys that make this business not only fun, but rewarding as well. I hope those that this did not apply to do not take this to heart, but recognize this as something that simply does not apply to them. For all the rest grow up, act a little more like you belong to a civilized society, or stop calling and subjecting the women of this profession to your rude, crass, and mind numbing stupidity!!

Ahem!! Now that the lecture is over boys and girls. Next weeks lesson is on Etiquitte During a Session... LOL

I heard of a guy in an SUV who stopped to pickup a prostitute on Van Buren....

Got rear-ended twice....
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THEN they got hit by a car!

A number of the things you mentioned should be self evident to any of us guys (apparently they are not) and vulgarity and rudeness in conversation, either phone or e-mail is TOTALLY unacceptable on any occasion. In your item #1 you mentioned that by reading the providers web site or reviews, a guy should be able to get a pretty good feel as to the services available. You then go on to say regarding more specific clarifications ................" that could wait until you see each other in person." While I agree with you that the web site information usually provides enough regarding some of the bigger issues ( massage vs FS, etc.), they generally do not offer enough in the way of specifics that are important to some of us. As in my case, being an older gentleman who is discovering the effects of aging and the increasing difficulty in attaining O, cbj just doesn't cut it anymore and I seek those comfortable with bbj preferably tc. Problem here is that you gals CAN'T be that specific at the web site. The reviews are not completely helpful either as you know, since many of the narratives are either over or understated; provider's profiles and services offered are often inaccurate (usually overstated here) and, naturally we have the YMMV variable at work. I for one, have still not yet found a universal solution to the problem of being clear about just what is specifically available in advance of a meeting. Even individual provider posts on the boards are confusing at times. I can think of a well known provider (whom I have not had the opportunity to meet yet)  in one instance suggest that she is comfortable with bbj and in another post indicated that she only will consider cbj. Sooooooooo, what is the real expectation here?  I have always had trouble with the concept taking time from a busy schedule to arrange a meeting wherein I can get the answers I would like. I think it terribly awkward to schedule a meeting, go there, have your discussions only to discover that what you are interested in is NOT available and then have to tell the lady "sorry about that" and leave. Were I her, I think I might feel somewhat offended and pissed that I cleared my schedule for a session that didn't happen. For me, it was wasted time and effort and a similar imposition in a busy schedule among other things. Nothing worse than getting all cranked up to have a great time and have that come crashing down. I must say however, that my experience to date in getting that clarification before a meeting has generally been OK, but just OK. A lot of the ladies can field and respond to that sort of query if it is done in a "round about kind of way" through e-mail or phone. Some are even comfortable handling it more directly. But, there are some, who are not comfortable in addressing the issue beforehand in any form and, of course, I respect that. My only response in this case is to NOT proceed in scheduling a meet which could be unfortunate as the service I require might indeed be on the menu and I miss the opportunity of meeting a really wonderful provider. So what is the answer? I just  don't know...............but would like to!

Lyn, can't wait until next weeks lesson on session Etiquitte.
Now don't let us down.

SlowStart

You're so right Muffyman

There are so many out there who like or need something special and it's so hard for them to convey this over the phone, email or instant message. Providers have to be so very careful about what and how much they discuss. (The ones that weren't last week are paying the price now.)

I don't know what the answer is to help you find what you need but I can definately tell you that you'd love a massage session with me ;o)

I certainly understand your frustration, I think the most polite way to get the answers you are looking for are to simply ask "Do you require safety products/covers for all activities?" I would even answer that question. Not only does it refrain from things of a blatant sexual nature, but it does give you the answer you are requesting.

Unfortunataly for you and for us, Angel is right! There is no way we can sit on the phone and have detailed discussions about what's going to happen without putting ourselves at risk, and putting yourself at risk! If you recall - Joe's goin after the clients now too! Until our country gets their heads out of their asses and and lets adults consent to private activities without legal interference - we are ALL driving above the speed limit every time we get in the seat !! ~

Do we have a solution? Maybe we can sit around and come up with some really creative code language that sounds like gibberish to LE...

-- Modified on 11/19/2003 6:06:26 PM