Hi I really would appreciate some advice especially from the provider community. I am interested in possibly seeing some providers although at the moment I have no particular person in mind. Even though I would like to see someone I have been very hesitant to even embark on such an exercise because I dont know the answer to my question.I know this is going to sound wierd but here goes.

I am on the shy side of 55 and everytime I think of calling a provider I think "Oh she wouldnt want to see me Im to old and would just gross her out" I dont doubt that any provider I would see would say that to me openly but in the back of their minds I think that would be what they are thinking. Thus my reluctance to see some one. Its not that I am some sort of slob I am a succesful business executive, I have good manners and am extremely well groomed. Its because of that that I would not want to impose myself on some one and gross them out because of my age.

Am I correct in my assesment? You providers out there what are your views and feelings about seeing a 50 year old. Please be frank you wont hurt my feelings. I would greatly appreciate any feedback and thank you in advance for taking the time to at least read this.

BTW I dont mean to limit this to providers anyone is free to respond its just its the providers that I worry about would think this. Also I am aware that there are several older and more mature providers that I could limit myself to seeing but then again my options there become very limited. I certainly do not want to limit them if I am mistaken in my perceptions. Once again thanks

If anyone wants to respond privately my e mail address is [email protected]

Hi Triple,

I totally understand where you are coming from. Myself I enjoy the older men, more experience if you know what I mean. As long as you stated about well groomed, good manners and respectful I will open my arms to you. As I believe most providers would.

Just my two cents,
Kisses,
Rub

I was afraid to see a provider when I first started, cause I would think, "How is she gonna think about my looks?" But most of the ones I've seen have been very professional. For those who I've seen know what I'm talking about. Even being friends. So I'm sure they have no problem with age (I'm also not a spring chicken). You know what they say about age? The older, the better. Lol.

Vampy

Don't you worry about a thing!  I have clients from ages 23 to 70+.  As long as you are respectful to my girls, I'd love to work with you!  The girls that work for me, as with many of the providers in the valley, don't care about age, they just want to be respected and have a good time with whomever they are with.  Treat them right and they will return the favor time and time again!

I think your fear is unfounded, at least with many of the gals.

Obviously this is a way to make a living however many truely enjoy both sex and men. From personal experience Isabella, Kara, MJ and Jordan Kay are all wonderful. Mya (among others) is certainly another great choice but thats based on her reputation among those I know in the hobby.

It's hard to pick among the 1st four...Jordan Kay is an old ATF...distance and circumstance forced a change in my routine back then. MJ simply makes my head (and the rest of my anatomy) spin...obviously YMMV. Isabella is still the best 1st encounter I've ever had (I'm leaving MJ out since there was a chemical explosion of some kind there)...if you've never seen a provider she's a wonderful introduction. As for Kara, I actually enjoyed myself tremendously the 1st time...the second time was a completely different experience...truthfully I think she's an awful complex person and as you work down thru the layers (if she'll let you) that you'll be rewarded in many ways.

My advice, stop sticking your toe in the water and just jump in. The water's fine in here

You shouldn't worry so much!  I personally adore older men - for many of the reasons you cited (manners,well groomed).  You can't beat the maturity level.  This may seem cliche, but I believe deeply that inner beauty is more important than the outer package.  As long as someone treats me well, I'm melting all over the place.

I myself like older guys, I love the conversations we have and the fact that I feel older men know how to treat a lady. Thats not saying anything against younger men but experience tends to show that. I think men tend to look better as they get older, wish us women could say the same. Anyways happy hunting here in AZ hope your visit here is great and romantic.

XOXO
Carla

that a sucessful business ececutive, who is well mannered, concerned about fulfilling a ladies needs, well groomed, and seemingly very sweet... you must be kidding... You truly sound like a dream client... many of the women in the industry prefer gents a little older for all the reasons you mentioned and some that I read into because of the fact that you even posted regarding the subject. There is something I love about being around a gentleman who appreciates the finer things in life. Someone who is not all wam bam thank you mam. You truly sound like you have a lot to give to the equation of making a provider happy. Many of the men and women on TER... you know who you are... will agree that what really counts are the qualities you mentioned not a little thing like age, race, or religion. There are many, and I mean many men who are around the same age as you, that see providers on a regular basis. On the same note there are I am quite positive just as many providers who adore clientele with similar attributes to what you mentioned.

AZ Hacker, don't you be calling my baby girl old.  Foxy is the youngest best looking thing going, and oh so gooood.

hehe...

Obviously I didnt mean she is old...as you and I both know she set the standard for everyone to try to live up too...

I will be honest with you. I would prefer to meet a gentleman who is older, who takes his time to enjoy ALL of the time he spends with me and who isn't rushed to just get off vice a younger guy who may be more interested in the nectar that lies between my legs than the brains that lie between my ears and how to enjoy both at the same time. I've found that men who are more wise and mature chronologically and mentally understand that a true, all-encompassing experience cannot exist without mind and body alignment. Looks are secondary to mental acuity and attraction. In my personal life, I've dated more than a few men whom my friends thought weren't "attractive" enough for me....but see, I thought they were well beyond attractive enough mentally and emotionally and the physical was only a secondary thought.

Basically, what I'm trying to relay to you is this: If you are an interesting, intelligent, caring, loving, kind man, it matters not what your age in numbers may be, rather what matters is your ability to enjoy the full experience with a lady. I assure you, if you are able to enjoy all parts of the experience with the right lady, you will feel as virile as a 25 year old young man and as well-cared for as only a 55 year old man can understand.

Much luck to you in the future. I do hope you find what you seek and I hope your first experience reaches beyond all of your expectations!

Respectfully yours,

Megan

Megan you are always a plethera of word and a joy to behold.  Not to mention a great conversationalist.  By the way, are you ready to debate politics?  Let me know

Why would you think you weren't entitled to the best that life has to offer you , just because of your age? You have earned the right to explore and enjoy the life you have made for yourself. As for the ladies, I personally know that the majority of us PREFER a gentleman who has experienced life, and has learned the art of treating a lady like the special gift she is. Grossed out, I think not...Turned on, excited about the possibilities of meeting someone with a great sense of themselves and what they enjoy...Oh YES!
Here is one of my favorite quotes on aging by one of my favorites:
"Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rage at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light."
-- Dylan Thomas

Rage on against those negative feelings, and know that you are only as old as you feel!
Peace, Love and passion,
Malissa xoxoxo

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!

I prefer more mature men.

Need I say more?

AZCandy
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I want to thank you all so very much for responding to my question. The number of responses exceeded all my expectations. What was especially gratifying was that no one thought I was a weirdo for asking my question LOL.

In all seriousness my question was motivated by my desire to be respectfull to the provider community. I am sure this is not a minority position but personally just becuase one may exchange legal tender for companionship does not diminish the responsibility to be respectfull. I sort of consider that an old school position and I am "old" school

Anyway it was a question that I needed to get answered thanks again for all your comments and e mails. It is much appreciated!

Triple