That I am starting a new business.  I really don't know where it is go to lead me. I have had a fun time doing research and writing down my thoughts.  My prior profession kind of helped too.  I posted this on the general board a few weeks ago too.  I wanted to know your opinions on this analogy.  Men and women, do you think this "rule" applies.  Of course there are always exceptions and it doesn't really apply to the escort world.  One of the things that I am going to be doing in my new business is working with men and women with dating/relationship issues.  After reading tons of books, researching studies and conducting my own, I am ready.  Here is my analogy.


   Mike had many of his dreams centered around a particular job. He spends a great amount of effort sending his resume out for his ideal position. After a great deal of hard work he was finally called.  More time was spent on formulating a plan on how he will conduct himself at the job interview.  Wanting to reveal all of his passions, ideas about this position and how he can make a difference in furthering the companies growth. Intimidated but he knows he is qualified for this position, he just needs a fair chance.
   Mike can hardly sleep, this is what he has desired for so very long.. He can feel his stomach turning, he is trembling from his nerves.  He has so much fear, he wants the interviewer to like him, but he is so worried that he will mess up, even with the knowledge that he is qualified for this position. His fear of living life any longer without this job is too much to bear. He finally drifts off to sleep.
   The next day Mike wakes up early, takes a shower and tries to keep a positive attitude even when those troubled thoughts incessantly enter into his mind. He looks fabulous wearing an Armani Suit, clean shaved, pearly white smile and he finishes with an after shave with a calming and subtle masculine aroma.        Arriving to his interview 15 minutes early he waits in the lobby until he is called in. He keeps thinking to himself "Here is your opportunity, make it happen!"
   The interview is going very well.  This seems to be a great match.  Mike reveals many of his ideas and answers questions with such a savvy that he almost impresses himself.  The chances of getting this job are looking great. He is expecting that the interviewer is going to give him the job right on the spot!
    Moments later he is disappointed when the interviewer suggests two more follow up interviews.  He asks in a stern voice "Don't you think that I am qualified for this position?" The interviewer answers "Mike I think you are very qualified for this position, it is company policy that we have three interviews before we hire anybody." I am looking forward to seeing you again." Mike now has a little more desperation in his tone.  "I have been waiting for this job all my life, I really want you to hire me now." The interviewer says:"Most companies of this quality have this three interview policy, it is usually only high turn over positions where somebody would get a job right away, can't you understand that Mike?" Mike is now combative he replies: "No I don't understand at all! I just went over all of my credentials, you laughed at my jokes and told me that you liked me and that I was qualified for the position, what kind of tease is this?" The interviewer is very shocked, it was thought that Mike had a great chance at filling this position, however he is too anxious.  The interviewer now frustrated rejects Mike and says "I don't think we will have another interview, in order to work at this company you need to have patience and a little understanding of how our policy works. " You clearly do not respect the boundaries here so I am going to have to ask you to leave." Mike starts acting in such a pathetic way, he starts pleading over and over "please oh please hire me." Poor Mike ends up getting escorted out by security.
   The sad thing, Mike really was qualified for this position and it could have been his.  He had waited so long and he just had a little while longer to endure. His desperation to hold on to this position before he was even hired cost him greatly.
   Dating and job interviews have held similarities for  many in pursuit of a relationship. At times it is frustrating the pressure of having to answer all of the questions properly,  good credentials and a stellar resume. It is true.  Most people are looking for those with a good resume.  The resume sounds like this: Trusting and Honest, Patient, Attractive, Hard Working, Good with Children and Emotionally Stable, to name just a few.
   I would like to get back to Mike and his interview.  Just as a good company would require three interviews so do most women.  I used this as an example because I met a really nice guy at a bar, enjoyed the conversation that took place and I found his passions intriguing.  After an hour of conversing similar to Mike this gentleman took a turn for the worst and wanted the position immediately.  I let him down gently and said: I am not ready to go back to your place yet, I don't feel comfortable and trusting, I need more time, perhaps lunch another day would be great.     The guy at the bar and the guy on the interview could have had the position they wanted.  The position could have been a great job, relationship or even a quick fling.  Persistence gets you to the interview, however desperation gets you a small unemployment check and a hang over of loneliness.

Angelina, it appears you want to be a "relationship coach", similar to Will Smith in "Hitch".   The analogyis fine, but where women are involved, there is never any way of determining in the motives of both parties are sincere.  Using the above analogy,, where the job applicant was pursuing a real position, the female may have been merely toying with him.  Perhaps she was already in a committed relationship, was merely flirting with no intent of going further, or was just being nice to avoid a scene.  Under such scenarios, all the patience in the world would have gone nowhere.
  As to the scene in the bar, I would agree that women can sense desperation on a man as strong as cheap cologne.  It is the ability to hold such feelings in check that result in positive matches.

There is no way of ever knowing what the true motives are initially.  Perhaps, he was just interested in sleeping with her (that's fine) but maybe she is tired of that approach.  Some women take that as rejection too.  Haven't you ever heard a woman complain about that?  "I wish he wanted me for more than just my body?"  It would be nice for a guy to invite me to lunch?  Anyways, I have big qualms with the way some women operate too, don't get me wrong.  I just haven't addressed any of those issues on this public board yet.  From my observations it is clear, some men are too pushy.  Some women nag too much, some women act like their vagina will unlock the mysteries of the universe.  EVERYBODY has issues.  As far as your comment about Hitch, yes I have heard that one many times.  My idea stemed from a book called "The Evolution of Desire." I'm not a psychologist nor will I claim to be one.  I just feel that from time to time some people can benefit from a new outlook or approach to things.  Thank you so much for your opinion.  Your thoughts are very useful and appreciated.

xoxo
Angelina Marris

Surprising that we have relationships at all, trying to bring barely evolved ball scratching, sperm spewing sight hunters together with those  programmed for  gathering,  nesting, nurturing, and child bearing. Yet our species survives.   (credit the power of women)  Finding a way  for folks to explore  beyond the  introduction is intriguing. In our complex society people do need help sorting out this issue. To make this a viable enterprise will take a person of  intelligence, insight, charisma, commitment, and a passion for the task  ....such as you.  No clue if your new  business is marketable as  dating  passed me  by so long ago I can't even see the letter d anymore.  Your  nature  leads you to try and help others.  That can be both a wondrous  blessing and a curse.   Be careful,  good luck and as always  my best wishes

Well put modprod.  They do say opposites attract. Thank God Disney came out with some sort of "you will meet your prince charming" series sometime in the 40's. I often leave glass slippers in front of the castle's of distinguised gentlemen.  Unfortunatley, size 7 is pretty common.
    I continue to appreciate you, I most certainly hope these fine ladies in Phoenix are showing you the great gratitude that you deserve.
    Thank you for the continued vote of confidence.  Now, go scratch your balls, I'm going to cook dinner

xoxo
Angelina Marris

Theres many Mikes and Mikettes out there. Interesting your journey will be.

While size 7 may be common, you surely are NOT!  You're unique, in a very good way, so please don't change.  And, Best of Luck in your new endeavor!