Just wondering, for the guys what really makes a session with an escort or a massage provider top notch, and what makes it below par? What do you expect for your hard earned dollars spent? Girls, what makes or breaks a session for you with clients. Are there specific criteria that you know will make a session sizzle and others that you know will make a session fizzle? I will post my answers later, but figured this may be a good thread for all to converse on  
Peace,Passion and Love,
Malissa xoxoxo

If a man is freshly shaved and bathed and adds a little splash of aftershave or cologne I am all about getting to know him much better. If he smells like an old goat I'm all about getting him out the door without having to breathe!!! (Then there's the stinky ones who go to take a shower but DON'T WASH. I don't know what they're doing in there but it it doesn't have anything to do with soap or a washcloth! LOL)

A sense of humor can make a session out of this world too. I think playfulness is very sexy ;o)

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Sometimes it's the little stuff that really makes a big difference. I am always pleased/turned on when a provider takes the initiative to get close/touch at the start of our appointment. For example, there is something about her coming up to me when I am opening a bottle of wine and she starts to rub my back or when we are sitting on the couch and she starts to play with the buttons on my shirt. It might be minor contact but it starts the engine.
When a companion makes an effort to create a sense of desire and/or to imply a desire to be intimate, it just seems to set a great stage for making great Woopy!!!

if there is one.  The first kiss lets you know right away whether there will be passion or if it will be a business-like session.  And yes, I love to kiss!

And the ones that don't wash, oh ya!! I hate to offend anyone, nah actually I don't care about offending them, but I do hate to hurt a persons feelings or make them feel self concious or humiliated. Those are very bad things when you are trying to make Mr. Happy happy. If I ever recommend a shower show, it is because the guy STINKS or he was STINKY the last time I saw him!!! I go months not running into it and then I run into days where I shower before a session, shower in a session, and shower after a session. If you ever see me on the street looking like a prune you will know why.  SO hygeine can kill the mood if it is a lack of hygiene.  A clean man I can just lunge at and pull right on top of me...HMMM.

The only other things that kill it for me is the man who acts all superior because I am "the whore". It happens not very often, but it does. Sometimes I go through with the sesion just simmering under the surface and a few times I have just kicked em to the curb.

The final killer is a man who talks about his SO through the whole entire session. I do not mind a little venting or a tid bit about her or your history. I do not mind you talking about us all hooking up, FUN! If all you have to talk about is what a Bitch she is, how she is a SLUT, or oon the other hand how wonderful she is, that you just can't understand why it isn't working out with you two, if I am cowgirl and you are talking to me about her, that is  a KILLER.  Once again this doesn't happen very often, but when it does GRRRR!

If you come to me clean, with a good sense of humour, and maybe a present (What, I am a girl, I love em!!) or a great big bear hug when I let you in... I just get riled up. Oh and I love it when a man calles me a Sexy Bitch or something similar at just the right moment... a little dirty talk can send me over the edge.

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I'm with Boz, right on the money

Probably things that are almost impossible.
Like, I enjoy your company, small talk, sex talk to get the kinks out, not be in a hurry, not asking for green within 2 seconds of entering the door, not worn out and does'nt have kids.
Is that too much to ask ?

AMEN! I'm all for hot, passionate kissing ;o)

Turn ons

The first kiss...Allowing me to dictate the session....Making it a true GFE....No clock watching...Doing the unexpected

Turn offs

Poor hygene.....Cigarette breath (or smoke smell anywhere)....Hidden Tatoo's...Robotic......Wanting my session to go the way all her sessions go....THE WORD NO!!!

First and most important for me is attitude. I can overlook a lot but for me this one is a dealbreaker. Doesn't matter what skills a lady has if she hasn't got heart.

Second, intelligence. The woman MUST have a triple-digit IQ and enough education to be able to carry her half of a conversation. Not rocket science or anything, but more than just about the weather. This is also a dealbreaker for me.

Next, there needs to be some physical attraction. Since #1 and #2 are much more important to me, there's a heck of a lot of leeway in this area.

After that, boundaries. Her boundaries and mine need to kinda sorta line up.

Last, skills.  Actually this is kind of taken care of with the attitude thing.  I'm not generally impressed by tricks unless they have some practical application.  Novelties are nice, but for me skin against skin is the only way to go.

I look to connect on a level a little bit deeper than just a physical encounter, but nothing that should cross the average SP's boundaries. For me what happens on the break is as important as what happens between breaks - and there needs to be a solid intellectual and not-quite-as-solid emotional connection. I'm perfectly capable of walking away at the end of the appointment, but I need a hell of a lot more than physical attraction and a decent set of skills.

I think the following are important. not asking for money up front, able to carry a converstation, attractive, a person that likes to touch and be touched, good kisser, a person that creates an atomosphere of lust and not to talk about her problems during the session.

Hygiene is up there pretty high on my list.

If I fall in love for an evening, that always makes the session seem worthwhile.

The first kiss is usually a great predictor for me.

But as I think back to a week ago, it is really a myriad of little things that make a difference between an ordinary visit and a top notch visit.  I'm comparing two visits, one ordinary, one spectacular in the same city (not Phoenix) a few nights apart, both with ladies with mostly 8, 9, and 10 reviews).  I don't want to bore you with details, but I'll give you examples of the little (or maybe they aren't so little) things that made the difference.  The spectcular lady gave me hints (some verbal, some physical, say by body position) of things she would enjoy having me do without making me feel like I had to do them.  The spectacular lady seemed to have a hand (or a face, or maybe her hair, or a tongue) near a sensitive spot on my body most of the time in between the spectacular events.  The spectacular lady treated me like an old friend.  The spectacular lady really seemed like she likes being around a man.  (She seemed hungry for  physical intimacy.)  OK, now comes a biggie.  The spectacular lady adjusted her way of doing things to how my body reacted, and as a result I was able to enjoy more (and more varied) activity than I've been able to in years.

More and more "little" things keep coming to mind, but this post is long already.  The ordinary visit, BTW, was one of those YMMV visits.  Had her mood been different, had my mood been different, had my body not been behaving like an older guy's body it might have been great fun.  But if anything, this had me worried about the visit that turned out to be spectacular, and somehow I think that my mileage wasn't about to vary with the spectacular lady.

I looked back at your questions to see if I answered them, and I could go on for pages, but I will stop here.