Hi, everyone. The Sheika is back—probably to the joy of a few and the despair of many.I was working in Kuwait and I spent a short time in Bahrain--to take care of some work-visa and residency requirements.  

I’m absolutely thrilled to be back in the States. America is truly and amazing country. The election process is so fair and so passionate. The issues are so pertinent to every class of citizen. You should all be very proud to be Americans

The economy is one such passionate issue. It has really taken a nosedive (did the Sheika use the colloquialism correctly?). The DOW is way down. Then, there is the housing crisis, the cost of crude, and the war/s—God help us. Other than the economic down turn, there is the alien border crisis, national security and health care. Indeed, let’s not forget health care when you decide who’s to be your next president.

While in Kuwait, I was stricken with a combination of food poisoning and heat prostration. I was hospitalized for a day. I saw a doctor within ten minutes of my arrival, I was treated immediately and given a private room, where a male nurse and a female orderly served vigil while I was rehydrated intravenously. I slept and slept and slept. It was delightful.

The hospital was one of the most modern I have ever seen. The care was friendly, polite, personal and extremely professional. The cost for all the services, private room, care and prescription drugs was 3KD or about $9.00. Really, it’s true; it’s true! If they can do it in a country like Kuwait, I am sure we can do it in the States. And, because of America’s great ideals, spirit and commitment to excellence we will do a much better job too!

Oh-hum, the Sheika is rambling. I’m sorry. It’s just that I care. I really do--and I haven’t even gotten to the important part of this post.

As most of you know, I’m not an escort but I am rather versed in the subject. I would like to pose a simple question. It is a question with varied depths and dimensions. It is a question that has many complicated and multi-faceted answers. I would like to see answers from both clients and providers and—Paul are you there—some agency owners, too.

I think this question is an excellent topic for this board and it will stimulate much discussion. It will take us out of the doldrums, if you will.

The simple question is: Why do people pay for sex?

Please give it some thought-as I know many of you have-and let us know what you think.

If you don’t feel comfortable posting on this forum, you can e-mail me at [email protected]. I hope to hear from everyone.

I LOVE YOU ALL,

Sheika Fatima    



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Obviously the answer is varied and unique for each person and has much more depth than this, but I think that when it comes down to it, the ultimate answer is because it is easy.

By that I mean it is much easier than trying to meet girls at a bar, etc. You get the most benefit with the least amount of effort. For most it is easier than the stress of meeting girls (social anxiety), or an easy way to fulfill fantasys, or an easier way to find an escape when there is otherwise no time. Just an opinion, but I think at the core of it, it comes down to it just being easier on those of us that do it, whatever the reason.

Such a stimulating question would require more than a post and much more than an email. Sheika, I would be happy to discuss this subject with you over drinks, or dinner. Your choice, my treat.

AHHH The dance continues...


Paul

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...that means everything is on sale.  The next group of millionaires is about to be created.

Sometimes it's just easier and more convenient to pay and drop a load than to work it. Also, you can work a girl and in the meantime get a nut and drop some CIM so you are not so pent up.

sex always comes at some sort of price for both people involved; when a man endeavors to have a relationship, i believe that there are virtuous intentions undrlying the task, but there are also, most definitely, the animal urges demanding satisfaction, similar to the need to eat and sleep, men need sex in a way most women cannot understand. however, sex is often equated with commitment, and therefore, to have a gauranteed supply of sex, you compromise yourself (often more than you want to) in order to appease the demands of the lady, if you want her to stay. in turn, the women gives sex almost like a "present" in turn for her needs (which are many and complex and sometimes quite materialistically selfish) to be satisfied. this sounds very pessimistic, and i do not mean for this to apply to all situations, as i am in love myself with a partner and do not see myself as the type to use sex as a tool in our relationship, but then again, i am a provider, and in a strange way, perhaps this benefits my relationship.
no matter what the case at some point men pay via various medium, and women naturally flaunt their assets subconsciously, and consciously, as a means to some goal in mind. don't let this basic format of the beast in all of us dispell the other lovely attributes to women, relationships, and sex, i am just talking about the physical body and survival instinct at a primitive level.

personally i dont pay for the sex i pay for the lack of baggage afterwards. theres no nasty confrontations, scratched cars, hang up calls etc if i dont bother to call the next day or heaven forbid never call at all.

(what can i say i seem to attract the stalky crazies when i go amateur that is the main reason i dont often)

if they are nice and turn on adult swim on the way out the door ill think of them fondly as i watch naruto in my quiet drama free abode.

providers recognize this fact, and in truth, your honesty and detachment is preferred over an unrealistic client who seems to hope that he can make a relationship form out of these encounters; i like the honesty of the situation: very real and to the point, no mind games, no "baggage", as you put it, and both parties benefit... this is why such a business works

Let’s explore this line of thinking some more.  

Moby and Anna and Sweetsouthrn, you seem to be shying away from sex with an emotional attachment, or—shall we say--the use of sex as a bonding agent in long term relationship. The Sheika believes that you are both sincere in thnking that:  When money changes hands, it negates all emotional involvement.

Let’s give this careful consideration and see if it corresponds with the reality of the escort business…What is typical and what isn't?

Moby, dearest, would you have sex for fee if it was guaranteed to be 100% casual. I think not. The Sheika thinks clients pay for looks, performance and variety. Clients try to fulfill fantasies. Clients are searching. But, searching for what? Possibly a modicum of emotionality?

We need to consider the phenomena of preferred, repeat clients. There are many providers and agencies who have a list of clients whom they see and service on a regular basis. Often times, these “sex for money’ sessions with preferred, repeat clients resemble friendly counseling session with an erotic component at the end—a faked sexual bonding, if you will. Indeed, many providers advertise a true GFE. Some providers base their careers on feigned or simulated emotional attachments. They pretend to care but in reality they dissociate sex completely.

Anatomically speaking, men need some type of a  sexual release if they are to survive with any degree of sanity. I’m not sure if this is true of women.

Well, what do you (all) think? The Sheika always appreciate your comments

PEACE, POSPERITY AND LOVING REGARDS,

Sheika Fatima
[email protected]
 



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on my non pro excursions im not very picky as long as she seems nice and drug/disease free ill probably go along for the ride...


that may have something to do with my poor track record since i dont even do the cursory research i would for a 100 dollar date off of craigs.

the ladies i repeat with i like but im not going to call them at 3 in the morning because I just died playing quake 4 against some jerk from norway thats why i have friends

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Never have I known another man who is able to have 'relationship sex' exactly WHEN he wants and for exactly HOW LONG he wants.


Oh those fickle, unpredictable, temperamental, glorious female sex engines. Why can't I get that carborator adjustment to stay?

"thank heaven for little girls!"

ana = anabangbang
anna = swedish anna

please. i am confused enough.

yes i avoid emotional attachments but i've enjoyed many long term relationships with my clients most of which have been with me 3+ years.

i dont do personal relationships.

They pay for TIME with a nice lady. Why? Because they want, need and deserve to be treated like a king. You guys work very hard. It basically gets taken for granted and totally overlooked. Life gets in the way and affection gets put on a back burner, and the burner is usually OFF. I feel as if time with me is a well deserved TREAT. Then the gent goes home happy, got a little lift and some relaxation time... we are all happy.

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