"getting to know each other" pryer to heading BCD? If it  is an hr date  I understand it is accelerating dating and you have limited time  but never really know especially on a first date  how much time guys want just to relax and get to know you first ....how important is the small talk?  and who's place is it to control  the pace?  Some guys really like to get a sense of  who you are while others just want to hit it  quickly .....I love to get too know and like the person I am going to be romantic with   but not sure  how the men feel  .....maybe they guy should take the lead if he is not interested in you as a person? and say something  like let's get this party started .......

I think the answers vary, not just from guy to guy, but also for one guy depending on his immediate situation and the girl he's seeing.  When I fantasize about the first time I meet you, I'd like to spend about a half hour or so building a connection with increasing sexual interest that accelerates over time into a frenzy of activity.  Then back to a slower pace with another half hour of intimate discovery (maybe another mini frenzy).

Hope that helps. I'm on my way to a cold shower now...

Victoria...there always seems to be a common thread to your posts, and this betterment.  You have a genuine desire to make the experience with you as amazing as possible by finding out what the your companion expects.  Good for you!!  I think that you are the perfect example of what a true provider should be.  What a joy it must be to be with you.  I am currently living in London, but my next trip to the States will include you.  I'm sure I speak for many by thanking you for wanting to make it better.

I enjoy getting to know the girl a bit and developing a personal connection.   They say providers and clients can never really become friends but I've been with a couple of providers who call me on occasion just to chat and ask me for advice and such as I'm a lot older then most of them and have more worldly experience.   For me the experience is lots more than sex so yeah I do enjoy getting to know a girl a bit before the clothes come off.

It does  thank you ......I  like your style and approach

I believe that the lady should set the tone of the date. If she's willing to not be a clock watcher, then take as long as you need. Some guys think that the women is just wasting time chit chatting. Or they might not get MSOG.

I personaly would love to get to know the lady before playtime. That's why I enjoy M&G's. You can meet someone, talk about anything & everything, see what you have in common and then when you "meet" again, it's like a old friend.

Thanks John, and  I think most of the ladies here really do want to know these questions and answers we are in the business of providing our best company to  you all....and your feedback cetainly helps. A couple of my reviews in the past have mentioned  we talked a  long time  and I just really want to know how to make sure we both our oon the same page with what is expected.

I agree but the first  date is a fine line and I would like my date to let me know  just how soon he wants to move BCD......the second  date is never an issue  it is more like reconnecting with an old lover you both know what's up

Great question Victoria. I personally like at least a 2 hour date so that we can spend the first 30 minutes enjoying a good bottle of wine getting to know each other. This goes for the second, third, fourth and more visits, its just nice to relax in the company of a beautiful women talking about life enjoying the wine.

Such a great topic to get feedback on! I loved everyones responses...I think you all have very tasteful approaches to make it the best experience as possible with the provider. Great info to know!

...get busy in the boudoir; more than likely he just can't wait to jump your bones!
There's time to get to know each other during pillow talk time, no?
For a one hour date I think that 10 to 15 minutes is appropriate for getting to know each other. During that time it's helpful if a woman signals her acceptance of him with touches and closeness so he can feel comfortable initiating the next step but I love it when a woman drags me into the bedroom to start the party.

funny  but true story a newbie contacts me and asks what to expect as far as time goes  I said  its around  an hr  he paused a long time and then said so what am I going to do with the other 58 minutes? It cracked me up  so funny but true in some cases