Thanks, in defense of her (and we spoke for weeks in long really thoughtful emails), she didn't ghost me.  She said she was sick.  But the thing was that I could tell three days before that she wasn't going to come because the conversation really slowed down after daily messages.  She seems like a beautiful soul so I was actually heartbroken.  

OK, you had never met her, and were flying her to NYC, $1000 hotel, fanciest of fancy dinners, blah-blah-blah.
U mean to tell me U couldn't find someone closer to NYC that is DEPENDABLE and attractive to U?
Your move is clearly one of the dumbest I've ever heard of, and I've made plenty of mistakes in this Hobby over the years.

He already lots his money why insult the man several times? Have empathy? To much negativity in these boards it makes me sick. He’s generally concerned as a human being. I respect a kind & caring gentleman.

Sorry that happened to you. I hope she’s ok. Many reputable providers would communicate prior to the booked date if something happened. Hopefully she will get back to you & make it right. I cherish my adult fun & only would cancel if it was life emergency. Again, I hope she is alright.