am not a rookie , not looking for advice, such as it is,Just looking for other thoughts and comments on this private side of my life. I do enjoy the posts re: ladies coming and going, shameless shilling,rants, news of coming events and even enjoy some of the petty drama that gets posted.Just , as a rule , am not aware of much public sharing of thoughts and comments by the hobbiests.Within my circle of brothers we chat up stuff, however ,looking to get a different take . So before I venture forward with another question, wanted to gauge interest of the collective. Let me know.

I know you've heard this statement before (but usually from the fine ladies LOL) but "bring it on big boy"!  I for one would like to see more than the petty crap that too often takes up space on this board. I know that a lot of guys just use this as a way to find great pussy, but there are some of us who actually think about what we are doing and why.

I would like to see more public sharing of thoughts and comments by hobbiests.  In my circle of friends, we share items of interest which makes the only other source the VIP section of the reviews which some if not most people visitng here do not have access, including me at this time.

Connery, I am not one to want to name names with respect to specific info on a provider in a public venue(unless she was a scam,health concern,etc.). My query had more to do with talking about issues,concerns and likes and dislikes. We have some commonalities among us, we are(I am)  out here living a secret world(great question- are we all hiding out or do some of us let our vanilla world friends or girlfriends or wives know what we do?)and i would like to hear more of a group dynamic than just my own small community. It is another way to connect to the community. Listen, I am a touchy/feely(read-introspective/searching) guy(ask my ladies)and enjoy discourse on the industry. And maybe,just maybe, something someone says resonates with someone else and it clicks a switch within them and gives some benefit. O.K., i just want to connect with more people, maybe get a balance that may or may not be missing. And maybe, a provider would weigh in with a comment or would recognize herself and see herself in new way. I think , I really recognize for myself ,that this behavior(hobbying) is about more than the sexual component, for me it is ultimately about the relationships I develop. Sorry if this rambles a bit, just working on my own process. Thanks for jumping in.

I'd be glad to toss my two "sense" worth in.

I understand the need to talk about this hobby with a bit more introspection than is usual on these boards.

Some of us have wives who have decided that the sexual aspect of marriage is over. Some of the wives who have become "nunish" ("noneish"?) know that their husbands  are hobbyists - some may have even encuraged their husbands to become hobbyists.

It is a secret that we cannot talk about with other friends - because our wives do not want it known that they allow us to hobby.

I cannot meet all of my wife's needs, and she cannot meet all of my needs. We each accept that the other will have other secondary relationships of one sort or another. The key is having emotional fidelity to each other.

But this is the kind of discussion most of us are a bit cautious of having here.

I had suggested a topic/question some time ago and I don't believe any of the hobbysts provided imput. There were several providers who did, the first of which seemed to be offended by my question. It was not my intent to offend but it seemed I had hit a nerve, it has caused me to be less inclined to put my thoughts on the post.

"X",  feeling that the board is not looking for this type of dialogue and'it is, what it is'. Was just trying to take the conversation past the 'great tits ' kind of mentality. Thanks for your input.

I think that discussion boards are for discussion.  I use all kinds of boards for research and opinion, but this board is sometimes just full of people who simply can't read!  If you do feel that you want to start a thred with some deep topic, just be prepared for the flood of SPAM, and mis-readings.  There are some who would like to enlarge the experience and protect the hobby... I think you'd find several of us who would jump in, and perhaps it would benefit the community of users.

Just a quick public thank you to you and to all the gents who take the time to review, and review well.  I take special notice if there is a "chill" review posted for a gal, as I have come to understand that we like the same things.  This goes for a couple of other reviewers.  Maybe someone can say the same of my few...  anyway, it's clear from your reviews that you take the time to compose thoughtfully, and that helps us all.  Thanks.

I think that you'll have much better luck on the national discussion board.

I don't think you'll be able to get into the "nitty gritty" TRUTH of hobbying here... some posts will get taken down.  For instance, forums on psychological issues about behaviors such as sneaking around, what is healthy vs unhealthy sexual activity (not just STD's... repetitive behavior, etc), and sexual addiction are noticably absent.

OK

PS, I'll post this on it's own and see how long it lasts.