I had made an appointment with a well know lady (soley because her body was an 11 on a 10 scale)....I arrived at her incall and almost immediately knew something was a miss. The converstion was strained and stilted....she was a little loopy and would change topics mid sentence and without warning....it was very odd. But I was there and as I said her body was amzing so we headed for the bedroom to begin the play session.
Things did not improve once we were naked....we were not in sync and could not seem to find a rhythm. After about 20 minutes she said "this isn't working is it?"......to which I said no it isn't...We both agreed to call it a day...no money changed hands I did not write a review. I took a shower and we chatted for a few minutes and I left wth no hard feelings between us.
Oddly enough she called me about a month later and asked if I wanted to try again....I was a bit confused because it did not go well the first time but she explained why she wanted to try again (someting to do with my anatomy) so I said sure...Unfortunatey once again we just did not click and I have not been back.
The thing I have figured out in the business it that it takes considerably more than physical attraction to make a great session....two people have to find a connection....fortunatley I found one recently so I am set.
I saw this thread on SD board about going into a seesion and finding their was no connection during the meet and greet part of the date and this provider just ended the date on good terms told him is was not going to work out ...I know men do this but wondered if provider also cut their losses and just move on early ....I have done this before if we did not click it was just not worth the money to painfully to continue forward.....would you want to know ? would you be pissed off ?
Sexuality is a blessing and a Spiritual practice, or can be!

Bhakti
I had made an appointment with a well know lady (soley because her body was an 11 on a 10 scale)....I arrived at her incall and almost immediately knew something was a miss. The converstion was strained and stilted....she was a little loopy and would change topics mid sentence and without warning....it was very odd. But I was there and as I said her body was amzing so we headed for the bedroom to begin the play session.
Things did not improve once we were naked....we were not in sync and could not seem to find a rhythm. After about 20 minutes she said "this isn't working is it?"......to which I said no it isn't...We both agreed to call it a day...no money changed hands I did not write a review. I took a shower and we chatted for a few minutes and I left wth no hard feelings between us.
Oddly enough she called me about a month later and asked if I wanted to try again....I was a bit confused because it did not go well the first time but she explained why she wanted to try again (someting to do with my anatomy) so I said sure...Unfortunatey once again we just did not click and I have not been back.
The thing I have figured out in the business it that it takes considerably more than physical attraction to make a great session....two people have to find a connection....fortunatley I found one recently so I am set.
I have walked away at the door when pictures don't match. I once was in the apartment and told her that I knew it would not work. It was the same gal but pre-baby and pre 60 extra pounds. I was as nice as possible explaining it and paid for the room and a little extra for time. We say and talked for a bit and she offered to call a friend who would beore of my type.
I also entered a house and the room smelled of animals and while the body was a 10 the face was a 2. I offered no donation and just turned and walked out.
I will also say that all but one of these girls had good reviews....which is why I don't 100% trust reviews.
I have never been turned away by a provider but if I was I would appreciate their honesty.
I would be genuinely greatful for her candor and honesty. I would hope she would say so with grace and class. I also hope she would offer to part ways on good terms with no donation.
That would allow me to, in turn, be gracious and voluntarily compensate her for her time, and part ways on good terms also.
Sometimes I think selflessness and fine manners have lost their way in our modern world. One cannot place too little value on mutual allied respect.
Great question, Victoria!
HH
That would allow me to, in turn, be gracious and voluntarily compensate her for her time, and part ways on good terms also.
Sometimes I think selflessness and fine manners have lost their way in our modern world. One cannot place too little value on mutual allied respect.
Great question, Victoria!

HH

Bhakti
No. If it was done in a professional and polite manor, I( would be OK. No rudeness, no talking bad or down, no keeping the envelope!!
As long as both parties are mutually respectful, would be OK.
Stuff happens! Can't please everyone.
Never happened and I doubt it ever will!
Why?
Because I've seen her pics and found her attractive enough to desire her. On the phone I've picked up good vibes and am intuitive enough to know we will hit it off.
As for the Provider desiring to end the session upon meeting me: I'm clean, always arriving freshly showered and groomed, am polite and respectful, and while I'm no George Clooney, my appearance wouldn't make a woman say yuck! So I couldn't imagine why she'd wish to send me away.
Once nude, and for some reason I was unable to perform, that would be on me and I'd expect and insist she keep the envelope.
Haroldbaz,
I agree with your presentation of your person. As far as I'm concerned no performance issue has ever caused me to end a session. Many things come into play for the lingum to be unresponsive. That is my objective to remove those blockages or uncover them so that energy can have a unencumbered avenue for expression - fully awake in the body, mind and emotions, for passion and pleasure to reign.
To be present for the masculine is about letting go of demands to preform, especially in session. Most are alpha-males and have had pressure to preform in all areas of their lives. To find a resting place of total acceptance is to allow for the full expression of the masculine, without pressure of a performance. I understand how you meant it, Harold, and still it is an underlying pressure.
I know the masculine and feminine energies are vastly different, however, I prefer to be accepted without pressure so I like to extend that same attitude. I enjoy your posts, btw, Harold.
Peace, Bhakti
Thank you. You bring a perspective and insightfulness that is both thought provoking and educational. Obviously you are a very unique and intuitive woman. It is always a pleasure to read your comments. I'm flattered that you enjoy my posts. Peace
Everyone here bring a little something different to the table and I too enjoy your very insightful posts!
THank you both, Harold and Victoria. I appreciate the feedback. I think this is a great forum for everyone and value your interactions.
Blessings and Peace, Bhakti
@azvictoria- thx! Keep up the great moddin.
..... if a guy turned out to be a hard time (no pun intended) of not a good date or overbearing (not meaning violent or rude or anything like that) i'd just not see him again.