Happened to me quite abit......

Last summer, but i was hobbying like 3-5 times a week and was able to see them most of the time. But i'm not married and don't hide the fact that i hobby with my friends. So if you have a couple reg's that fit into this category, why not give them a call. And I always did feel flattered even if i knew they were only after my money. Oh and by the way, when they did call they usually offered a discount.......Just my 2 cents, but i don't fit into the norm.......And yeah i still get the calls......

I get calls all the time from wonderful women that I have had the pleasure of spending some time with.  I usually make it clear that I can take a text or a call, and if they are so inclined, it's OK to contact me.  I think it's important to make it clear if you do or do not want inbound calls or texts. In other words, it's important to be invited to call.

As an alternative, it's great to get mail right here on TER!!

I was wondering why you didn't simply contact a client you have had a good time with before....

If you and I had enjoyed eachothers company before It wouldn't bother me in the least if you sent me an email checking in and inquiring if I may be interested in stopping by, especially if you were providing additional incentive to sweeten the deal.  This is common practice in many service/consumer businesses and I don't see why this should be any different as long as you are communicating in a manner that has been approved by your client.

I mean really, what guy doesn't appreciate a hot woman asking him to come over and fuck her silly, even if he has to open his wallet.  Hell, even if my wife called and said I could come screw her brains out for a couple of hundred bucks I would be hauling ass home with the entry fee in hand!

Bailey, as unbelievably hot as you are,  andwith your established client base there is no reason you should EVER be lacking for a high hard one when you need it.

Best of luc

Hi Bailey;
     Depending on how a lady handles things, as well as the relationship that's been established, it can come off as tacky, desperate sounding or friendly. Personally, I use a playtime phone which is turned off unless I'm expecting communication. There is a very select few who have my regular cell number and I trust them to be discrete when calling, to not call often and to realize that depending on the moment I may have to tell them I'll get back to them.  I have had ladies contact me suggesting a meeting. As another poster wrote, it's also been my experience that I'm usually offered a discount of some sort when contacted by a provider. Also, I'm often contacted by touring women who let me know in advance of their advertising that they'll be in town and would like to meet. These are women I've already met before.  In the situations I've described I really don't see any downside for me. I suppose the downside for the woman is that she is discounting her time but as long as she is the one making a decision to do so then that's her call.  So, I'm not sure if the rules have really changed or not. For me, as my time partaking in this sandbox has gone on I've established relationships with people and become more aware of and better at responding to the nuances of this game.                                                                  Regards.....RR

I don't mind if have seen the lady a few times and we seem to get along but I don't want spam e-mail everyday either. Within reason I don't see a problem.
    Its a form of  flattery,a money form yes. My first lady here in AZ had a deal like this, when she needed money for school books or her husband was off on a trip, she would text or e-mail me.

I would feel weird asking, then it would translate into the play time. I think I shall continue to stick with a side boy toy, that way it's not "business" all the time.  I'm currently in between toys taking new applicants, hence my dire need for man steak

Actually, please call me. I definitely enjoy it and appreciate it when a lady wants to see me. Having said that it is because I have a hobby phone and email account.  

My hobby phone is only on, when I'm in hobby mode. So calls and texts can go unanswered for days or weeks. I also travel a great deal so the chances of me being in town are not all that great.

With all that said, when I turn my hobby phone on, after being off for awhile, it's not uncommon for me to have texts & vm's waiting. I don't mind the vm's & and texts, but the old saying  "don't call me, I'll call you" is appropriate for me

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Let me say that I would be flattered to get a call from you or any lady that I've seen.  Believe me we do understand where your coming from.  I would have to that even though I'm single I do not keep my hobby phone on and will sometimes go days without checking for messages or turning it on.  So, while honored by your call, I (or others like me) might not get back to you right away.

Don't have a problem with providers contacting me. I happen to be single and don't hide what I do. What I don't want is constant pressure. If I say "sorry can't do it right now" then that should be the end of story. By all means contact me again down the road. Ideal message "Hey how ya doin...insert my name...? Had a good time the last time you came to see me. Just wanted to let you know I'm still around." No pressure just showing interest.

Rules changing

Good Evening,  I "personally" feel that contacting a hobbyist out of the blue requesting an appt or just checking in is tacky.. Yet I am so called "old school".  Rules & Etiquette have changed during my "vacation"... I am trying to learn the new approach... What is acceptable and what is no is a fair and genuine question...
xoxo
Kat

There are very few rules rules or absolutes in this hobby this is not math. Some guys might mind being e-mailed so will not. I have in the past have been received unannounced specials for whatever reason and it didn't bother me. I did receive phone calls which I did mind from two different providers. I an sure someone will point out some rules and there are some. A few that come to mind be on time, notify if need to cancel, be clean , be polite and this goes for everyone.

I enjoy being contacted by ladies I have seen and enjoyed.  I wish it happened more often.

Hi B.

Nice forum debate question.  My 2 cents.

Every hobbyist is different so there is no right answer.  Personally, i have no objections and have not mind emails, PM's, or phone texts.   I imagine phone texts will vary by hobbyists though, so an understanding probably needs to be reached.

After all the responses here and in pm's, listening to everyone's thoughts and feelings on the subject my conclusion still stands.  I will not contact a client for an appointment.

 I'm very aggressive in life, I have to be it's a eat or get eaten world...... period, but I am also a lover and a humanitarian. I would never ever want to lead a man on thinking there's more than just a business transaction between us, nor do I want a man to feel used for his money.  
I know with the 8 different personality types out there, both those scenarios would happen leaving feelings and egos crushed