There's a lady named Gracee here in PHX who posts religiously on CL and other sites on weekends only.  She provides incall exclusively at a condo in Scottsdale.  

As it so happens, I made a "date" with Gracee a few weeks ago on a Sunday.  I got all spiffed up, make the requisite follow up calls she requested, etc.  But then on the very last call (where I was already in her neighborhood and needed final directions to her condo) she stopped answering the phone.  I left a message (of course, duh).  No callback.  So I kept calling--for like 45 minutes, before finally giving up and driving back home.

Well a few days ago I was considering rebooking (although she NEVER had the courtesy) to call me with any kind of explanation.  So I was rechecking her reviews (http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/show.asp?id=100325) and lo and behold, another hobbyist, Jay-Bird, reported a similar experience on her latest review.  Hmmmm, now ain't that interesting. Only difference is, he ended up seeing her after waiting 5 or 6 hours, but gave her very low scores--which should be a surprise based on the way she words her ads (highly reviewed in TER, etc.)

Just wondering.  Has anyone else who hasn't reviewed her had similar experience? Is she totally flaky?  She sure words her ads in a very professional manner as if she takes care of business, and in fact that's one reason I was attracted to her (too many flakes out there already, LoL).

In fact, come to think of it, similar things have happened with some other providers.  One was visiting from California about two weeks ago--named Peaches--staying in Tempe.  Same dang thing, I swear.  Make a date.  Get to location.  Make last phone call. Girl refuses to answer ever again.  

Yet again, a southside local provider named Tea. Exact same scenario, except she answered that last call but very quickly said "let me call you back!"  yeah right, I knew better.

I swear, I'm not a psycho -- LoL.  Just wondering how many of the rest of you non-psycho types are having same or similar experiences?  Is this a new trend or an old one I forgot about?

i hate the screwed up process myself. the only times i use it is when i KNOW (and i mean know beyond any possibility of doubt) that im not going to be left hanging.

given the local flakyness of late the AMPS are becoming my favorite place too hobby.

no bs.  just how much valuta am i willing to drop for services rendered. negotiations suck but the lack of crap involved is exquiste!

This is one of the reasons that I limit myself to outcalls.  I've had this experience once or twice, myself, and at $4.25 a gallon, I'm not wasting what little extra money I have to drive out and then be stood up.  If I want to be ignored by hot women, I can go to the bar down the street.

When a Provider doesn't show up, I sometimes am disappointed, but at least I'm disappointed in the comfort of my own home.

This is another reason that I have learned to save my money and go with known quantities like AZC and DD.  They always call if the girl will be late (and they were MORE than understanding the one time I was late to my own house... long story), and they always find a way to make it up to me if a girl flakes.

I can't hobby as much as I would like to because I can't afford the really high quality Providers very easily, but, as the song says, "The internet is for porn," and I can take care of myself for a while until I've saved up enough to do it the right way and know, without doubt, that I'm going to have a good time.

thanks to TER I've been lucky and had some great experiences...while I've been surprised a couple times on looks (old photos)...all in all, it's all good.

And when I do have a less than good experience, I'm curteous and don't blast anyone.

However, my latest attempt at meeting a local provider has been well reviewed and posts here often (but shall remain nameless, but if you're semi-smart, you'll figure it out...)

Anyway, it took a month of calls and emails to reach her. After that, I was stood up last minute 6 times, 2X when I was in parking lot. I really wanted to see this girl and always gave her the benefit of doubt until last time.

Had a time set up and to avoid wasting my time again, I told her I would text her in morning to confirm...which I did, 3 times, no response...I finally here from her an hour after scheduled appt (which she flaked on again) - and she blames me and gave me a ton of shit!!!

Total shock. She appears to be a very smart, creative and together girl...but I've found on my journey that creative and flake (schizophrenia) go hand in hand.

The screwed up part is that I would probably try again! (us guys want more what eludes)

I am sorry, but a no show or a provider that does not answer calls does not merit a second chance. There are way too many decent providers out there. The agencies are great to get around this rudness. Would you allow a person out in the singles world treat you this way......I say no!

yes it's your's and the others that let her just keep getting by with it time after time, what cuz she's that special or what....

So much for the honesty.

Well reviewed gals shouldn't be doing this and wouldn't if the reviews were just a littler more honest.

but teri...what is the right move here? other than being done?

I can't review her...never met.

and I just don't see the 'win' in blasting a provider - on top of the bad energy, she has my real name and number (as most providers require), the last thing I need is someone going nuts with that info.

seems best to simply move on.

After being stood up last minute SIX times... (*insert raised eyebrow*)

...and considering that you have a certain amount of sensitive personal information in your arsenal...

...she might get the wrong idea.

There's two sides to every story, my friend.  

Blast away, 'Atos'... and let courtesy be damned.
This isn't the first time I've been blasted for 'flaking' out on someone last minute.  It has happened on more than one occasion, either due to a 'bad vibe' or a schedule conflict.  If the latter, I do my best to make it up to the gent... either in a discounted rate or extra time.  If the former... I usually just have to sit back and wait for them to throw down the gauntlet on TER.

I don't shy away from it.  I'm a big girl and I know my methods are not popular with everyone.  

I will not deny that we had planned to meet on more than one occasion.  For whatever reason, I was uncomfortable and chose to back out at the last minute.  I'm a big ol' chickenshit sometimes, as badass as I try to pretend I am.

There's no denying that you have a bit of leverage that might pressure a girl to follow through in spite of her misgivings.  Leverage, that if exposed could compromise her situation irrevocably.  

My fault is that I did lead you on rather than handling the situation immediately.  I made a bad decision.  Forgive me... it was the first time I had come across this situation, so you were the unwitting guinea pig... to no fault of your own.

And now the rest of the community can peep in on our little display and judge accordingly.  Don't be shocked... I'm sure you knew I would respond.



*side note*

And yes, Terri... I am THAT special or what.  
As are you.  

I would never expect a gal to open her door to an unpleasant situation or anxious obligation.  And without the benefit of a pimp, a bouncer, a driver, or a handgun, I rely on instinct and a sound (non-schizophrenic) mind to keep me safe.  Just as I would respect the right of any hobbyist to cancel last-minute if the circumstances prevented comfort.

I have no idea why you chose this issue to question the integrity of my reviews and thus the integrity of the hobbyists that have written those reviews.  Especially since some of them are the same individuals.  

I'm not sure what, exactly, you feel I am getting away with... but I welcome you to PM me with your advice on how I can better handle situations such as potential stalkers or untruthful reviewers.  
And I thank you for airing these issues as well, since I wasn't previously aware of my own blatant dishonesty.  

G'night from the peanut gallery.

Well first of all Aria, i sure and the hell did not know it was you nor anything I said was releated to you....so don't even go and get personal.

my statment was a general one and really realeated more to the guys going back for more let downs yet still are pretty nice about it in the long run.

so sorry if you felt i was airying anything personal about you.

you have every right to not take a call, but if it's the uneasy feeling at least answer the guys call and either be honest on how you feel or give an excuse that something came up rather than have him waste his time.

Take care and do be safe.
Terri

...I pegged you as 'semi-smart' and having figured it out.  

However if you didn't mean me personally, then you are still 'generally' questioning the integrity of reviews... in general.

A topic that belongs on its own thread, should you have the balls to stand up and initiate a separate post with your allegations.

But I suspect you were 'generally' jumping on the bandwagon for popularity's sake without regard to who or what might be involved.

Atos... please stop texting me.

and some of you assholes on this board really should check yourselves.

-- Modified on 7/3/2008 10:06:00 PM

atos you have no clue.  There are a lot of providers that do not just do this as a living.  Some have other jobs or travel.  They also have families to take care of and things do come up.  I have seen Aria mulitiple times, and there where times I didn't check my email and she could not make it.  She always made up for it.  I realize that people are put off by missed appointments, but remember, this is a "hobby" for some.  For some it is a pleasure to meet a few wonderful women who enjoy sharing some quality time together with us.  If we would put this much thought into the energy crisis we'd be in great shape.

semi smart though, thank you

just didn't see how personal this was.

I stand by my blanket opinion on the subject of what the poster was writing about!

have great day
beautiful, smart lady...I have no bones with you!
Ter

But the public one still sucks.  She left the guy hanging and didn't answer his call.  With the price of gas and the value I put on my time I think it would be pretty shitty.  Hell she even admits she does this time of thing to people but say those are her "methods".  Whatever, but her explanation convinced me to stay away.  TO each their own though.