There seems to be a steady stream of people who are out to badmouth others in this business for whatever pitiful reason they may try to pass off as good information to others, and that's a shame. Perhaps it's lack of self-confidence in themselves, the need to ruin other's businesses (or attempting to ruin someone's business), or to have fun gossiping about someone at his/her expense, whatever. This definitely shows an extreme lack of class. Also, it's not using common sense, since some of us are friends with people in the community and the word always gets back to us. And . . . you know who you are!
I'm not writing this to name who it is, but to state on this board that rumors (and that's all they are) do get back to some of us and that just makes the gossipers look pitiful in our eyes and extremely low-class. I am more professional than that and would never say anything bad about another provider to a client (no matter what I've heard through the grapevine, and the grapevine is a dangerous root to climb).
Thank goodness my regulars know what type of person I am and avoid others who cannot resist this sort of evil temptation.
Whatever a friend tells me (whether it's a client or a provider) it stays with me. I'm not even going to tell you who informed me of this scandelous behavior. Ladies and gentlemen, you know who you are, and you are guilty of the lowest form of class there is: No class! You cannot buy class, nor intelligence, nor a good heart. Some of us are born with displaying humanity to others, the sort of intelligence way past a college degree (and I have two of those), and are innocent of the backchanneling going on by some people who are obviously bored and don't have anything better to do than to read and post on the boards.
I heard through some very concerned hobbyists that my name was mentioned as being part of a "group" of women who are out to vandalize the names of some gentlemen in the Phoenix community. From what I've read recently on the Provider Board that is simply not true. It's sad to say that some of these women who thrive on gossip -- whether it's true or not -- have approched me to be their friend and to go out with them. They have acted like they respect me and have tried to convince me to be their friend. Thank goodness I haven't met them in person, nor do I care to now. I have learned to stay out of the lime light.
Actually, I have nothing against anyone in this community. In fact, I only know a few people by name, nor do I care to socialize at the Meet and Greets for this very reason: the "sweet to your face and backstab you when you're gone" attitudes. Sweet Sarah said it best in her post a few threads down.
When a provider or hobbyist says something funny on the board, I may respond to them with humorous banter, and I don't know them. Lastly, I do not know anyone other than Swedish Anna and Wild West Kelly. Does that make me part of a "group?" I should think not. I don't even post on the Provider's Board -- maybe twice since it's been up and only to respond with a "ROFLMAO" response.
I think we all need to check ourselves and stop associating some of us with a "group." Personally, I don't care if there is a group of women who dislike Phoenix men or men who are able to get discounts from some women. It's none of my business. You know what? I am a respected provider that has been here longer than most of the Phoenix crowd and make it a habit not to attend Meet and Greets, play gossip with the providers on the phone (which most try to do with me when I simply call for a reference -- that's why I prefer emailing them). Nor do I condone such behavior from clients/friends that I see and -- believe me -- they will tell you I stop them in their tracks if they start to bring up TER people, etc.
Why can't we just have fun and be more accepting of other's businesses. This is a free market. I don't put other providers down because their donation may be $500, nor do I criticize anyone who is slightly less expensive (like me) because they don't need the money that badly. Is giving a valuable client/friend a freebie or a discount because it's his birthday wrong? No, but that's no one's business. Is it wrong for a group of guys to pay only $200 to $250 for a service? Who cares? Everyone needs to mind their own business and stop the haggling and criticizing on this board. To those who do this: You should be ashamed of yourselves. And . . . the next time certain providers try to call me and gossip and "be my friend" please don't. I don't want to hear it. I'm very happy with my life, my finances, my looks and my attitude. I think some need to go to charm school. Personally, I don't wish to associate with people who enjoy other people's miseries. You won't see my posting here for awhile.
Peace & hugs,
Ciara
-- Modified on 3/24/2008 5:40:11 PM
