Hi Phoenix DB contributors and readers.  I've been a hobbyist for a few years (about 5) and this is really the first real post I've made here.  I've always enjoyed reading everyones comments, adverts, and general contributions but have prefered just to watch and listen. I will probably continue to do just that, I don't really have more to say than is already being posted, but I did, for the first time, post a review.  The young woman whom I saw was WOW, and since she was new to our area I thought I'd share my experience for the benefit of her business, but selfishly so that she'd be busy enough to want to stick around. Here's the question, although I know many of you post reviews, do you risk anything by posting a review, either for the escort or for yourself? I did ask her if I could post a review of her(impulsive me) and she said that would be nice. Thanks for any feedback.

and only mine represented here as there are probably a variety of views. If you are comfortable writing reviews and can do so in an honest and fair fashion - I would ask the lady what her preferences are. A number of ladies have indicated that positive reviews drive business to them, so if she would like a review posted, you might want to honor that request. Some of the ladies are a bit more UTR or for other personal reasons may not want a review written. Would honor that request also. The challenge comes when you get a poor showing from the lady and she asks that you NOT write a review. Judgement call here. If it were me and it was a rip off, bait & switch, upsell or scam operation, I would definately post about it to warn other hobbyists. If I feel the lady just offers a poor quality service or has some others issues interferring with her performance capabilties, I would post, again to alert other hobbyists. If the lady just seemed to be having an off day for some reason, think you need to use your best judgement under that circumstance. Guess the driving force for me is getting accurate and honest information out to my fellow hobbyists without disparaging the lady unnnecessarily.

It's wonderful that you found a lady that you like so much and you showed her great respect by asking her first.  I just wanted to add another thought to that.

I feel it's generally a good rule to make sure that if you are going to post certain details, that it is ok with the lady first.  For example, if the lady does not publish her phone number, you should grant her that respect and not take it upon yourself to do so.  While it's a good idea to mention the part of town she is located, it's not good(in my opinion) to mention the exact cross-streets.  Things like that.  I know that I have told certain "friends" some very personal info about myself, and I trust that they will keep it to themselves.  Please remember that we, as providers are taking a huge risk and that certain info that may be okay for one provider to divulge, may not be okay for the next lady.  
Hope everyone has a great weekend!  Roxanne

I see very few ladies and see them as often as I can.  I would never submit a review without asking them first and letting them look at it before I post.  Roxannes comments are spot on.  If I had a ripoff I might post it to alert others to the problem.  If I had a marginal performance I just chalk it up to bad research on my part.  We have so many wonderful ladies here that the errors are few and far between.

Possible downsides to posting a review for the hobbyist are slim. Good luck proving anything I say in a review beyond a reasonable doubt-LOL. The fanciful imaginings of a frustrated wannabe wordsmith can hardly be called "evidence".

About the only bad thing I see is each review (hell, everything you post) creates a history that providers can review-and if you are crass, disrespectful or out and out misleading or vengeful in what you say, you can rest assured it will be considered by the next provider you want to see. Or who won't see you.

Be accurate. Be respectful. Be fair. Common sense, right?

Downside for the provider is, of course, exposure in a public forum. Some welcome the  attention as networking opportunities and don't mind their contact information being readily available outside their direction and control (like they have with their own sites, for example) to expand their client base and business. Some don't-their privacy is more important than increased business.

Either is fine by me-so I ask. Cause if I never ask, I can't know. They respect my privacy and desire for discretion, least I can do to return the favor if that's what they prefer.

I can always buy VIP time if I really want it I figure, so there's no incentive for me to post a review against a providers wishes.

I think you did good asking her first-shows consideration and respect. Most everything comes back to communication. I have seen some mind blowing ladies who politely but emphatically declined my offer to review them, here or in other less public forums.

I went so far with one review as to show the provider precisely what I was going to say. My reasoning is two-fold: Accuracy of the information (I can't remember every statistical detail, especially days later) and to create concensus on what is said. If there is an negative issue about a session, I want to hash it out with the provider first before I bring it to the public. Communication again.

Not that I have had any bad experiences recently. But if I do, we'll settle it privately first-as we all know, little is solved in public squabbles. Only if we can't and the situation warrants it (does the rest of the community need to know?) would I bring it to this forum.

Cause if we really examine it-very little of the "issues" that get brought up with regard to negative provider experiences is relevant to the community. Bait n switch, cash n dash, pressure upsell, getting robbed matters to everyone as a whole.

Lateness, no shows, didn't blow your mind, wasn't what you expected. Not so much. My opinion only of course. Yours may vary.

Be accurate. Be respectful. Be fair. Common sense, right?

Hobby happy

JJ




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-- Modified on 1/20/2006 4:18:29 PM

You been buying your words at Sam's Club? You must have purchased the jumbo resale pack or been taking writing lessons from Justdonebyu. LOL

-- Modified on 1/21/2006 7:01:45 AM

Like you I ask permission before posting a review.  Since joining TER last spring, I've seen 16 ladies but I have only 8 reviews. Two I asked to be removed.

I've had two or three cases in the past year where my posts caused a lady not to see me. The reasons given were as follows:

1) They didn't like who I saw before them.
2) They didn't like the fact that I had posted a review in the first place. (despite the fact that as you did, I ask permission)
3) They were uncomfortable seeing a hobbyist that they knew would write about them.

So apart from that, I now do not mention the fact that I have a TER handle until after the session or unless the lady posts the TER medallion on her site.

Now those small negatives far outweigh the positives. I'd say more of my sessions where the girl advertises she is reviewed on TER, have gone better because of my reviews. I say that only because in a couple of cases I've had the lady comment on who I saw and she said.... so you like to do "XXXXX". Whether or not she researched my reviews for security or otherwise wasn't the point but it was a real nice touch that she'd even bother to look into me in the first place and make note of what my preferences were.

Also, another benefit that can come into play from time to time is that some ladies have expressed that they can sort of "tell" if a guy is OK by the way they express themselves in e-mail and on the phone. Although they didn't expressly mention TER I suspect that for some ladies it might minimize there fears that I am not LE.

That's one of the problems when you have time to craft a response in writing vs. speaking.

If it's worth typing, it's worth the bonus words.

I'm not nearly so eloquent in person.

Hope it's not too horrid to read through.

I have to get you to teach me that poetry thing-I can't rhyme worth a damn.


JJ

-- Modified on 1/22/2006 9:21:51 AM

Much thanks for the feedback.  I will "use as directed."