Great Person (humanistically speaking)

All the rest is secondary!

I am living this one...

It just so happens that I am a decent person, humanistically speaking, (or that's at least what people tell me)....and I am not at all good at anything having to do with sex.  (truth be told I'm not that good a person either...but I at least hope I am better person than I am a lover.)

For me then the question would be,
"If I could change that, would I give up being a good person if it made me a good lover?"

The answer there is easy...No.

I can leave the ability to make a woman writhe and moan and have her eyes roll back in her head to you guys that are good at it.

I could never trade my attempts to be a good person (though I fail a lot at those attempts), as it seems to me, I can avoid having sex with people, I can keep my pants on and my hands and tongue to myself so as to not subject them to the bad sex I wrought.  It is much more difficult to avoid all the contact with people where being a bad person can do damage...

So yeah...I'll remain the so-so person I am, and continue to be a lousy lover (that, because I attempt to be a good person will just not assail anyone with my horrid sexual prowess.).

We all go thru life meeting new people and touching their lives in some way. Whether it be the starbucks cashier or a buisness partner; our actions and how we treat them have an impact on their lives. Personally, I meet more people than I play with...

So, if forced to choose between touching many more people in a positive way and maybe bringing (or adding) some comfort or contentment to their lives (or their day) vs. excelling at an activity that, virtually by definition, can bring pleaasure to far fewer people...

I'd prefer to be the humanist.

Re:If you had to choose

well, if I HAD to choose, first vote would be for great person, heck, isn't that what we're all trying to be?  Well, maybe not.  Maybe being a great lover is the same as being a great person.  You're pleasing one on one, as opposed to screwing over the masses in a good, humanistic way.  I don't know.  Does this mean that great lovers can't be great people too?  That the great love we  are part of isn't humane?  We're great because we're into gerbils or something like that?  And wouldn't it be some form of torture to be so close to someone, such a great person with a partner (or partners), that you just piss them off in bed?  I guess you have to pick your moments.

The question itself seems confused.  By those I know and those I’ve have had the pleasure to “have known” there is a direct correlation.  Only in the selfless act of giving can someone find or hope to be a superior partner.  The great humanists by their nature tend to be superior lovers.  The choice would seem simple then; make me a great person with the capacity to find within myself a great lover.