I have tried to post informational subject matter and complimentary statements. Akiya's post is telling, If this is the case, I am wasting my time. I am certainly not a woman hater. Very interesting post. I agree that the guy cuddlers with their pals is GAY.
What about a guy with a limited provider history? If you have received a meeting request from someone that is not DC-ID'ed or P411'ed, besides the normal verification of residence and employment, would you look to see if they have a board posting history?
If it's a First Visit, do you, or would you, look at what kind of posts someone has out there? My thought is you can learn a lot about a person from what they say over time. Or is that just the crazy voices talking to me, since a newbie wouldn't have a post history? Have you declined a visit because someone puts up BSC stuff?
Just curious, considering some of the posts and posters I've seen out in the General Discussion board. If I was an intelligent lady, I'm thinking I wouldn't let them get anywhere near me.
Well, most of us smart ladies, use a few different ways to verify a gent, but beyond all.. Our intuition. I will not post methods, but they are far more advanced than some may think. Not all girls, and honestly even the high dollar ones often don't check. Just depends on the girl.
IMOH, In my active days (cough) I much prefer'd a gent with limited board presence and provider experience. As long as he is to be verifiable from whom he listed, and she is a trusted provider, etc. I have meet awesome people who had just one ref, and some non at all. Just be honest, and forthcoming as we understand both sides of the coin.
But yes, I would check a persons name, board history and previous reviews with the other stuff. Life is to short to share it with someone you don't click with , or someone who isn't on the same page that your reading.
B WELL.
you are a class act and I hope to some day meet you!!
Some of these guys don't realize how transparent they are. There are so many guys who are active on these boards who come off as true women haters. I do not wish to meet them. And honestly, I think they should find a new hobby. However, I have noticed firsthand that some guys post on the boards to impress other guys, not realizing that being one of the "cool guys" is a surefire way to get on MANY ladies' DNES (DO NOT EVER SEE) list. These guys are digging their own graves, slowly but surely. But hey, the guys think they're cool!! lol!! awesome!! Oddly enough, some guys forget these boards are intended to help a guy ultimately meet a lady. Instead, they come here to earn "spoty awards" and "likes", or whatever. I guess they'd rather chill with the guys than cuddle with a sexy lady. Gay if you ask me. Nothing against gays. But you know what I mean....
So YES Dave, I read ALL discussions. One of the perks of being an avid reader is the ability to absorb huge amounts of information in a short period of time. What's most interesting is reading a guys' posts and then reading his reviews. A complete 180 degrees in character. 99% of the guys who act like women haters are sweet as a kitten in person. I've been reviewed by one of the biggest posters on TER (under his alias of course). He doesn't know I know. But I know lol. He's an asshole on the boards. And a sweetheart in person. It's hard to sift through the BS, Dave, but a lady can only do her diligence and hope she meets the sweetheart, and not the asshole.
I recently declined a guy who had no reviews and a couple of weak references. Had he had a presence online, I probably would have considered seeing him. But alas, no presence=no meeting.
Always, always reading...
Akiya xox
I have tried to post informational subject matter and complimentary statements. Akiya's post is telling, If this is the case, I am wasting my time. I am certainly not a woman hater. Very interesting post. I agree that the guy cuddlers with their pals is GAY.
lol You clearly took my post personally (please don't). I definitely didn't have you or ANY of the PHX guys in mind when I posted this. I was talking about the women haters on the GB. It is not hard at all to figure out who I am referring to. Dave said something at the end of his post regarding "intelligent women". That is what I replied to specifically. Informational and complimentary posts are harmless, and welcomed. Bitter and resentful posts, those are the posts I'm talking about. Good guys, please post away. Assholes, go play in NYC traffic at around 5pm please.
Bottom line, a lot can be deciphered from a guy's postings. And even more so, from his reviews. I've been contacted many times by an asshole is disguise. His writing is a dead give away. And the fact that he's oblivious to his transparency makes me think he's also quite unintelligent. All ingredients for disaster. I'll pass. Only sweethearts are allowed to experience all that I have to offer.
I've watched many newbies get caught up in the boards, only to see them transform from sweet, lonely men into coldhearted and calculating men. All in the name of being cool on the boards. I prefer the men who have backbone and hold true to their own character. As you can see TVLAW, I'm very picky about who I spend my time with. I want to have a mature and positive experience.
I don't like hypocrites in real life, why would I tolerate it here? I'm the same, all the time. I expect my visitors to be the same, all the time. Posts and reviews reveal the hypocrisy (facades, if you will), if it exists. MANY ladies have had bad experiences, only to end up complaining about a review they just got from some asshole. You know what they ALL say? If they had only read his reviews and posts first, they would have never seen him in the first place!
I guess I'm just super sensitive and paranoid, I'll admit. But I've survived 4 years in this business without becoming jaded. And I KNOW that most of it has to do with who I choose to spend time with. I don't like negativity, I don't I don't I Just DON'T. And no amount of money in the world can knock me out of my own character. If you become a regular of mine, that means I really do like you!
Note to assholes out there: we can read and fully comprehend 
Keep posting!!
Thank you for taking the time to clarify. I do post certain subject matter with the intent that it may be of some value to providers and fellow hobbyist. I elect to do this unassumingly because of my profession, and my natural determination to be an aggressive advocate and defend people. I realize how complex it is for providers to operate at their own peril. Notwithstanding, our hobby should be legalized however, I seriously doubt it will happen in the near future.
I read some of the posts on the Regional Boards and the Ad Boards and that is about all I care to read or have time for. I understand what you have mentioned about the negative people and the haters. I agree, these people are foolish and probably are lacking in their intellectual aptitude. I do not like disingenuous people.
I was impressed by your summation regarding the other element present in the hobby and life. You are obviously very intelligent and are unchanged by your 4 years in the biz. I really enjoy meeting interesting Ladies. I would like to meet you, I should say, you are cool and beautiful.
for understanding what I meant....definitely didn't want to offend any good guys here in Phx. You hit it on the nail with "disingenuous people". That is the perfect term for those I wish to avoid. You're not missing out on much right now by not reading the GD board. Right now they are discussing diarrhea and gas. Unfortunately, I have to read through all the crap (pun intended) to find the bits of information I am looking for. Oh, how I wish to have an assistant to do all this for me! But having an assistant does not jive with my need to connect personally with every single potential client. So back to reading I go.....
see you soon tvlaw? my only concern is we might talk too much! we might have to gag each other. we will figure it out 
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LMAO, We will work it out!! Yes see you soon!
Totally agree my sexy friend. Couldn't have said it better....I prefer to not see the guys in the "cliques" on the board
I had the privilege of seeing Akiya several years ago when we were both fairly new to the hobby and after reading her posts I realize how much I appreciate her attitude. I can attest to the fact that she is true to her words. She really is selective with who she sees and she does enjoy her time with you more because of that. The experience is much deeper because of her approach. Like her, I would rather be with a discerning partner that cares about attitude and wants to have a good time versus someone who is just all about the money.
Good Post, Gone In 60
Concur with your sentiments. Discerning quality reigns over quantity any day!
Boards can so easily go negative. Innocuous statements often sound like a put down and it's easy to get defensive so I really appreciate when posts are thoughtful and writers go out of their way to make sure nobody gets their feelings bruised. Akiya, you are not only wise beyond your years, you are a person who deserves to be respected and a woman who deserves to be savored. I hope our paths cross again someday.
I also want to make sure that TVlaw knows how much his posts are appreciated. I am constantly enlightened by his take on many subjects and have become a better and safer hobbiest because of his advice.
The general board has more douches than a Summer's Eve factory. Akiya, you are a glutton for punishment for wading through that board. But, like others have said, you are a wise, safe, and well informed provider. So keep doing what you're doing. You and TVLaw both
Thank you Van Ness, back at you!
I looked in there a couple of times and thought to myself "and here i thought youtube comments were the bottom of the barrel". Much to learn even after all these years...
Hey, can you guys search for all posts by a handle ?
At the top of this page click on the search tab, then fill in either author (TER handle) or subject
Then in range the default is 30 days, but you can increase to whatever period of time you wan
Also it will only show results for that board you are searching. GB board, PHX board etc....
I really enjoy this hobby! I appreciate the great people I have met or, had contact with via messaging or email. Gone in 60 is a cool guy that tells it like it is with no BS embellishments. I appreciate Mya as well notwithstanding she don't like LAWYERS. Lol It is going to be a good year! I am hopeful that LE will dedicate their efforts to apprehend CHILD ABUSERS, PEDOFILES and WIFE BEATERS. Have a good time!!