I got my first Bad Review, but I don't think that is Fair

I know that TER is from the hobbiest to the Hobbiest to help them find the best providers, and I usually stay away from the discussion board and only use it to post an ad when I can, but I really want to give my opinion this time, I don't know if the moderator will allow this post, but I hope he does, as I'm not really trying to make any trouble or drama, I just want to defend my self as I know that this review may hurt my business at least for a few days ) ...

OK, first I think that I'm a good Provider, I have very good reviews and I have regulars that see me often (Thank you, you guys know who you are)...

I know that I can't please everyone, and that everyone have different tastes, and opinion vary about looks but I always do my best to make you as happy as I can in the time that we are together,(if you have seen me, you know is true)...

One thing is to write a review to let other people know about your session, (Is good to warn others if the girl rip you off, if she did bait and switch, Up sell, if she had a bad attitude and treat you bad or if she don't look like the pictures)...

But other thing is to Lie or be mean with someone that treat you as good as possible and that is honest with you...

I know that I'm not perfect and that I don't look like a Model (And I don't charge like a Model, lol ), but he said that I look 20 pound heavier than my pictures and that is a Lie, the pictures are VERY recent, and I actually weight less than last month when my friend Jenn took the last pictures...

He also said that my face is plain, which as I said, everyone can have a different opinion, I often heard that my face is one of my best assets and that if I show my face in the  pictures I'll get more appointments, I choose not to do that but is for privacy and not to hide something, if you want to see pictures showing my face I'll gladly let you see them but only after I verify your references, you don't have to book an appointment, but you do have to pass the screening before I can let you see my face, this is something that a lot providers do to protect their privacy and is what i prefer...)

A session is of 2, not just one, if you arrive to my place and you don't like me, please don't stay, you are not making me a favor staying, if you don't like me (or any other provider), I know that you waste time driving but I did too! Getting ready and maybe I turned down someone else to see you, but I really prefer to waste that time, that being with someone that don't like me and don't really matter what I do, he is not going to be happy, I know is awkward to walk out of an appointment if you are already there, but is worse to stay and not only don't have a good time, but make the other person have a bad time too, I know some people think that we don't care as long as we get the donation, but I do care (and I know that a lot other providers care too) We want to have a good time too, i want to enjoy the session and if you don't find me attractive or if you feel that I'm not your type then just be honest with me (or if make you feel better, make something up and leave, lol)  ...

About the Session with this person, it really was the worse that I ever had, he was Very Rude but I could not tell if that was because he didn't like me or because that was the way he was (some people is cold or rude and that is just the way they are, I don't read minds)...

But now I know that he was like that with me because he didn't like the way I look, (but I do look like my pictures), and even when he was rude with me, I tried to be as nice as possible and I asked him what I can I do to please him, because he turn his head away when I try to kiss him (and I don't smoke and always have a fresh breath) he just lay in the bed and make me feel really bad the whole time he was there...

I'm writing this not to said something bad about the reviewer, he have the right to express his opinion, but since the providers can't reply to a review, and the LIES in his Review may affect me, because you probably think that I look huge now (and nothing wrong with BBW ladies, as every body like different type of girls) but I do have a problem with LIES, I always eat very healthy and I go to the gym every day (but Sundays, lol)...

I appreciate the hobbiest that take the time to give their Honest opinion in a review, as long as is Honest, and I can take criticism, as I know that honest criticism can help me to be better...

I know this happen all the time and to a lot of providers, but it hurts, first, because I'm a girl (and you know that it always hurt when someone says something negative about our appearance), but it hurts even more, because he is lying for whatever his reason is, maybe that make him feel better, (if that is the reason, hope he did)...

Anyway, thank you for reading my post, as i do feel better after giving my side...

Hope you have a great week
Catherine

Look at the bright side.  Now you are a reviewed provider, so men will now you are real.  To each is own, so everyone has there own opinion.  If he was the worst you ever had you should blacklist him.  If you have a nice gentlemen whitelist the fella.  Don't feel intimidated in this industry.  Always remember to keep your head up, and think positive. Offer a special, so the next guy may write you a review on TER.  If your a good provider the sun will always shine through the bullshit! Smile 4 me xoxo

Catherine,
The problem report appears on the top of the review. If there are errors in the review like you mentioned let them know. If you think the review is fake, and there are a lot of fake reviews, tell ter adm. Good luck

that your profile links you to New Mexico!  Our Gov will not be happy.  We've got higher standards over here.  

Just kidding, hon.  Don't sweat the bad review, it happens.  Hell, even Piper's had a couple.  WTF?

So blow it off.....so to speak!  

and you try hard to provide a great session.

PS. Nice picture.

Re: I got my first Bad Review, but I don't think that is Fair

Catherine,

I just got one too, lol, basically saying my face is ugly! I used to take all of this to heart, but you know what- I don't anymore...everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, we will not be beautiful to everyone. To each his own. Each reviewer is entitled to their opinion, so I did not take the review to heart. It's OK that not everyone may think I am beautiful. There are some that do, and some that don't.

Like I said, I used to take it to heart, I'd cry for days lol...I've had some truly truly terrible and hurtful things said to me. But then I realized also...we are in the ENTERTAINMENT business...we are in the public eye...
Look at famous people in Hollywood. They are in the tabloids ALL THE TIME, people calling them crude names...I mean anyone you can think of...there are even people out there who hate Megan Fox and Angelina Jolie...

I feel sorry for Angelina Jolie. She worked super hard to act well, she did great for herself- and now the tabloids are saying she's OLD (she's only in her early 30's!!!) and that she's jealous of Megan Fox who is younger!! One day someone will come along and re-place Megan Fox and the same will be said of her as well. It's just the name of the game girlie...

Hang in there...and again don't wear your heart on your sleeve...it's hard for us women not to take things personally but honestly guys call eachother names all the time along with a punch in the arm and they forget about it five min later...

OK Ol'...since you dragged my name into this My 2 cents

Catherine love,
I saw your pix and my first thought was Sophia Loren ( I know you aren't Italian baby-but that was what came to mind!)Ol' is right though, I have what 17? 18? pages of reviews equaling like a 9.3 something. I HAVE had some yucky reviews. It didn't feel good, but when I got 9's and 10's on either side of them-oh f*cking well! Just look at it this way-ya got the nasty ones out of the way! You look beautiful and sound like a wonderful girl. The new year is comin' baby-just keep focusing on your love of what you do. Happy Holidays!

Love,
Piper

Gay

But I wondered that too! Thanks honey. I know YOU are not! Muahh!

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Catherine, please read the words from both Milana and Piper (Hotchix) carefully, as they speak the truth.  You have many great reviews, and, when I see one bad review amongst several good ones, my question is always "what's wrong with this reviewer?"  Just continue to be yourself, and everything will be fine.  In fact, this whole thread may ultimately benefit you, because it shows you DO care.

Re: Its statistically insignificant...:)

Dear Catherine,

if might be of your comfort I can tell you that your bad review is from a statistical standpoint absolute insignificant...

You has 20 reviews so far...

Your Apperance Geometric Mean is:
7.73

Your Performance Geometric Mean is:

8.17

When the two Geometric means are calculate eliminating the bad score the result are the following:

Your Apperance Geometric Mean is then:

7.917

and your Performance Geometric Mean is then:

8.392820827

The difference is then:

0.17 for your Appearance Mean and
0.21 for your Performance Mean.

Statistically speaking this is equivalent to what in statistics is called an 'anomaly' in the behavior of the probabilistic distribution of a score among its population...

Mr. Slicer88 did not see Catherine Cruz, but the image of what he was expecting...in his review he wrote that "I'm visually oriented and I was not turned on." That's has nothing to do with how Catherin Cruz look like, but with Mr. Slicer88 specific pattern of arousing...if he is visually oriented he should approach and met only provider who do not blur their face on their ads...

In this way he would met only and exclusively those provider that make her 'visual stimulation' working well for his pattern of arousing, and so avoiding of using review to express his frustration of not finding what he was 'visually' looking for...

All of the above has nothing to do with you, but a lot with him...he wrote that "I did not feel like walking out so I stayed"...

That's typical of many hoobysts unfortunately; they do not walk away and express their disappointment through the review...

Since hobbyst knew that they knew also that a 'bad review' is almost insignificant in terms of orienting their choice...

Since is an anomaly, and its statistically insignificant, just move on and continue to provide the service for which you earned the very good 19 other reviews...

All my best,
BM

Re: I got my first Bad Review, but I don't think that is Fair

Catherine, He just doesn't recognize pure beauty when he see it...

Well i must say i no you very well and i had one of the best times of my life with you and you where reffered to me by my friend sexy jenn and you cannot go wrong there take care dont sweat the small stuff

i'm not interested in changing for anybody so it's pointless for me to read them anyway.

i had one guy write that i wasnt very attractive but he stayed anyway and then at the end he wrote that he'd be coming back and i thought "uh don't think so"

i really dont want to spend time with someone who doesn't find me attractive.  that is just weird.

anyway, it was well over a year ago and it STILL bothers me so i stopped reading them.

guys will talk shit but in the long run, it's your ads that will determine your business, not your reviews so spend your time writing a new ad and have a great day.

it sounds like a crappy experience for you catherine and im not trying to diminish that in anyway. im also sure you tried your best to accomodate mr negative.

However you did take his money instead of cancelling the session before it started. You said he had a bad attitude from the start so....

When he paid he also paid the right to have his own opinions about both the session and your looks etc.
he also can make those opinions public if he wishes too. You can rebutt that opinion in this forum  which you have .

looking at your many other glowing reviews i doubt you have any thing to worry about from one poor review.

new potential clients that have interest in seeing you will not hesitate in the least to give any credibility to that review

I've had mine as well as those that have wrote on this thread too...take it in stride, hold your head high and fuck those that don't like sloppy bj's or you kiss to much, wear to much make up or your pubic hair is too long or to short or not cut right FUCK THEM...you can not and will not ever please every one...

I know a lot of Dudes that have not written bad reviews when really are appropriated, because he didn't want to hurt her feelings...that's fucked up too.

Just appreciate those that are honest and respectful they are the ones that do care and respect you...as you can see you have a lot guys and gals backing you up here, more than some of us get! Enjoy it

Take care and stay as you are!
Happy Holidays
Terri