just wondering , if a provider did not float my boat yet was still a fine gal and the time spent was ok , would it be better to not review rather than share my experience? The disappointment is mine and not a result of the provider. I value TER as it makes the decision process much safer, I think  that maybe the important things to share would be rip offs and providers that are "not as advertised" .

honest & also mention what you have just said in your review....then anyone reading the review can take that into account.  An honest review is never a bad thing.

Share your experience. Explain why you think she is a "fine gal" and explain why she "did not float your boat". Be honest. These reviews, if done honestly, can assist both sides of the equation.

Many guys only look at the numbers.  Providers have told me that if they were given a poor number because they did not rock the guy's world, but if you read the review, it really wasn't bad, well, it still hurt their business.

As long as the girl was nice, did not upsell or misrepresent herself and was not really "at fault" for a less than stellar experience for you, but rather just a lack of chemistry between you two, I feel it's probably better to leave it alone.  You can affect her business for a little while and her livelihood can suffer.

I think if the review isn't to alert the guys, but can really hurt the girl, it doesn't serve a good purpose.  Just my opinion.

Discretion is the stronger(and wiser)part of valor.

I tend to agree with Roxanne.  However, if you feel that your lack of chemistry or whatever it was that lessened the experience, was a result of something lacking on the provider's part (i.e., advertised as a GFE but barely or wasn't one) that would induce the same feelings you had for another hobbyist than I think you should do the review.

At a certain point you just have to be truthful. If the provider didnt ring your bell just be honest and say so. If possible explain why, you very well could save some other guy from the same so-so experience.
ymmv and the more reviews the easier it is to determine who to see.

The man paid the cash, and presumably she kept it. He has every right to make an honest review detailing his experience.
As long as the review is truthful doesnt embellish unfairly or exaggerate there is nothing wrong with writing a review irregardless of any poor outcome for the provider.
this isn't a board for cheerleading (granted thats all it seems to be used for lately) but rather to help hobbiest decide who to see. Who knows his review may help a person decide to call or pass.

Granted i would probably use the back channels for a truly bad review (all that happens here when they are posted basically follows this formula: the cheerleaders and schills make public outcry the ladies get upset and the review is eventually removed for being "untruthful".
however this one just sounds like ymmv issues and most hobbiests can indentify those pretty easily.

If I am the one reviewed, how can you give me a 5 for appearance and 6 for performance when you said it was you? Your review doesn't match the numbers.I think you were upset because I cover everything. I did as you asked during the session, however I asked you not to review. You said you need two reviews for your free VIP status. I personally think it is disrespectful to have the world know what I do behind closed doors just so you can save $19.95 a month membership. Very tacky. I always ask to not be reviewed. If I was a rip off or misrepresented myself in any way, yes, by all means tell. Other than that, I prefer to leave my "bedroom actions" left in the bedroom. I do not need reviews to bolster my finances.

What's the point of asking for advice or wisdom of this group and than posting a review which was not even wanted.

If your provider specifically asked not to be reviewed than her wishes should have been respected. The original post was dated the 11th and on the 12th the subject of the review was very unhappy with the review.  Don't understand the reasoning.
As Roxanne wrote - most folks looking at these reviews look at only the numbers but the fact that "no review" was requested by the lady than you are less than a gentleman.  Don't waste our time with your "dillema" next time.

reminiscent of high school (or perhaps a frat house).  Why in the world would you feel the need to ask the opinions of others guys in this situation?  And if she doesn't want to be reviewed, the ONLY reason for posting would be to send a warning.  This doesn't sound like that.  Frankly, I think that a lot more guys on this board need to stop thinking about what other guys think.  Get some stones and write to Staff and ask them to pull your review, and then you'll be right where your gut told you you should have been.

answered your own question. You said she was "a fine gal and the time spent together was ok." Does that mean she was average and a nice lady, or does that mean you just were not that attracted to her? If the latter, then give her an appropriate score based upon her looks and not her performance and explain why she wasn't your type -- however you feel comfortable in your wording.

To some guys, I'd be a 9, to others a 7.

Hugs,
Ciara

Sorry, just couldn't resist.

Just my opinion...
B

I agree with Ciara,I am not a 10 to some but to others i am acceptable. You can't make everyone happy. If the woman suits your tastes your chemistry will most certainly be more pronounced. Otherwise, you probably won't be "exhuberantly happy" and your review will reflect so.
 I have had a couple of reviews on here that sent my self exteem plunging for a period of time. Ok, so i wasn't a 10 but i hardly thought i was a 6 or 30lbs overweight for that matter. (i weigh in @ my expected HWP and i am a bodybuilder in progress) i am human and i would expect anyone else to think the same about themselves. Roxanne hit the nail on the head. It is a painful thing to some people. I would rather you NOT post reviews about me if your experience with the "real" me didn't live up to your  fantasy expectations.

 I still live by the motto, if you can't say something nice about someone then don't say anything @ all... Whatever happened to those days? Perhaps the golden rule would apply?

 What if you were the provider and we were the hobbyist... Would our reviews hurt your feelings? Just because men leave us a gift doesn't mean they should get to hurt the feelings inside the woman.... Would you say those things about your wife? I don't know many men who would dare to share personal experiences from their private bedroom.

Just my 2 cents worth.....

kisses,
Draven

This guy should be encouraged to share his experience. As long as it is honest from his perspective, why not write a review?

I wish the golden rule did hold weight but in a situation where large amounts of cash are changing hands. If something goes awry there is no recourse other than grin and move on. Then the golden rule does not apply. A review isnt for you the provider it's for me the hobbiest. I would gently recommend you not read yours if they bother you, or request ter delist you (and live with the resulting backlash to your career. I read reviews to decide who to see or not see. I fully understand ymmv and to be honest other than for a general idea of services offered i just skim most reviews. I personally am interested in three things. one: how much. two: personality. three: location (i hate traveling forever for an hr of fun but thats me.

Now if a review is not favorable i am especially interested in those for the obvious reasons. was it ymmv? was she less then advertised? was it something more sinister on her part? the hobbiest needs to know these things.

the revealing details you dislike are required by ter of little real use. we could get by with just using the the abbreviations. In thise case we have what we have.