Phoenix
but heard about it later.
I prefer to not get in the middle of anything or take sides. I like my little corner and mindin' my own biz.
In the past I've gotten calls or e-mails warning me of a situation or person and I know that the message is well meant because the caller or author does not want me to get dragged in by someone they feel is not trustworthy. I appreciate that but it gets out of hand when it becomes a "he said, she said"kind of thing or until (sometimes) it gets so old and you are so tired of it your fingers are in your ears and you are screaming, "LA-LA-LA I CAN'T HEAR YOU..., lol.
I have been there myself (on the caller/author/offended party end of things) and I have come to this conclusion....
I agree that there is a time, a place and a method for dealing with everything and I say this from my own experiences.
The boards sure aren't the place.
The time is up to the few involved in the situation and it is based on the method they choose.
The method is an individual choice.
The method of silence is very impressive to me, not feeling like you even have to waste your time or the cyber ink defending when you know that you are well known enough in the community to not NEED TO. I admire that. I wish I was better myself at it, but...
I had a problem with someone in the past and over time, the proof was clear that she was a "bad apple" because she kept on doing what she was doing to others (besides just me) and basically hanged herself over time and made it abundantly clear that she could not be trusted. Of course she still tries, lol.
Although it was a very difficult ordeal, I learned so much from that! I used so much energy trying to defend myself and "warn" others, it was exhausting and it made me sick to my stomach. I really did want to warn others. I felt it was my duty. I did not want the same things to happen to anyone else, but in spite of my attempts, some chose not to listen anyway, got burned and learned the hard way, so I suppose that there was no need for it at all on my part because it all came out in the wash and she proved herself to be exactly what she was. I would have felt guilty if I had not tried to warn people at the time, but looking back I am not sure if it did any good and I know that both of us carrying on fueled the already raging inferno even if I was being honest and trying to warn others.
Life is too short to put too much of your energy into that junk.
Don't let it steal your joy.
Peace.
but heard about it later.
I prefer to not get in the middle of anything or take sides. I like my little corner and mindin' my own biz.
In the past I've gotten calls or e-mails warning me of a situation or person and I know that the message is well meant because the caller or author does not want me to get dragged in by someone they feel is not trustworthy. I appreciate that but it gets out of hand when it becomes a "he said, she said"kind of thing or until (sometimes) it gets so old and you are so tired of it your fingers are in your ears and you are screaming, "LA-LA-LA I CAN'T HEAR YOU..., lol.
I have been there myself (on the caller/author/offended party end of things) and I have come to this conclusion....
I agree that there is a time, a place and a method for dealing with everything and I say this from my own experiences.
The boards sure aren't the place.
The time is up to the few involved in the situation and it is based on the method they choose.
The method is an individual choice.
The method of silence is very impressive to me, not feeling like you even have to waste your time or the cyber ink defending when you know that you are well known enough in the community to not NEED TO. I admire that. I wish I was better myself at it, but...
I had a problem with someone in the past and over time, the proof was clear that she was a "bad apple" because she kept on doing what she was doing to others (besides just me) and basically hanged herself over time and made it abundantly clear that she could not be trusted. Of course she still tries, lol.
Although it was a very difficult ordeal, I learned so much from that! I used so much energy trying to defend myself and "warn" others, it was exhausting and it made me sick to my stomach. I really did want to warn others. I felt it was my duty. I did not want the same things to happen to anyone else, but in spite of my attempts, some chose not to listen anyway, got burned and learned the hard way, so I suppose that there was no need for it at all on my part because it all came out in the wash and she proved herself to be exactly what she was. I would have felt guilty if I had not tried to warn people at the time, but looking back I am not sure if it did any good and I know that both of us carrying on fueled the already raging inferno even if I was being honest and trying to warn others.
Life is too short to put too much of your energy into that junk.
Don't let it steal your joy.
Peace.
for being so kind as to notice and say something nice. Refreshing is right!