Without giving too much info on a public forum, is there a screening method that allows girls to feel comfortable that new guys are ok?  But also makes the guy feel safe as well... Or is it a catch 22?

Some of us who have been around a while might be grandfathered so to speak in some cases.

Its a tough call of how much info you are willing to give a complete stranger that could potentially be used to hurt you.

Same for a girl, the risks of meeting someone new who might hurt them is also concerning.

I think at the least, we guys should not complain about screening methods.  Nobody is forcing us to give up our info, if we dont want to give it up, then we dont need to see the girl.  No biggie.

Many ladies are okay with accepting 3rd party methods such as P411, datecheck, rs2k because of the info the guys have to give up with those sites.

We have run into some newbies, but they seem happy to provide some personal information to us for screening since we are a "different breed". By simply researching us, they are comfortable with us having their info.

This lifestyle has to have some give to truly enjoy it. Guys, you can also screen your lady of choice if she has reviews, ads, maybe a website. Look for consistency and stability - those are keepers. Also, reach out to the reviewers - they could clue you in on some of the ladies they have seen.

Like I always say when making a business deal, both parties should feel "sort of happy".

You should feel like you gave "to much info" and she should feel like you didn't give "quite enough".

In the end it's about "gut feelings.  I remember the 1st time I spoke with an ATF about 6 years ago.  We were on the phone feeling each other out and I said "it's always stressful having a new person visit my house", she replied "it's always stressful going to a house for the 1st time". We laughed and became fast friends and saw each other a few dozen times before she retired

I'm willing to give up whatever info I get.    I will give my real name if she will give hers.  I will provide my employment info if she provides hers if she has a day job.   I really can't see giving personal information to someone that isn't willing to do the same in return.

I've helped a friend set up some fantastic screening tools to be safer out there.  Some of them access Lexus-Nexus databases and are pretty amazing with the info that can be accessed.  

If you are a guy and unwilling to give the information to be verified, then you shouldn't complain if a lady declines to have you come into her place or have her walk into an unknown situation.  
LE, perverts, sick fcktards galore are in our community and looking to make trouble.  

From my viewpoint:  if I contact someone that doesn't have a solid history and reputation, and they don't want to know anything about me (screening), then I wonder if am I walking into a trap because it's too easy...

From her viewpoint:  Some unknown guy calls and wants me to walk into a hotel room or a private place without security or a driver to watch out for me and then gives me crap for wanting to know anything about him?  Are you looking at loss of freedom, or loss of life?    

On a Vegas trip, a friend was offered 10X her standard rate if she went into an off-Strip hotel from a foreign cell phone number with a group of guys in the background, and refused to provide anything for verification late at night.   She was smart enough to say NFW and hung up.  

 

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Chicken or the egg: who gives the info first?