I don't think that we have the right to ask them not to see certain providers. It's up to us to keep them 'interested' and coming back for more. Some guys just need variety and no matter what kind of 'deal' you work with them they'll still be curious about someone else. If it really bothers you then the next time he sees you just tell him that the deal is over and he needs to pay your price.

I don't mean this rudely, but this client is not your boyfriend and has a right to see any other provider he wants to. Just be honest with him and tell him that the reason you gave him such a great deal and more time was because he agreed to see you more! If he does not follow through on his end of the deal then you tell him he has to pay your regular going rate. it is quite simple. No, you do not have a right to tell him not to see certain providers...you can however tell him that if he sees a certain provider you will no longer see him again and then ofcourse give him a valid reason why. It is funny that this comes up because I have had clients straight out tell me they wouldn't see another provider because they didn't want to make me jealous...I laughed at that! I could care less how many other providers the client saw...I am not tied to him in anyway this is what makes my job so fun! So anyway hope my advice helped a little!!

This practice is called "grandfathering" let's say when you first started out at a much lower rate you have clients that have been loyal thru the years it is hard to increase their pricing, but if they only see you once in a blue moon  and are paying the going rate to other providers I think you can let them know that you are raising your rates to be competive with the other providers, there are exceptions to every rule and it also depends on how much you enjoy spending time with this person, or you can put him the back burner and see him only when times are slow or it is conveinent for you to do so...you have no right to tell him where to shop but you do have the right to be busy when he calls, sometimes it works in your favor let's say he sees a higher priced gal and missed the connection he felt with you then he will appreciate you even more . Another option could be to tell him AFTER your next date that you are raising your rates so he then can decide on his own if he is willing to pay your new rate.Victoria

This one hits real close to home for me.  I fear my favorite for the past several years is upset with me for seeing others.  I have asked her about it in the past as I do not want to hurt feelings.  I still want to experience the excitement of "someone new" however. That's a big reason for doing what I do. I don't want to have to feel like I'm cheating.  I already have to deal with that from home.  There are also certain comforts about seeing someone on a regular basis that you can not experience any other way.  I assumed and hoped that from the ladies point of view they offered, or accepted, giving the extra time and reduced rate for other reasons as well.  Someone they could spend time with and know exactly what they were getting as well.  Maybe it even gave a break from the regular routine to relax a little.  Maybe they even enjoy that persons company.  Someone who showed a REAL respect and understanding for there provider.

Curious girl, though I can't answer your question, I can say that as a client, I would love to find a provider such as yourself that would offer a discount that I would see solely and regularly and that I could shower with gifts, such as gift cards, perfume, clothes, a laptop.  It would still be business, but just more 'friendly'.  


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for two reasons

#1  FUCK ALIAS'  enough said

# 2  I don't give discounts.  I allow my clients to be "grandfathered" at the donation amount established at the time we met.  

However, I have just recently been posed this question by a client and quite frankly, if a client is going to banter me about giving him extra time because he sees me (=pays me) weekly then perhaps we do not need to spend so much time together.  I am not in this hobby in order to garner a relationship.  I enjoy that which I do and am quite good at it.  I offer my clients a fabulous experience and always make it clear from the gate that there should NEVER be an expectation for a personal relationship placed upon me.  I have placed myself in the fiscal market as I feel is appropriate for my reputation and services and I find it insulting that a client feels as though he should receive a discount because he CHOOSES to spend so much time with me.  

Does that mean that because I give so much of myself to my clients that perhaps every fifth visit, I could just come over, not say a word and take a nap AND collect my donation?  I highly doubt it.  (and please -LOL - I do not wish to be innundated with emails with an offer to take a nap! hahahahahahaha)

Love and blesings to you all!
Namaste,
Jazz



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Very well said you own no body any thing more and what they came for in the first place if they want more they should go and get married then they’ll see what that will cost them.

Who the hell would accuse you of being curious girl oh well that’s your aliases? Say any thing they want with out thinking.

PS nice temporary site.

raising your rate on a regular whom you've been seeing at your old and lower rate. She's talking about someone for whom she's lowered the rate at which she first saw him at for business or personal reasons. She expected him to stay loyal to her and not see other girls. She feels bad that he now also sees other girls. Does she have the right to say something?

Personally I think that she doesn't have any right to be upset that he also sees other girls, just as he doesn't when she sees other men which we know she does because that's what she does for a living (though I do know of some UTR ladies that only see a few regulars, by their own choice and not due to circumstances).

I don't know if she's mad at the bad business decision that she's made or her personal feelings are hurt because they had a special connection. With regards to the former, I think she should just chalk it up as a lesson learned (I bet they didn't have a binding contract drawn up for this arrangement). As far as the latter goes, hobbyists and providers alike are only human. Sometimes we have connection with someone we meet through this hobby and put ourselves out there. But she needs to realize that this is a business connection and not love connection. Guys will be guys. Oh heck, girls will be girls. This is not a martial relationship where you're expected to be faithful. I bet sometimes the girls get tired of the same guys they've seeing too often and would rather that they not see her so she'll have time to try someone new and refreshing.

Really she shouldn't have much expectation of him when it comes to loyalty. Loyalty should come naturally (if you treat him right and SPECIAL he'll come back again and again as no one else does that for him) and never to be expected or demanded by either side. Sure, there'll be feeling of jealousy but you'll just have to bottle it up and move on, or continue to see him if you still enjoy his company and he's willing to pay for your asking price whatever it is.  

I worked out an arrangement for a very significant discount for multiple hours with a regular provider of mine. Bought nice outfits for roleplay and heels etc. It was great and the best while it latest. You providers out there, you should try it with your better clients and test the waters. We know how to spoil. Any provider want to be spoiled out there ?????

I agree with you, Jazz.  I have to admit that I have treated some friends to seductive excursions on their birthdays, some at extreme discounts, and even given gifts as a token of friendship and for the business they have brought me.  However, the one person that I made a deal with years ago -- who guaranteed me he would see me X amount of times a month -- didn't keep his promise. I'll probably never do that again. But who knows!

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