Seems to be a lot lately on the subject. Why a 10? What makes for rockin' sex versus slow passion. What things do guys like.
You are right. It is not always the picture of the provider. And I have met you once, and you are pretty dreamy, so I would not change a thing...
To answer your question though:
1. The fantasy - it starts at first communication. That is your web site, your email back. Your phone conversation (oops, I am with my kids can I call you back..ooops, I am with my husband / boyfriend can I call you back - nah, they never that - but it does weight if we know you have an SO - again, a GFE - my Girlfriend does not have a husband or boyfriend.) Some guys do not care about this. Because they themselves have an SO. Heck, that's probably 90%....
But the Fantasy that for that one moment, I am yours and you are mine, begins with first communication and ends as you hug me and kiss me when I am leaving (or you are leaving) in a way that says you experienced me and enjoyed it.
2. Environment - Some say potato... key here is, yep, I go to my Doctors office or my Attorneys office, and if it is a mess or not clean...well I think the same way about girls I see. The environment should suit the business and the image the business wants to create. Your 4 poster bed, well, that implies to me a Victorian experience. Nice lingerie. Slow passion. Candles. SOmething offered to drink (even water on hot days).... Now, it is not always what you see is what you get, and that is cool. The solution is to advertise the type of person you are and fill that image. Yea, would some guys like a contemporary pad, perhaps, but you are who you are. Unfortunately, I do not think there is a standard way of decorating for the biz. When I think attorneys, I think a lot of books...
3. Greeting me - We make an impression in 10 seconds or less. How you are dressed. What I walk into. That sets the mood. I don't expect a DFK walking in the door, but a warm hug, kiss on the cheek greeeting is nice.
4. Time - Some girls REALLY are too aware of the clock in their room. Girls need to learn the science of scheduling and knowing the time, without making the guy feel like the clock is watch. I have had 10 experiences with only a 10 minute extension. She knew the time somehow.
5. Comfort - We all want to feel loveable. How you do that in a natural NON-MECHANICAL way (caps - because that defines it is a play and not "real" fantasy wise). So how you make me feel comfortable and sexy is important. Are you a girlie girl or a bit masculine. Guys like different approaches. I like girlie girls. And unfortunately a girl saying she is does not make her one.
6. Once you got me comfortable (note - all of these things and the rest are time dependant on the guys comfort with you and his schedule) we progress to those activities that guys are looking for. I will not delve into the alphabet soup of acronyms here, because even those are different for each girl experience (how do you compare a Sedona experience to a Mya experience - you don't and you shouldn't). But...skill is key. If someone says "something" in a review was not the greatest, ask around! This is business and you should want to be the best at those letters that you can be. Else we get bored and go elsewhere.
7. When the time is right, we do not want to feel rushed. But again, loved a bit. CUddling. A washcloth, A drink of water - heck, give me a mint. JUst make the end as pleasurable as the middle. Because that is what will also be remembered well.
8. Had a girl once, make sure my clothes were laid out neat so they would not be wrinkled. Had a girl with the music, candles, wine, lingerie so perfect.. Had a girl once that was so playful we felt like teenagers as she bounced on her bed and I chased her around it. Had a girl once massage me a bit after and take a shower with me after, scrubbing my back. Had a girl who knew how to sroke my arm and chest, gave me little butterfly kisses, grined and was HAPPY (key - we do not want to hear about your problems!!! Car accidents, kids, ex's, DUI's, money issues...). 10 good experiences or acts are cancelled by one little slip of a bad experience or memory or act. Be careful what you say...
9. Parking, security, neighborhood, yea. it matters. It is part of the memory. Directions should be good. You should be on time!! and ready. And the instructions on gift clearly defined.
10. Thank you - I have called a few times to say thank you. Well, a quick email back to the guy. A note of appreciation. And humbleness - know this. All girls are not created equal. As you said. You are who you are. But..that does not mean you cannot improve. And you obviously care, else you would not be asking this. So I would give you points (and Mya, Manae and others who have asked recently) for wanting to be better. It is also ok to ask while we are there, but I would prefer you did all of the above, so I could see you over and over and over again.
Make a guy, feel like your boyfriend. Our compatability BCD will always drive us to different women, if needed. You get regulars when you have chemistry with someone and make the effort. Tease, flirt, treat me like the King of the hour. I want a feminine partner BCD. Even if she is wild or shy.
P.S> I am in the BIltmore area too! And my favorite music, well, I like slow R&B. Candles with no scent (some make me stuffy - and that is awkward). An offer of water BCD.
The above 10 kinda outline the "experience". Honey, it is hard to say what guys will rate a girl in the looks department. And like you said, you ain't changing (and from my view, you do not need to and I am a picky mofo).
Create a positive memory that I will cling on to. And I will be back. Sometimes it may take a while (travelling, etc). And if our chemistry is strong, I will crave you and be back really soon. But chemistry is binary so the experience can be diminished by things we cannot control.
My 10's...
1. The kiss. She knew how to kiss and flirt better than any woman I had ever met. A Phoenix legend. MOved..
2. The look. She looked at me with adoration. Like she actually thought I was beautiful as a man. Inside and aout. A Dallas legend - semi-retired.
3. The environment and playfulness - from the moment she opened the door, she was wearing, wow, I can still see the place in my minds eye. She had wine in a cooler for us (had asked what I liked before). Music, candles, and she cuddled before the BCD even. She was the one who I chased around the bed. We had incredible chemistry. New York, retired - sigh...
4. Charm - I have never met a woman who had the charm like this one does. She does not realize how much it impacts her business in a positive way. Referrals, etc.. Now, we had good chemistry, and I'd be lying to say I have not thought about her, 'cuz I have. But as great as she is, I hate booking with guys. Unless they are friends. She is so charming though...man...a Phoenix, nay, a US legend. Miss S, get someone as direct number for me please!
5. The shower. The massage. The look. The intelligence. The style. She is all that and a bag of chips. She made me want more. AZMystiques knows who she is as she is still there.
6. Wow. My most recent. A new Dallas girl. Exploring her sexuality. Warm. cuddling. Mature. Touch was great. Hopefully she does not burn out as she is booked into 2013 and only works every other week.
Maybe answered some questions. Maybe not. My mood that day creates an image as well. You can only try to read it and adjust it in your favor. But that means you have to like people. Like guys that you are seeing. And burn out shows.
There is a difference between the mechanics of a session and intamacy. Create a bit of intamacy and not be mechanical.
Stay sweet...
J
