A fond farewell I guess.  I have not been here long- but I had my fun- and you really seem like a great group of people.  I started this hobby because of needs that were not met- because I work to hard and don’t play enough.  My reason for dropping out?  Well- I think I suck at this- and you woman are too good at this.  Pretty much the handful of providers I have met did their job too well and made me feel like the most special person on this planet-.  Maybe I am too immature for this game- even though I am in my upper 30’s.   I guess when it comes down to it- I am really looking for love as well as great sex.     When I want to date every provider I have seen- I know I should not be thinking or acting this way….so time to throw in the towel.  I guess I am smart enough to know I won’t find what I am truly looking for in this hobby.  

To all the Phoenix providers- you woman are incredible- true treasures of the valley.  Be safe and well.  

So how I am going to handle going cold turkey?  No idea- maybe therapy or a lot of porn- lol.  Who knows- maybe when I grow up I will be back.  I am sure I will still lurk and look at all your hot pics- but time for me to refocus my life I guess.  

Man this is going to suck- lol

we hope you find what you are looking for.

this is probably one of the best posts ( and advise) i've ever read.........dam'n your good!

it will find you at the most unexpected time.  I was cruising along happily for seven years in my mid thirties dating whenever, whomever and wherver I liked and then -pow.  A lady with three kids (which I did not want) knocked me for loop.  The rest is history.  Happy days are ahead and eventually you will end up with whatever makes you happiest.

you'll ever get. There are some things in life you just wont find till you stop chasing them.

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Dear Spike...I read your post several times and kind of confused as to whom or what exactly you are trying to communicate. You are all over the place in your message. You "started out in the community for fun, in personal life needs weren't met, but dropping out because you suck at this and providers are too good at this".....thought you were here to have fun?...anyway, "met a handful of providers who did their job too well"....thought you were here to have fun?....anyway, lost me on the "immature and upper 30's" comment...immature upper 30 year olds can be here to have fun, right?...anyway, "looking for love as well as great sex"...didn't you say you were looking for fun?  By the way, when you find a real love the great sex should be a natural progression (you don't learn that in porn)....anyway, "want to date every provider you have seen so throw in the towel"...what happened to your fun?...anyway, yes you give yourself some credit for recognizing that this is a hobby, my thoughts to follow....anyway, most intelligible comment you've made in your post is that "To all the Phoenix providers- you woman are incredible- true treasures of the valley" except do you mean women, not "woman".... again I revert back to my opening statement as to whom or what exactly you are trying to communicate...is this post meant for a specific woman?...still having fun?...anyway, Mya is right on about porn and relationships.....and you say you need "therapy" for having met only a handful of Phx providers that you wanted to have fun with?
As far as refocusing, I can relate because I have had a hex or two put on me having met some of these gals and mine were a complete set of different circumstances but in your case you set out to meet these ladies for "fun".  Maybe you watch porn as well for fun (not anti porn here) but what you have to respect in this hobby is that it is about 'time and companionship'. The problem is that you brought your own agenda which you set specific expectations (and false ones at that) forecasting your agenda upon the ladies who you met. What I have realized to do(and I think almost any provider I have ever met can speak on my behalf) for the 'time and companionship' with these lovely ladies is I bring my passionate, honest, real deal, gentleman touch in my role giving to the lady I am spending 'time and companionship' with.  In other words, every lady I have met in this community I show her respect during the 'time and companionship' for whom she is and not what she offers or does as you most likely relate to in your porn videos.  Every one of these ladies is more than just a "fun" time and I truly have enjoyed meeting everyone of them. If you desire to retire (hey that rhymes), do so because you recognize not that you are immature but becasue you have a false set of criteria in your world of what 'time and companionship' means to you personally.  You should make an apology to the handful of providers you blame for ruining your "fun" because they did their "job" too well.  Sounds to me that the reality is you are addicted to porn and can't handle the real thing. So get your therapy for your porn addiction and not because of these very (and I mean very) fine quality sweethearts who are real people, not objects of your sole pleasure fulfillment..I mean your "fun".



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Good luck in the "real" world, where the losses hurt, but the victories are SO much sweeter.

Next time you vacation in the hobby, just remember it's ALWAYS a visit. Have that round-trip ticket ready.

Cause while it is a VERY nice and fun place to visit, seems you learned the most important lesson...

you wouldn't want to live here.

Happy Trails
JJ

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You make a good point.. I would say that neither the hobby nor porn demonstrate a 'normal' interaction between a man and woman but I applaud this guy for trying to refocus his objectives and pursue what will hopefully lead to his own happiness.
Best of luck spike..

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Thanks all for your replies. I really appreciate the input and advice.  No- I never went the Mya route- which is probably a good thing because I would have probably never recovered from someone of her quality  

Okay- not really a big porn person. I was talking more tongue and cheek.  I can't even remember the last time I watched one other than a steamy scene on hbo- lol. In reality it was like 5 months ago.  I don’t even own a porno.   But I do appreciate your advice and wisdom Mya.  Hell-even with providers- to me it was about the romance of the moment, not a porno.  I don't blame some who want it that way with a provider- just not my cup of tea.  

Iceman- thanks for correcting me on my improper use of the word "woman" instead of "women".  I was at work when I did the post and yes- an oversight in my rush. I will admit- I suck at proofing- ask my boss- lol.    I don't blame the providers for anything- they were awesome.  I had fun and they made me feel like a king.  It was a great experience and I don't have any regrets- only fond memories.  I would highly recommend this hobby to anyone looking for some fun in their life and needing to fill a void.  Maybe it’s just that my void was filled and now I am ready to move forward- like it was so eloquently described- “a vacation”.  Who was I talking to? – well I guess more myself-  I chose a path- I am not trying to sway anyone down my road or cast any aspersions on this hobby.  If I came across that way- I apologize. I believe in free choice, free speech and still have no idea why this hobby is considered illegal for something between two adults (But that is a whole other topic).  Out of all my current hobbies- motorcycles, atv’s, sports, boating- ect- this was by far my most pleasurable one.  

So true about not looking for love.  Just trying to live my life and have fun for myself.  If it happens it happens- if it doesn’t I will continue to move forward in life and still be happy    

In short- I was honestly surprised on how nice everyone was. I also learned things from my journey and even made a few friends (email friends) along the way.  So yes- pretty much a win win all the way around for me.  And it was all completed with the advice and use of this board.  Thanks again.