I was talking with a civie girlfriend who said she was ending a relationship with a great guy because after several months she could not seem to teach him how to kiss her the way she thought a good kiss should be done....I kinda understand where she is coming from, for me personally I can tell right away how the date is going by that first kiss....I am sure this road gos both ways and was wondering can you teach someone how to kiss?I once referenced a client by two different local providers and one said "Oh he is a lizard kisser"meaning a tounge darter" the next said he was fine and did not remember anything negative so my approach was during the meet and greet part of the date I told him I loved guys that kissed slow and soft and he picked up on my hints and we were just fine.....but recently I had a very nice man that no matter how I tried he was so wet and sloppy my whole face was wet with saliva not good....He has since called and I have declined a second date which is sad because he was so nice.I was once told that kissing was an upper persuasion for lower invasion and I have always thought whether in this business or in civieland the KISS for me  has to really get the juices moving.Well with Valintines day approaching  heres to all the great kissers  thank you and Happy Valintines Day....Victoria


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It should go without saying that teeth should be brushed, flossed and mouths should be rinsed. No need to smell like a bottle of Listerine, either. The goal is no smell at all. Secondly, I think a good kiss begins with a look into the eyes first...not a creepy stare, but a brief look into the eyes. This is quickly followed by a look at the lady's lips...a) you have to know where the target is and b) you need to assess the kind of kiss to give (e.g. are her lips parted? Or, are they closed?) Sometimes, there is nothing wrong with starting with a kiss on the cheek...then move to the neck, just below the ear and let her perfume or natural scent work its magic.

Of course, soft, gentle kisses then find their way to other erogenous areas and sometimes those kisses do get wet and delightfully messy.

Sure am glad that I will be seeing you in LA on Monday @ 10, depending on traffic...we can see if I pass the kissing test.

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I started to see this handsome lawyer about 6 months ago. He was a great wonderful person to be around, however the kissing part was a total disaster. He would be forceful, stick his tongue down my throat and I could barely breath. So after a few times when this happened I suddenly in the middle of the kiss pushed him away from me (he had me pinned in the corner of the couch) and I told him bluntly that this isn't working. I said: "you are kissing me, and I am not able to reciprocate. A kiss isn't suppose to be forceful, it is suppose to be slow and gentle and you are building it up to be more passionate as it goes, but you need to be able to make me kiss YOU too. My tongue is not supposed to be down your throat and yours not in mine. Our tongues need to meet half way. And also you need to loosen up in your cheeks." So I started to kiss him slowly and gentle to show him what I real passionate kiss was all about and it was very nice...until he started to kiss me back...he got better, but he simply didn't know how to do it, and I couldn't teach him. That was the last time I saw him. I can not be with someone who can't kiss. I did write something at the time, with him in mind and I put it on my website, because that is how I like to be kissed and that is how I feel about kissing. I will share it will all of you here:

The Kiss

 A kiss is something you cannot give without taking and cannot take without giving. People who throw kisses are hopelessly lazy. It's much more than just an action; it's a feeling of emotion and desire.

  Kissing to me is a means of getting two people so close together that they can't see anything wrong with each other. It can also be a way to stop one from talking. Is there anything more awesome than a beautiful long passionate kiss! I can't think of anything at the moment.

  Kisses may spread germs but they certainly lower resistance. Can kissing be dirty? Only if you do it right!

 A kiss without a hug is like a flower without the fragrance. Four sweet lips, two pure souls, and one undying affection ~ these are loves precious ingredients for a perfect kiss.

 I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last for three days. There truly to me nothing better than that look into each others eyes; Feeling the passion and desire and than meeting of the lips. That to me is the start of beautiful foreplay. The long romantic kiss that leaves you dizzy and not wanting to stop. The touching of the hair, the deep stare into your partners eyes and the warmth of your touch. This is love. Let this desire grow stronger throughout your relationship not diminish. Bring the love back like you were dating again for those of you who have been in a long term relationship.

xoxo
Swedish Anna

Anna, that was beautifully put, thank you for sharing this with everyone...Victoria

I think everyone must know by now that English is not your native language. However, you write beautifully and are very expressive. It is wonderful to find someone who is not only very lovely, but sensual and romantic too. Beauty and brains can be a very powerful combination, as you well know.

as his right hand gently carresses you back,down to your left cheek.pulling you into his rising manhood....now thats what i'm talkin about!

I once dated a girl who was sweet, very sexy, and a passionate lover. But when it came to kissing, her lips were unyielding, and kisses were more pressing than caressing.

By the time we were making love, I felt comfortable enough to simply offer suggestions as we kissed. "Honey, relax your mouth a bit while we kiss"..."Sweetie, open your mouth just a tiny bit"...and she'd pay attention to what I did and how I reacted to her changes.

She turned out to be a terrific kisser and she enjoyed kissing more than she ever thought possible.

It's like any other part of lovemaking. The more you communicate with each other, the happier it gets.

That is the first thing I look for in a profile does she kiss.  I tip my hat to the ladies who do offer a kiss, it's a sweet way to start and like Victoria says upper persuasion leads to lower invasion.  Happy Valentines Day to All!

you are a good kisser!!!!!Communication is the key!
good response, sweetie

The kiss is such a connection to start. Sharing yourself in the first form of intamacy. It has to be magical.Because long term, passionate people kiss a lot. I know in a relationship I do. And it has to work. You have to be able to feel the other persons heart through the kiss, for us intuitives. And if someone is unskilled at sharing their heart through a kiss, there may be other communication issues. Key is, everyone enjoys a different type of kisser. But for me, there is only one kind. An ex found her mate and I am happy for her. But we did not kiss well together and had to move on. Each kisser has his/her mate somewhere. I just hope they all find them.

I do not believe, for intuitives, it is something we want to or should train. It is so basic intamacy wise and such a lead in to so many other communication areas.

And for those who don't sense the other person, let's hope they find that match.

Kisses to all!

Most definitely a poorly orchestrated kiss can be a deal breaker.  Many of the preceding responses express this feeling much better than I can and Anna to no surprise as pretty much nailed it.  My usage of the term orchestrated or orchestration is intentional for the exceptional kiss is many individual elements combined into one extraordinary experience.  In the hands of a gifted composer its recognized themes can be molded and embellished drawing you in to make you part of the whole.  And just the thought of being on the receiving end of such a composition is like music to my ears and food for the soul.

this is for you, Dear!

your introuble now! Better eat those wheates.

Dam it's gettin hot!