Can a few of you ladies chime in about the best way to handle the donation. I have read all kinds of answer's.

Hand it to her in an envelope, don't hand it to her, and such.

Dang, it's hard to be try and be nice. LOL

My Best,
Confused "Bordello"

My way of doing this is not everyone's way. I prefer the envelope be laid someplace in my room within my site on a side table or my dresser, and it never be mentioned. I just prefer to treat it as a date. I will deal with the envelope later and my date during what is THEIR TIME with me.

Anyone else??

Peace,
Cheyenna

P.S.- Bordello, you are such a nice man. I just adore gentlemen like you.

Thank You,
Hope I live up to it. I will try my best.

Regards,
Bordello

If not, spank me.  LOL

I find that the opinions are as varied as the ladies.

Some like it very discreetly tucked in an envelope and the envelope very discreetly placed somewhere...

Some feel more secure with the donation being visible (or countable).

I propose this...
Before walking in, separate your donation amount and fold it into your pocket.  (This way, you can leave your wallet, valuables, etc. in your car if you feel more inclined to do so.)

When you arrive, place it somewhere inconspicuous (end table, kitchen or bathroom counter, etc.) and excuse yourself to relieve yourself, wash up, etc.

That way, the lady can acknowledge it, count it, or ignore it.  Whichever she chooses.

I don't know how the other ladies feel, but I will say that I will never ever ever accept cash that is handed to me.  I will respond with a dumb, clueless expression (which took me a few seconds to perfect) until you place it somewhere other than my hand.

I think the only time a gal would get pissy about donation protocol is if your gift is "sealed" in an envelope...
Some folks use that as a way to 'fakeout' the gal and leave less than the required amount or in extreme cases IOUs (or on one occasion, a folded copy of 'The Watchtower').  Funny in retrospect; not funny back then.  

Granted, this really only applies for first-time appointments.  
Many gals (including myself) are a little more lax on donation exchange once you've become a trusted friend.

But that's just my opinion.  

Good luck!





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Thank you,
Nice to get to know how different ladies feel about it.

Regards,
Bordello

Aria stated it very well and I have to agree with her. But to add you should NEVER hand it to a woman and she sould NEVER take it directly from you for legal reasons.

My personal preference is place it out immediately upon arrival on the table, night stand where it clearly stays until both parties are "satisfied".  That way there is no business to do or talk about.  And with well established clients I do not worry about it at all as I know they will leave it before they leave. So why use an envelope, not necessary for me.

And I have to agree with Aria that some men use the envelope to leave less or no money for the appt. aka rip off the lady.  

Just my opinion.

Misty

That sounds too easy. I hate the counting in front of me thing.

Oftentimes, the lady will express a preference on her website (often under a tab marked "Etiquette," how she wants the donation handled.  I try to follow the lady's wishes.

I don't like it when men wait until they leave to give me the donation, especially if they're new and I have asked them to read my website and especially my Gratuity page. I feel like they're hiding something or maybe they're not paying the right donation. Lay the envelope at the beginning of the appointment in clear sight (like it says on my website), and don't say anything. If something's mentioned then I just say, "Oh, what is this, my birthday card?"

Hugs,
Ciara

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Shakespeare was sort of obsessed with the hobby and thats in fact where the term comes from.

providers were hobby horses in those days and the only time a man handed money to a woman was when he was paying a prost.

so no, its considered foul to hand a woman money no matter who she is unless you are thinking of her in a certain way.. dont think many of us like to be thought of that way (might be an exception of course) ... so put it an envelope or dont but LAY IT DOWN please.  ..

its weird but even before i knew that, i never liked a guy directly handing me money.. not so much that i wouldnt take it, but still i'd first tell him to put it down.

its a peeve of mine.

Do I have to tell have to tell you I run the Bingo here, now let's hope BishopFollowme does not see your post.

You must see me in the confessional AGAIN ! ! !
envelpoe in usual place.  Shhhhhhhh



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The female tellers at the bank had me cash (I witedraw from my account) often, then I put it in an envelope and put the envelpoe on a lovely ldies dresser or where ever her website instructs me to do so.

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-- Modified on 5/20/2008 2:15:58 PM

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