Re: Donation?

My way of doing this is not everyone's way. I prefer the envelope be laid someplace in my room within my site on a side table or my dresser, and it never be mentioned. I just prefer to treat it as a date. I will deal with the envelope later and my date during what is THEIR TIME with me.

Anyone else??

Peace,
Cheyenna

P.S.- Bordello, you are such a nice man. I just adore gentlemen like you.

I find that the opinions are as varied as the ladies.

Some like it very discreetly tucked in an envelope and the envelope very discreetly placed somewhere...

Some feel more secure with the donation being visible (or countable).

I propose this...
Before walking in, separate your donation amount and fold it into your pocket.  (This way, you can leave your wallet, valuables, etc. in your car if you feel more inclined to do so.)

When you arrive, place it somewhere inconspicuous (end table, kitchen or bathroom counter, etc.) and excuse yourself to relieve yourself, wash up, etc.

That way, the lady can acknowledge it, count it, or ignore it.  Whichever she chooses.

I don't know how the other ladies feel, but I will say that I will never ever ever accept cash that is handed to me.  I will respond with a dumb, clueless expression (which took me a few seconds to perfect) until you place it somewhere other than my hand.

I think the only time a gal would get pissy about donation protocol is if your gift is "sealed" in an envelope...
Some folks use that as a way to 'fakeout' the gal and leave less than the required amount or in extreme cases IOUs (or on one occasion, a folded copy of 'The Watchtower').  Funny in retrospect; not funny back then.  

Granted, this really only applies for first-time appointments.  
Many gals (including myself) are a little more lax on donation exchange once you've become a trusted friend.

But that's just my opinion.  

Good luck!





-- Modified on 5/18/2008 11:51:44 PM

Aria stated it very well and I have to agree with her. But to add you should NEVER hand it to a woman and she sould NEVER take it directly from you for legal reasons.

My personal preference is place it out immediately upon arrival on the table, night stand where it clearly stays until both parties are "satisfied".  That way there is no business to do or talk about.  And with well established clients I do not worry about it at all as I know they will leave it before they leave. So why use an envelope, not necessary for me.

And I have to agree with Aria that some men use the envelope to leave less or no money for the appt. aka rip off the lady.  

Just my opinion.

Misty

Oftentimes, the lady will express a preference on her website (often under a tab marked "Etiquette," how she wants the donation handled.  I try to follow the lady's wishes.

Shakespeare was sort of obsessed with the hobby and thats in fact where the term comes from.

providers were hobby horses in those days and the only time a man handed money to a woman was when he was paying a prost.

so no, its considered foul to hand a woman money no matter who she is unless you are thinking of her in a certain way.. dont think many of us like to be thought of that way (might be an exception of course) ... so put it an envelope or dont but LAY IT DOWN please.  ..

its weird but even before i knew that, i never liked a guy directly handing me money.. not so much that i wouldnt take it, but still i'd first tell him to put it down.

its a peeve of mine.