Maybe you're a boob man, a legs man, a whatever man. But beyond that, what makes a woman really sexy to you? Is it strictly looks? Face? Body? Is it nasty talk that gets you excited?

For me, the sexiest women are those who show unbridled passion and hunger for my kisses and caresses, those who get lost in the lovemaking. Smart, confident, and funny are very sexy. A woman who is enjoying herself is sexy.

What makes a woman sexy to you?

And ladies, what makes a man sexy to you?

Sexy to me........  a woman who loves and gets off on sex !!   With no kids of course !!  Boy do the odds go waaaaaay down after those requests.

She doesn't spray me with mace when she opens the door!

Personally, I find true honesty (not cruelty), empathy and sensuality sexy. That ever so slight whiff of things to come, a private joke shared and remembered, the ever so slight touch on the arm or hand - when none was needed. Catching her watching me in a crowded room - seeing who I am talking with. Seeing her work a room, knowing that I will have her and she me. The ability to turn a phrase (excellent wit) go a long way for me. Sexy can be a coy giggle, allowing her dress to maybe ride a little high when sitting; maybe standing with her back arched and thrusting her petite breasts out for all to see. But, overall, it is her presentation of who she is and how she does it (present herself) that can be either sexy or repelling.

Frankly, I think sexy is hard to rigorously define. I can look at a painting and be stirred, but you may look at that same painting and think it is just a jumble of colors. I've met women who do none of the above, that I found sexy and wanted to possess.

Sexy starts before the bedroom, before the shedding of clothes or sharing a kiss. Sexy starts at that first glance or contact - whether via email or the phone or at a social. Sexy is not lingerie or the other accouterments of our hobby, sexy is not dirty talk (IMO) or services and acronyms. Sexy, again IMO, is not BCD it is really what leads to BCD. What happens BCD is erotic, titillating, and possibly even primitive. These and sexy lead to unbridled passion and for me that leads to a satisfying encounter.

Who are the women in our community I was thinking of when I wrote the above? I’ll never tell for that would NOT be sexy (besides, I think they carry mace).


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falls into 2 categories as far as I am concerned. 1) being erotic or 2) being appealing

As far as women go, I am heavily swayed towards category 1 defining "sexy".  There is nothing like a lady wearing a sexually suggestive attire that so persuasively begs you to look not once but again and maybe a third time that you snap your neck turning to catch that glance. Miniskirts, high heels, low cut blouses, string tops with no bra, very tight jeans, g-string, lingerie, bikinis, tan lines, and that is all before getting to the meat of things.  I find women highly sexy watching them stimulate themselves while engaged during intercourse.....damn, I miss this hobby.

presents herself in as one( dress,make up),acts like one(no f bombs please)and that smile that says "i want to get to know you"

Well, I guess I'm out.....no tan lines  :o(
but, I wasn't in anyway wink!

a hug anyway
Ter

Sexy is 90% half mental

Terri,  you are sexy just walking in the door.  You don't need tan lines.

One of the things that has surprised me since joining the hobby is the variety of 'types' of women I find attractive and not only appearance wise. I still have a basic 'type' I am generally attracted to but have found that I can have incredible fun playing with other 'types' of women. I guess for me that is what the hobby is really about, variety.

I think ultimately though, it is her enjoyment and pleasure that really turns me on; her response to the things I say and do, to my touch, and her ability to let the inhibitions and facade go (within the context of the session). And of course, it can be and usually is all an act and in fact, for a provider, letting down her guard can leave her in a fragile state. And this is why I believe there is often a 'compartmentalization' that takes place where a provider can let her alter persona act and behave and even enjoy things that the 'real' her would not or could not. But when it happens that you feel she is enjoying herself that is the most erotic thing imagineable.

I will of course not pressume that any of the women I have seen have actually enjoyed our time together and likely they are far more interested in my money that anything else; but when I feel like they are deriving pleasure from things instead of just following a routine is when I find them the most sexy.

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feels sexy about herself is most often also sexy to others! Add to that a decent figure; impeccable grooming; an engaging personality, some wit and some charm and how could any guy not find her sexy.

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a bag of toys under one arm and a six pack of beer under the other. Now, that is sexy !  LOL

Tan lines or not you are everything about being sexy.  With your ability to totally immerse yourself in those succulent moments of passion who needs tan lines!!!

I forgot to mention that I find blondes sexy too. With so many tanning salons around these days, it is a rare find to see a gal with tan lines. So when I have had the opportunity to see a lady (so long ago) with tan lines, it was different and sexy in its way.  You used the wrong prepositions of being "out" and never being "in".  The correct preposition was that I just did not get the chance to get "around" to see you "along" with a few others.  You could say that my timing was "off".

I also missed out on AZ CAndy, Brook, repeat visit to Victoria and JK, Alicia from TLC, Heather from Mystiques, and about 5 others.  Would never say they were not in, just timing was off.

Thanks for the hug!