For a few years now I have been reading and contributing to this discussion board. I am not moderated and enjoy the status that non moderation brings. I think I earned the status of not being moderated by adhering to the rules and regulations set forth on the top of each discussion board page. In all the time that I have been reading and contributing here I have never seen such a rapid descent in the tone and attitudes of the people here. Those posting under alias are throwing mud and slandering others with out the common decency to say who they are, yet they want to share their negative and abusive opinions with the readers and contributors of this board. The sophomoric behavior and vile undertones are conducive to nothing but more mud slinging and hate. I have been lucky enough (so far) to avoid being bashed, flamed or speared by those who have only one agenda to annoy, harass and degrade. I am sure my time will come. I am compelled once again to share my distain and disgust at the way we are allowing our board to become littered with waste and degradation. It is a slippery slope we are treading on here. When we jump to defend our honor or the honor of our friends, clients, associates or partners we may be blinded by the rage that these despicable naysayers have stirred up. When they shoot arrows we want to retaliate with flaming poison darts. It is only human nature. But what if we took a moment to sit back and evaluate what these egregious egotists have written and respond not in like kind, but in another way. Throwing deplorable comments back and forth does nothing for the argument but lower its class.
There will always be cliques. There will always be those who are the top providers, the top agencies, the most loved, the most requested and the in crowd.
There isn’t enough room inside the inner circle for everyone. And there are some of us who don’t want to be or aren’t concerned with being there. Petty jealousies and chips on your shoulder should be kept to yourself. If you have a legitimate gripe with someone on the board, there are many ways to contact them and work out your differences even if it means that you just respect the fact that not everyone likes everyone. We will always have shills and those who feel compelled to post about the greatness of this provider or agency. Fantastic go right ahead, but we don’t need to reply to each of these posts with our difference of opinion. If we let the threads sit barren to our attention eventually they will get the idea that, that’s what the reviews section is for and eventually use it. I don’t like to see anyone get bashed publicly whether provider, client or agency. There are more humane ways of dealing with problems then reducing our discussion board to grade school bullying tactics. There are more than enough clients, providers and agencies to go around. If you don’t like mature women, fat women, blonde women, skinny women, etc… then find what you do like and go for it. No need to make heinous comments about those you don’t like. In my opinion I don’t think we really care what you think about a particular provider or agency, unless they are a cash and dash, rip off, liar or scam artist.
If you think someone posts too much or don’t agree with their threads, comments, then don’t read their posts, it is that simple. When your ego has exceeded the normal limits of common sense and you think that everything you say must be taken as gospel on a multitude of topics then it is time to step away from the keyboard and reevaluate your personal time. This board is made up of opinions and personal conjecture. It is all relative to your personal experience. Care to share it, then please do, but leave the back biting, back stabbing, hiding behind alias’s and mean spirited drivel to yourself. You may never be the top Dog or Kitty here, deal with it, get over it and move on. Sometimes being satisfied with yourself means that you don’t need to seek approval from others or need to knock others down so that you feel tall. Respect for each other should be first and formost here and the lack of it lately simply makes me feel sorry for those who can not accept that the negative and nasty posts are unwanted, unwarranted and unwelcome.
Now that’s my opinion do with it what you will.
Respectfully Yours,
Malissa
