Maybe I'm missing something here.  This site is called "The Erotic Review."  Not "The Cute Joke Chronicles," nor "The Baseball/Basketball Board," but "The Erotic Review."  My assumption is that's where I can go when I'd like to share reviews and read reviews from other hobbyists.  Is this so wrong?  Am I cruel and insensitive?  I've given reviews ranging from 10 down to 3, with no apologies.  I've tried to do my homework BEFORE seeing a provider, to try and avoid getting into a situation that will be disappointing, based upon both photos on websites  and the reviews of other hobbyists, but, I also realize it's a YMMV thing, and I can't always predict what's going to happen behind closed doors.  But, I digress.
What I am really posting about is the long thread  started by "Chilopsis," who apparently is new to hobbying.  He asked about permission to review here, if he was disappointed.  WHY DOES HE NEED PERMISSION TO REVIEW HERE?  This is called "The Erotic Review," and is ostensibly a review board of HOBBYISTS sharing their experiences and opinions (good, bad, or indifferent) with OTHER HOBBYISTS.
Is there anything wrong with posting nice Birthday greetings to a member of the community?  Absolutely not!  To me, that's a nice, human touch.
But, why should a hobbyist have to ask for permission of others to post a review on a review board?  To me, that is absurd!  And, having people weigh in about it, pro and con, seems equally ridiculous!  People, please pay attention:  It's just someone's OPINION, and YMMV--we all should know that!
I look at a couple of other T.E.R. Boards, and tis Phoenix Board has a totally differnt tone.  In the other cities I've seen, it appears that it is primarily a HOBBYIST board, and a lot of opinions are offered and discussed.  This board seems more provider-oriented, for better or worse, with much, much more self-promotion by the providers than in other cities (wink).  I'm not saying that's good or bad, just different from the type of commentary I've seen on other boards.
But, please, let's try and keep in mind that the site is "The Erotic Review," and no one needs any permission to put up honest reviews about providers here.  
And, I'll conclude with a Happy Birthday wish to a feisty Canadian, a real Red Wings fan, whom I've known longer than most, if not all, who are here.  I found irony in the fact that the Wings clinched the best record for the 2005-06 season on her birthday.  It's some laughs and times with her that were quite enjoyable for me when things were a lot different on the local scene back in the summer and fall of 2004.

be taken with the intent of their message.  After all they are all fiction and never happened, just a illusion of ones imagination.  Of course he should post his review....good, bad, or indifferent.  

The majority of reviews on this site are usually very good.  Every once in a while someone has a not to good experience.  That gets posted on the provider but if the provider has a lot of reviews most hobbyist can assertain what may or may not have happened...thus the "connection" or "YMMV" syndrome.  

Most "hobbyist" don't post on the board for fear of being "attacked" by one party or another.  They rather choose to be lurkers and choose who they wish to see based on what they read and gain from what is written in the review.  Without reviews hobbyist cannot make informed decisions about who they feel fits what they are looking for.

So as Mike Meyers says "Party on Garth" and keep the reviews coming.

I can see where Jeffery  and Loverboy is coming from is that we hobbyist should be more proactive in discussion and and write more reviews so we all fellow bretherns can be more informed in our pooning choices. Party on...

Represent opinion of the experience and should be treated as such. Keep them fair and consistent for the good of the ladies and the gents. Anyone  can have an off day and that can be accounted for in the narrative.  It is a YMMV world but  consistent repeated good reviews sure helps.
And after all they are  fictional anyways

Can I hear an AMEN....

I agree totally with you Jefrrey.  How we write our reviews are in the eye of the beholder. The phrase YMMV will ALWAYS apply. I haev seen many times where I get better service or had a better time than others. does that mean the provider is not consistant. Not at all.

Keep in mind she has good and bad days just like us. She may not always bring her "A" game.  That is why we need to due our due diligence BEFORE seeing the lady and take ALL of her reviews in consideration.  After all...what are we trying to accomplish here?

We are trying to find a lady that is drop dead gorgeous that will rock our world and then some at a fair rate.

Hobby on brothers!

The name says it all, "The Erotic Review". A place to come to post & read reviews of encounters with providers. It is a great channel to facilitate the flow of information (good or bad, positive or negative). There should be no question about could I or should I post a review. Hobbyists need to post. Hobbyists need to communicate. This flow of info helps all parties involved. Hobbyists can make educated decisions and Providers can pick up on the likes and dislikes of their clients. It's a good thing.

this board is to provide a "hobbiest" with accurate timely information that will help him (or her) to make a good decision on where to spend dollars. I'm constsantly amazed at how easily some providers who post here trash both other providers and any hobbiest who dares to look at the economics or objectivity of the business. The bottom line is simple...

The hobbiest controls the flow of money and so controls the business. All who posted above were here long ago.....and will be here long after the current crop of gals has moved on.

So, be nice and tactiful when possible....but not at the expense of objectivity and honesty....

Having read JEFFERY's ranting I find I could'nt disagree more. I think no one should be discouraged from speaking their mind on what ever subject they would like. There are some I am not interested in and I skip them. I am thrilled that this is not a primarilly hobbiest board, I get great insite into the personnalitys of the ladies from thier notes on the board. I have seen some simply because I enjoyed what they had to say in this venue. I would not change this board in any way.

As Loverbody said, some people - and at times this includes me; simply lurk and do not always express their thoughts. Expressing negative thoughts just isn't my style - but of late.... when I've felt an urge to chime in; I've self-censored out of concern for starting a board-war.

This is a hobbiest board, created by a hobbiest for hobbiests. I do appreciate the ladies presence here, for every time a lady posts - it helps ME make a slightly more informed decision on wether to ask the lady for a visit or not. To tell you the truth, of late, the expression of insecurities, constant posting and group groping, telling a person to not post a review out of concern for hurting a ladies feelings, saying that a review that critiques a ladies presentation is degrading, well.... I think things are getting a little out of sorts. And over the last few days, I've added lots of information nuggets to aid me in the future.

With that said, posting a negative review (or not "stellar" - an overused word of late) and expressing themselves in a manner that is clearly intended to hurt, well, that is wrong. But, the reviews are there to share stories and opinions. How many people self-censored a review out of concern for retribution or hurting a persons feelings? To me, being an overly analytical person, that is a valid question. If too many people self censored- then the "stellar" track record portrayed by the reviews is not much more than cherry picked samples. Yes, I don't post reviews, so I'm sure people will use that as a basis for critiquing ME on this post....

But, that leads into another festering wound. We are supposed to be adults (see the over 18 warnings someplace on TER?), critique my thoughts and my opinions - those are fair game when I present them in a public forum. Don't critique the PERSON bringing them. Of course, I'm using msyelf as the analogy here - but hopefully people are smart enough to infer the generalization.

I don't have an issue with birthday salutes to a community member (regardless of their chromosome configuration), public acknoweldgements of an enjoyed session, or general hobby related banter. But, when non hobby related posts start dominating the discussion; well, sifting thru the information to find that proverbial needle becomes even more difficult. When it becomes too difficult, the board becomes useless.

And quite honestly, a useless board is of little value to the hobbiest and as a marketing tool.

They have medication for your hyper activity level.  You may want to check it out.  It will lower your blood pressure and help you enjoy life.  Some people ask permission to go to the bath room.  That does seem rather stupid as I have never heard any one asking same being turned down.  Perhaps it is just the actions of someone trying to be polite?  think about it

Why inject a peronsal attack in a rebut to somebody expressing an opinion?

Uncool.


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the alias's to come out of the woodwork.  Every poster on this thread uses his main and real handle.  Now here you come to flame with a alias.  You can disagree but why not do it with your real handle?

Break out the aliases and watch the flames fly!  If your gonna throw flames at my boy Jeffrey, you gonna have to go thru me first!!  Your just a Frigin Chicken dog w/ the alias!!

he also said that he thought his experience was not the provider's fault.  He isn't hesitant about posting reviews in general, but posted a very specific question about whether he should review the lady UNDER THOSE STATED CIRCUMSTANCES.

In his post, he stated, "The disappointment is mine and not a result of the provider."  That comment did not appear in his review, which will live long after the discussion thread goes away.  So will the ratings, which apparently he did not adjust to reflect that his experience was not the result of the provider.  Is that fair to omit?

My criticism of him posting the review was because of his initial implied acknowledgement that perhaps his review would not be objective.  I think it's unfortunate that he didn't follow his initial instincts in this particular case.

When a message is posted using an alias, there will be no envelope next to the name.

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Sorry you took offense to my comments.  The title should have been when is not a flame viewed as a flame.  Also, my name is my name.  Please back down from the insults.  That happened to be my first post here.  This one is my second.  I take your charge of using an alias as an insult.  Or is that a flame?  hmmm.

same response to you.  was not an alias.  your assumption was wild and quite frankly left much egg on your face. Should I expect an apology?  doubtful.

Plenty of gentlemen on this board are as much into the hobby as you without posting reviews (take your friend SharpDelta, for example).  The fact is, several people jumped on this guy under the assumption that he was using an alias, and now that it turns out he wasn't, it isn't right to grasp for another criticism like this.  Reviewing does not equal hobbying, and you know it.