Is it only to let a provider know that he is not LE? If a provider ask for more info like is he a  nice guy or what does he look like do you as a provider want details? I also wonder about when one of your clients ask about seeing a provider that you know or have heard about and you feel it might not be in their best interest to see her should you ever speak up or just let them find out for themselves or would it be okay to recommend a provider that you know he would be more inclined to connect with? I am NOT talking about when a provider is trying to get a client to see her instead of giving the reference that is  very wrong in my opinion and I know that does happen especially when business is slow. Yes we providers have our own small circles but I refere based on what I feel might be in the best interest of that gentlemen even if that provider is not someone I know but have followed her reviews and comment on the boards and feedback from clients that have seen her....Victoria

Thanks Danny I have never been on that board before and will check it out, but I was also interested in how the hobbiest felt about this as several have been leary of asking a provider for a reference thinking she might be upset if he wants to see someone else or will out right refuse to do so.....

When asking a provider for a reference on a gent, I always give a little info in as much as that he is a gent, nice, fun...little things, but Vic is's better than a two word reply "he's OK".
That's what I have gotten on a few occasions, as I remember from you.

The couple of phone calls I've gotten from you, you actually wanted more detail as you're more particular and I've always done that for you.

As for soliciting clients, not that's not right...he'll call if he wants....I have actually done that one time, but I've had to hots for him for a long time and we always are seductive with each other at the parties..He'll know who I'm taking about.

it's OK to respond to a ISO post.

When a client asks me about someone he wants to see and I know she's a good provider I say go for it...Jordan, Donna, Misty...to name a few gals have been very sweet and have referred clients to me as I do often....I think that's wonderful.

I have only seen one client that I would never refer or give a good reference to and most of the ladies know who I'm talking about! It wasn't cause he was mean, but hygiene was awful!!!

Ter

I wonder too, how many providers get "upset" if they get a call regarding one of their clients.  I always felt strange having to give a reference, and then have that referenced check not knowing how the girl would take it. I was seeing only one  provider for about a year, and then one day I ventured off.  The new girl asked for a reference I gave it, and enjoyed my session with the new girl, then the next day I get a text "is everything all right" from the girl.

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is a great question. I've wondered what a provider might feel if I used her as a ref to see someone else and I've felt guilty in those situations but I quickly realized that it isn't like I am the only hobbyiest she is seeing.

It is a hobby and a collection of experiences, not a collection in itself and some experiences have been far better than others and those were the ones I repeated.  Any hobbiest worried about hurting the provider's feelings about using her as a ref has either set the wrong expectations for her or set the wrong expectations for himself.

This isn't eharmony.

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i'm not expecting my clients to be faithful to me.
i'd rather the cheating blanks come to me for a recommendation so i can make sure they are safe and happy. any girl who gets her feelings hurt over this is in the wrong business as it should be considered a compliment when a client trusts your judgement enough to ask you for a recommendation.  

as far as refences go,
depends on how well i know the other provider. if i dont know her, i will just say yes i know him, he's a nice guy. if its one of My Gurls, i'm using a multi-tiered rating system complete with checklist and giving up all the juicy details,  but with a ymmv warning attached of course.  

victoria, tsk tsk
why would the men care about the information that is exchanged about them between providers.
silly wabbit postin on the wong bored.

i saw we shoot her and be done with this flagrant disregard of proper board procedure.

I am really confused now, how do you know that several gents are leary? I have never come across anyone that has refused a reference...and I am asked from all over the US.

Secondly..I think most all of us know that hobbyist are going see more than one provider...most post here all the time regarding the list they have made up and it's obvious from the reviews.

again I'm confused....sounds like you know more that what you're saying here.

I Think it's terrible if a provider refuses to give references, I think if this was happening as much as you make it sound, wouldn't the hobbyist be complaining about it??//just my thoughts to your very vague post!

her for a year....I don't think she was upset, she felt that she was exclusive...had you maybe  emailed her and asked if you could use her as a reference she would have not been taken back as to the reference check...she may have thought she had done something wrong.

Just curious do you still see them both????

I know feel the same and respond the same.....it's all good!!!!

As far as I know we all play nice and we share well!

I have never posted under MystiqueUSA and never will. I have been danordanny for many more years than MystiqueUSA has been around. Dont really know why it would matter to you but I find it is best to have only one personality post under MystiqueUSA and that person is not me.
I am DanOrDanny dandanny and maybe another kind of dan, i dont really remember but i probly date back to the beginning of TER.
I have nothing to hide friend, When I post I represent myself and nothing but. Hope this explains my use of my only handle. Cheers, Dan

Here I go again being a white knight.

I've been in this business long enough in Phoenix to encounter such instances. Thank goodness it's been only a few, but there are those few providers who feel threatened (call it jeolousy) when you ask for a reference. I think it's ridiculous, because these gentlemen are not our boyfriends. They pay to have fun with many women and for those who continue to see me as an ATF: I am very grateful to those men.

What is disturbing to me is when a provider doesn't respond to a reference request. That's placing me in danger and perhaps others. I don't care who the provider is, I will always give a reference and do so without hesitation. In fact, I've recommended other ladies to my gentlemen friends.

Hugs,
Ciara