so what is the proper etiquette or waiting period....If you send an email to a provider with all your information, references, and stating anytime this week is great for a date, at what point after 8 days do you ......(what next)

- like send another email
- preferred method is email not call she says
- say "NEXT"! and move onto another provider
- be patient and give more time

just curious to see what some of the answers will be because all I see on ads and websites is "superb", "impeccable" "best" "like no other" etc etc etc.  I am curious to see who sends an educational reply and those who send an inflamatory reply!

I think I would try to start out with a smaller window, but ymmv. But if after 8 days nothing back from her I would move on to the next lady on my list. And I know there may be a reason she doesn't answer, and I can always come back to her on my list, but 8 days????? Makes me go hmmmmnnn

I usually leave the email, like you do, and after 5 days, start making alternate plans.  If the provider has other things going on, cool, she'll get back to me when she wants.  I want to give the next provider as much time as possible, so I feel 2 days notice is best.  If the first gets back to me on day 6 or 7, i'll let them know that i've made other plans, since i didn't get a heads up.  However, will be happy to book with her in the future, soon, since I'm now prescreened.  Most of the providers that get my repeat business and extra tips, earn it because of quick replies to email/texts, and professional scheduling, with few "oops" mistakes.  And they deserve it.  They make me happy, I make them happy.  Make sense?

E-mail does not always get through just last week a client sent me 3 and I never recieved any, he then called and as I was on the phone he tried again just to check and for whatever reason  his are not getting through ....that is why  I prefer an old fashion  phone call .....some providers do not list a phone  so in that case try several other options  like send her a pm {hopefully see has VIP} or do a quick shout out to her  right here on the board  that you are trying to reach her ....8 days? Well if she is that busy or distracted  maybe there might be a better choice for you and maybe at a later date you can revisit her site and try again another option pm  the last reviewer and ask if she was easy to reach.....my biggest  pet peeve when calling anyone is their mail-box is full that tells me alot

I find it interesting that providers advertise and then don't respond to emails.

As for me, if I don't hear back within 24 hours I'm on to the next.  A great customer experience in advance of a sessions tends to correlate with a great experience in person.

The truth is there are many excellent providers to choose from in Phx.

8 days.....are you kidding me?? That is unexceptable. My life is crazy busy right now with sports so I use an auto reply and even when I'm waiting on providers for references I will send an email to the hobbyist stating I have not forgot about them.

I understand if an email goes to spam that happens in mine if there's not a subject due to my security levels, so I have to check that as well. I personally would forward the same email after 3 days if you still hear nothing after that move on, if she's that rude, lazy or too busy to return an email the session could be the same

If you haven't received some kind of response with in that time frame, then send a second e-mail in case your email was lost, archived, etc. After that, if no response move on or torture yourself and wait longer Either way 8 days is a long time with nothing.

With so many of us using smart phones, etc., there really isn't a reason to wait 8 days without some kind of acknowledgement.

Have fun & play safe!

Summer

My phone is Dumb.....really Dumb

Posted By: SummerSanders

If you haven't received some kind of response with in that time frame, then send a second e-mail in case your email was lost, archived, etc. After that, if no response move on or torture yourself and wait longer Either way 8 days is a long time with nothing.

With so many of us using smart phones, etc., there really isn't a reason to wait 8 days without some kind of acknowledgement.

Have fun & play safe!

Summer

Companions are unique, and so their response times may be representative of their personality and even their business model.

For instance I feel 8 days is way too far out of line. But perhaps its acceptable to others. Methods of contact are different as well. Personally I use only e-mail up to the day before the appointment. Others prefer the phone contact from the start. Nothing wrong with either just a personal preference or what may fit the companions lifestyle best.

I try to answer all email within 8-12 hours, however this is not always possible. With few exceptions all my email gets answered within 24 hours. BUT......if I am booked with a client from Friday to Sunday, you wont get any response. My extended bookings are always out of town and I am not cranking up a laptop while on client time. My smart phone is smart, but its a pain to type on with nails. Call me spoiled, its ok. I check for reference requests from other providers, but the rest of my time is devoted to my client.

I travel for non hobby related business. Its not uncommon for me to catch an afternoon flight, arrive late that night at my destination, and have an all day early morning meeting, then head to airport to get home. All the while I am surrounded by and interacting with non hobby people. In these instances 12-24 hours may go by.

Finally I go out of the country at least once a year, often twice. I post on my website that I am out of the country, but I do not set an auto responder. I have specific reasons for not using a auto responder and again its a personal preference. When out of the country its enough to keep up with my personal life much less the companion life. I know many companions who use auto responders, and I receive them all the time when asking for references. I see nothing wrong with the auto responders.

So even with what I say above, 8 days is pretty out of line. I suggest that you send a second contact after 3 days, then move on. If the companion contacts you later, then you can ask why the delay, and then make your decision based on the way contact goes after you have both connected.

Just an opinion.

I'm constantly amazed at poor provider communication skills, not only given the direct impact of good, prompt communication to their cash flow, but given that sloppy communication can send a very negative message about a providers personality and professionalism. Some providers are quite good of course, but a lot fewer than you'd expect.
Yes, providers have differences about how they'd like to communicate, but don't always think through how to make those preferences work for us hobbyists. I never have a problem if things can't work out, but I absolutely hate wasting a lot of time pursuing a meeting that was never going to happen, and I hate feeling my time was wasted by a girl who couldn't be bother to reply to a voicemail/email/private message
--if you have strong preferences (prefer phone, prefer text) say this clearly in your ads.
--Don't mention any means of contact that you don't check on a very regular basis, and if any doubt, clearly tell people not to contact that way (I don't check email that often, my phone doesn't have texting
--try and make it as clear as possible whether you are generally/regularly available, or your ad is only for a specific window of opportunity. Hobbyists don't always make contact the same day, and its frustrating to get radio silence from someone who posted three ads in the last week
--if you use phone heavily, you must use voicemail (or clearly indicate in ads that you don't have voice mail, and provide an alternate means of contact if you don't immediately pick up). If you have voicemail, have some type of response that confirms we dialed the right number, and never, never let the message box get full.
--if you use email, consider some type of auto-response message so we'll know our message got through. And check the spam folder constantly.
--if you are down with the flu, or have gone to Vegas for three weeks, make sure you have a voicemail message or email auto-response that indicates you might not be responding right away. Websites are good for this type of general availability info, but if you don't have a website, do something to make sure your gentleman callers aren't totally ignored for days and weeks
--Mistakes happen. Things can slip through the cracks. If you suddenly find an eight day old voicemail/email, send a really apologetic reply. The guy's immediate interest may have passed, but the courtesy will be remembered.
--Worse shit can also happen. If your phone gets stolen, or you get kicked out of your apartment, or you are kidnapped by aliens, and you have to disappear for a while without any way to give notice, let regulars and others know once you are back on the grid. "hey, apologies to anyone who tried to contact me in the last couple weeks, but I'm back in town and things are slowly getting back to normal"
--I expect serious screening before any first visit, but I understand that a lot of guys are a bit dense about screening. A brief reminder about screening in ads may help alert the guys who are only partially dense. More detailed explanation of screening requirements on websites or via auto-response emails can be even more helpful. No hobbyist that you'd ever want as a regular will ever take the slighest offense at these reminders.

Depends upon if I am busy & my time is already taken, or not.  On an average maybe 2 days?

where did you come from your just what we need here please stick around PHX  board I cannot write worth adarn or spell LOL and when someone like you comes around and get its right.....it is a wonderful thing!!!!!!!

I might be wrong but I believe that most email providers allow for an automated response for vacations and the like. So if the ladies know that they will be out of town or unable to respond to emails for an extended time it would be nice if they had one. I know one provider who has a gone fishing sign that pops up on her website when she is gone. (Yes it actually says "Gone Fishing"). It is pretty cool when you know she is gone but you can send he an email. At least you know that it may be a while before you get a response from her.

I'd think she should still be able to get back to you within 48hrs ... if not she might need to utilize an assistant.  8 days wow you're patient....after 48hrs i'd try again and give it another 48hrs but after a 2nd attempt you should move on..

but an inappropriate email to me gets ignored.

Email is my preferred form of contact for kink and fetish services, but just because I am a fetish provider doesn't mean email etiquette goes out the window. Over the last couple of weeks I have had some really inappropriate requests, and I just ignore them, just like I do a text or voice mail that gets out of line.

With all of your references, etc. I don't imagine this is what happened in your case. 8 days is wayyy too long to wait, and I agree that if you haven't heard back within 48 hours, it is time to make other arrangements.

K

Totally agree with you on this one