I just had a long email conversation with a provider I never got to meet in person. I had emailed a few times, but we never got together.
I got back in touch yesterday cause I thought I would like to meet. She said she is retired.
She went on with a diatribe on the way she had been repulsed by all the 'uglies' and the 'middle age dicks' she has had in her. I told her it was good she retired if she felt that way, and that I only see ladies who feel good about what they are doing. Then I wished her well.
She thanked me for my well wishes, but assured me that no woman feels good about providing. She said any lady who seems to be enjoying herself is just a good actress.
Do many or most ladies feel this way?
Can the ladies weigh in here? Are these feelings pervasive among providers?

I've talked with a number of providers who have a great attitude about their work and who, in general, genuinely enjoy what they do.  I've also seen this before where a provider who isn't cut out for this line of work and who doesn't enjoy what she does projects her own attitude onto every other provider.  Nothing regarding human feelings is black and white...

My guess, and yes, it's just that...a "guess" is that most provider's share this lady's sentiment.  I also tend to agree that the one's who claim to "love their job" (just look at all the ladies' ads that proclaim this) are overcompensating for the fact that they really hate it.

On what do I base this?  Well, lads, reverse roles for a moment.  Whether you're a young stud, an old dud (like me) or something in between, how would you like to go out and "service" 1 or more middle aged to older horny women every day, bowing to their sexual whims and fantasies?  Yeah, it might initially sound great, but when you go see Ms. Fatty who hasn't showered in a day or 2 or some other such delectable creature, who wants you to DATY...well I'm guessing the magic and fun are gone.

So yeah, I'd have to think that most ladies do feel the same way the one discussed above does.  And ladies, please...no flames.  Maybe you are the one who really does enjoy her work...but I doubt that's the prevailing opinion, and am smart enough to realize you can't very well state that here.

I love my "job" but every once in a while we get mistreated and it makes us dislike this job for a day or so. I imagine this lady had too many bad situations and she burnt out. Thats why iits important to take vacations and limit the # of guest we entertain

that would mean we are all abusers.

one lady did tell me that she enjoys the work.  I heard from another "retired" provider that she misses the sex.  and finally, I have had very heart to heart talks with one dear provider who does this... initially for money, and now, she does it for her own very special reasons...

similar to what I hear from my stripper friends - one cries that she strips - and it hurts my heart to see, and another  knows that she must move on for the career she works so hard to achieve... knowing that she will indeed miss the sexual tension of stripping... no easy answers here... but if someone feels as your friend - about any job, then I would say they should change jobs...

and yea, I guess I am a uglie middle age dude... with an uglie middle age dick... but I am nice to the ladies I see and I do try to be respectful to them.... everyone deserves that.

I look for the post and reviews to try to find the ones that enjoy it- which I think there a lot of-  the ones that don't like it probably aren't going to get into it and give as good as performance-  either by the reviews or their posts here you can usually tell the one's who enjoy it

You won't hear honest answer from providers unless they have already retired, but then they won't borwse this forum.  It's suicidal in the biz to publicize how much they hate providing.

Providers have told me, though, they hate and quit their regular job to go into providing and love it.  The hate part is credible to me, but I am not sure of  the love part.

I agree with whomever said that the provider should screen better...for a client who wouldn't repulse her so...

Every provider gets into this for one reason...and it ain't for the sex! Thats why WE (the clients) are into this hobby!

Dr. Joe.

It's they who're the abusers!

If a woman charges for sex, that's almost like abuse since sex is a gift. I cannot imagine many men even thinking to charge a woman several hundred for sex if she asked.

If they act like they're enjoying sex and your company and tweak your emotions, for money, and the hope you pay more, while they despise you behind your back, that's abuse.

The best way to approach this hobby is realistically and as if they're androids which you find attractive.

To the ladies who this doesn't apply to: it does not apply to you.

Relax.

I just had a visit with a delightful but seasoned lady who told me that she loves what she does and would not give it up even if she moved into a committed relationship.

On the other hand I've experienced a crying jag where another seasoned lady told me she hated all of the men who saw her, and I assumed that meant me.

I suspect that there is a lot of ambivalence about this way of life and the answer you get may depend on the phase of the moon or the state of the local economy.

klewedin

I know a few providers who are very well reviewed and apparently many of you think that they "love" your company.  However, this is a fantasy business.  They generally do not care for you or want to have anything to do with you.  You however pay them far more money than they could make otherwise so they tolerate you.  If you don't believe what I'm saying...try to get them to fuck you for free.

"why do you find the love part hard to believe?

xoxo Sophie "

If I had the reverse role to please women 5 to 6 times a day, including unattractive ones, and still pretend I enjoy it, I am not going to love the work except for the money. Sex is exhuasting and involuntary sex is even more draining.

A few times I made the mistake in seeing providers who turned out to be unattractive to me, I couldn't spend the full hour and couldn't wait to get out as every extra minute with her is suffering to me.

No If you were abusers you would not look for ladies that suit you on a level  other then looks and price. That’s is what your reviews are for. More then likely the ladies that you have written good reviews for like what they do. With that said  you can’t please everyone  all the time As a HD in the civi world I  have had same issue I hate  them all….

Now that’s not really true but you do get tired of doing the same thing over and over again and when you are tired even if every tenth client is a jack ass and 9 are great some days  there all jack assess. I screen well and try to avoid miss matches as much as possible it makes me like my job that much more  I don’t see any of my clients as abusers. Just a thought Livie.

Sure all of us get into this for the $, but after meeting great and of course not so great guys, you can't help but to fall in love with the personalities you meet on a regualr basis.  No 2 guys are alike, or have the same life story.  Some guys know how to please you back and others look for your guidance in learning to please!  I could care less how a person looks outside as long as they treat me with respect, are clean with good hygene, and doesn't try to take advantage of me in anyway.  

This business is a lifestyle for some of us ladies.  We don't feel bad when we look at ourselves in the mirror, in fact we feel pretty damn good about ourselves, and enjoy what we do.  We all have bad days, but if a young lady has an outlook like that, she is no good anyway!

I would agree with this about 90%.  Another 5% probably enjoy it unless the dude is a pig and the last 5% are porno sex adicts.

That's a great attitude, Jade, and not unlike what I have heard from a number of providers.  In fact I only see providers who seem happy with themselves and what they do.  It's not as rare as people seem to think.

I've enjoyed the Philly area and have a few friends who are hobbyist who call Philly and the surrounding area home- Sorry but my thoughts are:  If she didn't enjoy the work or the demands associated with it then.... it is good she is now retired-

I said early on: when I stopped enjoying the biz I would get out..... as a few know, I still enjoy being a provider on select occasions. I just  don't feel I would continue to meet with men that I didn't enjoy my time with..... after all, the world is too big of a place to hang around where you aren't enjoying yourself.  So, I guess in answer to your pondering- no, the providers that I associate with as well as myself are not repulsed by who they spend time with or what they do. Like myself, they enjoy the excitement and fun that is associated with being a provider.   kisses ~T